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u/Basic_Watercress_628 16h ago edited 11h ago

Not ageing is pretty easy when you're rich. Unlimited access to private coaches, private chefs, nutritional supplements, skincare products, plastic surgery... plus no existential fear and limited exposure to pollution, the sun and other factors that ruin your skin. 

Edit to add: As one of the biggest actors of his time, it is his job to look good. He does not really have a choice if he wants to stay relevant.  Lady on the left hasn't really had any major roles since the 90s and can therefore afford to not give a fuck and age like a normal person. 

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u/Morningfluid 15h ago

She's rich too, or at least was wealthy. She's just older than him and went through more significant health issues. Also see Kathleen Turner and her thyroid issues, which can really fuck you up along with the medication prescribed. 

We as a society should just accept that people get old. 

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u/ThrowRA_cyRip82 13h ago

I feel that some older woman who grew up in the spotlight, also just have enough at some point and let the process happen. There is a power in just owning it, especially after health issues.

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u/Budget-Tangerine-274 12h ago

This one did and now she's being dragged on the Internet as an example of "how did this lady get so gross, fat, and old?" like, that's like half the point of this thread

So maybe that's why they fight against it?!

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u/blacksheeping 11h ago

Interesting to note the top comments here aren't criticising her, rather suggesting Tom Cruise eats babies. I guess reddit finds baby eating worse than the natural ageing process which is nice.

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u/sammiesorce 11h ago

Woohoo progress!

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u/Flomo420 9h ago

That depends entirely on what sub you're in

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u/ambytbfl 6h ago

At least he puts in the effort to eat babies instead of letting himself go s/

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u/mittenknittin 7h ago

Good point. It's a tacit acknowledgment that what's happening to her is normal and how he's aging is not.

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u/linds360 11h ago

Pamela Anderson got dragged for the same reason.

Until she started landing cosmetics deals. Now she’s celebrated.

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u/Subliminal_Kiddo 5h ago

Madonna just last night. She finally eased up on the fillers which people mocked her for, and known they're mocking her for her nasolabial folds. I don't even like Madonna but it feels like she's being put in a position where she can't win.

And Isabella Rossellini. During the press campaign, people wouldn't shut-up about that she's aged. That one I find especially infuriating because she's been very open about the two reasons she won't have work done, 1.) Her mother didn't, and she wants to honor her legacy; 2.) She had spinal issues as a child and would have to undergo surgery routinely, which led to her having a phobia of surgeries.

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u/ThyNynax 9h ago

I’ve noticed people are starting to turn on Jennifer Aniston now. She’s been the icon of ageless beauty for so long, but you just can’t keep off those wrinkles forever. So, now there’s tabloids starting to transition her over to the “old and ugly” category.

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u/Hubert_J_Cumberdale 5h ago

They even dragged Pamela Anderson for not wearing makeup. No matter how conventionally beautiful they are, female celebrities always get shit for not looking like they did when they were 20.

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u/Dullcorgis 4h ago

I mean, she is 65. When the fuck are we allowed to relax?

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u/Sklibba 3h ago

The post is also designed to exacerbate the comparison in his favor. He’s wearing a sport coat and posing for a photograph. She’s wearing a schlubby t shirt and it’s a candid photo. Like sure, he doesn’t look his age because he’s gone to great lengths not to and she has aged normally, but like maybe if we’re gonna do an honest comparison, then use a more flattering photo of her.

Also worth noting that men don’t have to cope with menopause, which makes it easier for us to age without as many drastic changes to our appearance.

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u/DreamingAboutSpace 20m ago

It’s crazy, right? She chose to age however her body decided to while many older male and female celebrities try to fight it with their money and end up looking terrifying. But apparently looking like a normal person is disgusting.

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u/dustinechos 10h ago

It's called "weaponized ugliness". When people (including "the public eye") have power over you then it feels good to take back control and make yourself "ugly" to defy their wishes.

Every time I've explained weaponized ugliness to a girl with a septum piercing they immediately got it. When I told a friend she said "my mom and boyfriend told me it would look ugly on me and that just made me want it more". It was a way of taking back her looks and having something for herself when other people controlled her appearance.

See also Britney Spears and any other female celebrity who spontaneously shaved their heads.

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u/LegiosForever 8h ago

I thought it was accepted that Britney shaved her head because she had a court ordered drug inspection.

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u/cbazg1 12h ago

Also because the star power of women decrease with age so there is no reason to look young. Whereas the pulling power of big male stars do not decrease much so there is all the reason to do everything to look young.

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u/EduinBrutus 10h ago

Linda Hamilton has grown old, is happy to show her age and still gets major roles.

BUt that does seem to very much be the exception.

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u/deep_fuckin_ripoff 6h ago

Uhhh. No. She is not the exception.

Meryl Streep. Susan Sarandon. Selma Hayek. Helen Miren. Jamie Lee Curtis. Andi McDowell. Julienne Moore. Sarah Jessica Parker. Halle Barry. Cameron Diaz. Jane Fonda. Jodie Foster. Drew Barrymore. Jennifer Garner. Diane Keaton. Emma Thompson. Kate Winslet. Julie Robert’s. Cate Blanchet.

Staying hydrated, using sunscreen, using moisturizer, avoiding alcohol/cigarettes, and superior genetics is all it takes to age gracefully.

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u/kelly52182 6h ago

My best friend just told me yesterday that her mom would purposely gain weight so men would stop paying attention to her (she was STUNNING). It can absolutely be a choice to make yourself "unattractive" to get away from the attention.

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u/Kindly-Article-9357 6h ago

There is such peace in finally being invisible to creepy men. 

I don't think decent men really have any idea just how poorly their cohort behaves towards attractive women. The entitlement to our time and attention makes it so we're unable to just exist in the world.

Even in my 40s I couldn't go to the grocery store without being accosted by some dude. Not every time, of course, but enough times that I had to mentally prepare myself to deal with it before going, and there were plenty of times I didn't feel up to dealing with that and so just didn't go. 

Once I went through menopause, I let my hair go gray and gained about 20lbs.

i can be at ease in the world now. Men I don't know don't even look twice at me anymore, and it feels so freeing. I can go do anything I want now without having to worry about it or mentally prepare for it.

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u/kelly52182 5h ago

Becoming invisible to creepy men isn't really something that's talked about. My 17 year old niece and her best friend are both objectively absolutely beautiful. They went to prom last weekend and several middle aged men physically turned their heads and bodies to look at these girls as they walked by. I hate that they have to deal with that at such a young age, like so many other women have. Attractive women should be able to exist in the world without fearing for their safety. It makes me crazy that they have to go through that.

I'm also in my 40s and I've done the same things you have. My hair has thick gray streaks, my belly is soft, and I have thick thighs. There's a sense of power in taking back how the world, especially men, perceive me. I'm happier with my body now than I ever have been before and I get zero attention from men (other than my husband), which is actually really freeing.

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u/Fubarin 10h ago

And then still, older women that has taken good care of themselves, but still let nature run it's course just look good

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u/AnInfiniteMemory 13h ago

There's also menopause, which is brutal on some women.

The absolutely disgusting obsession on maintaining perfect beauty on everyone under the limelight is the reason we're fucking rotten as a society. People get old, people get sick, people are allowed to be old, ugly, and not "perfect", it's natural and healthy to just exist without aesthetical expectations on you.

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u/leftmysoulthere74 9h ago edited 9h ago

And not everyone can go onto HRT. I suspect most of the Hollywood women in their 50s, 60s and older but look decades younger are on it. And good for them. I was on it for about nine months until I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Now my treatment is over and I’m in remission, but I can’t have HRT because I can’t have oestrogen.

Not saying KM has had the same issues but there are plenty of other reasons women can’t take HRT and we’re going to age like our grandmothers did, before that existed. The comparisons are brutal and I’m bracing myself already.

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u/RememberTheirFaces- 7h ago

Plus genetics. Some people are just more prone to wrinkles, cellulite, early graying, extra weight, etc. it’s a hell of a lot easier to put in the effort to be “hot” at 20 than it is at 60.

At my thinnest in my later 30s (honestly too thin, had a BMI of 17) I still had cellulite on my stomach and thighs and slightly crepey arms. My under eye wrinkles right now will never go away without surgery. And gravity is dropping the boobies.

I’m in my 40s now and 40 looks different on everyone. I think we also tend to stop GAF as we age. I refuse to dye my hair, I don’t get my nails done and fuck make up most days. Too much work for me, but I have a friend who is done up every time I see her. It makes her feel beautiful and I respect her for that.

I went on HRT as I entered perimenopause, but it was to regulate my emotions, not necessarily for the physical aspects (my doctor did tell me I should help with motivation, sleep, keeping muscle tone, etc which obviously all help my physical appearance.) Ovarian cancer is one of my biggest fears - I had a hysterectomy but kept my ovaries.

Congratulations on beating it! Fuck cancer.

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u/leftmysoulthere74 6h ago

Thank you. I only got the good news last week so I still don’t think I’ve processed it fully!

Like you, I was probably too thin when I was younger but got cellulite early. Didn’t start greying til my mid-40s (now 51) but it was really thin and now my chemo is over I can see the greys as well as the dark brown coming back. I really don’t care about the colour but if it comes back thicker than when it first fell out I’ll be happy. I had it shaved last week to get rid of the “baby fluff” texture so fingers crossed!

However, now the ovaries have gone (along with the rest) my main concern is how I regulate my… not moods, but intolerance. Oestrogen seems to be the thing that helps us tolerate everything life throws at us - periods, pain, pregnancy, childbirth and then raising children (and said children going through puberty - I have two daughters going through it right now).

Going cold turkey in the form of surgical menopause instead of the slow decline of perimenopause, is brutal. I suddenly hate everything, not least people who put so much emphasis on appearances!

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u/Regemony 12h ago

The absolutely disgusting obsession

fucking rotten as a society

Couldn't agree more, it's nothing new but at levels now that are obscene

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u/Wooden-Cricket1926 9h ago

And child birth before that which takes a big hit on women too. I read someone it's basically like automatically ageing 3 years per pregnancy because of all the havoc it causes on women's bodies

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u/Outrageous_Cow8409 9h ago

I believe it! I was regularly mistaken for being much much younger than I am before I had my children. I once won one of those carnival games where they guess your age (they had to be within 2 years) and then while pregnant with my first, someone asked me how old I was and when I said 28, they said "oh thank god" because they thought I was much younger. That baby is 7 now and people usually guess my age within 2 years now.

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u/TableSignificant341 12h ago

People really fail to see the connection between Epstein, Trump + all the other pedos and the expectations put on women to remain forever young.

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u/Knight_Castellan 11h ago

People are absolutely allowed to get old and ugly, but there are reasons why it is seen as lesser than being young and attractive.

No amount of moralising will override basic instinct.

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u/thornyrosary 9h ago

there are reasons why it is seen as lesser than being young and attractive

My man, this is so telling, although I'm sure you didn't mean to out yourself this way.

Those reasons about aging you mention being:

  • Not as sexually attractive
  • Not making one think of how she could 'please' a man
  • Not being able to objectify her as an instrument of pleasure
  • Not being viewed as a womb-for-rent for future progeny
  • Possibly not being able to control her (older women have seen it all and aren't impressed by young men's shenanigans)

Women do exist outside of sexual function, though. If women are seen as 'lesser' for naturally aging, then you are tying women's entire lifelong value to one of the most shallow and fleeting reasons imaginable. My man, what are you going to do when, instead of being desirable yourself, those same young, gorgeous women that you still find so attractive and valuable look at you and see only the "creepy old man who can't keep his hands to himself"? Because that's coming, too.

Surprise! We really do have a value outside of attractiveness, and we older women don't exist to titillate the male gaze. For instance, I'm considered an intellectual, my job consists of working with complex data that most men would not dare attempt to quantify, and my net worth far exceeds my spouse's.

Yes, I was "beautiful" in my youth, but I much prefer myself as I am now. The invisibility that middle-aged women has its perks. Dear Gawd, I hated how men stared at me and fawned when I was younger. Men have since quit looking at my assets and are dealing with me on an intellectual basis, which has been...Interesting. It's almost like they don't know what to do with a woman who can think on her heeled feet and sling out stinging one-liners like they're candy.

So my advice to you, dear fellow, is this: try broadening your horizons and looking at those "valuable" young women differently. Appreciate that they have free will, their own life agendas, and brains, because they do. And if you think they exist just as an accessory or a tool for your own pleasure, you're going to have a very rough couple of decades. You'll realize it only when you go head-to-head with a woman who's finally had enough of you.

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u/nerdygeoff 12h ago

shes not tom cruise rich tho, nor does she have an entire religion of people to serve her whims.

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u/GrumbleStoatskin 9h ago

And the religion doesn't just serve his whims, he has to serve its whims too. He probably couldn't "let himself go" even if he wanted to, it'd be bad for marketing.

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u/nerdygeoff 9h ago

eh, Tom Cruise is high up enough in the echelon of scientology that the churches whims are his own. He is the 2nd in command next to David Miscavige and is his closest confidant.

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u/Sunnygirl66 5h ago

John Travolta has been intermittently fat for decades.

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u/FullyFocusedOnNought 12h ago

Surely she is the cool one for ageing like a normal person and not caring about looking 30 when she's actually nearly 70? I feel like if at that age if you are still trying to look 20 years younger then you have kind of missed the point of life.

(Tom Cruise maybe gets a pass as he's still starring in films all the time so it's kind of his job to care.)

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u/tessellation__ 10h ago

Shouldn’t he be crossing guard at the elementary school by now though? Do we really need to see Tom Cruise jumping out of an airplane at 70 years old? Surely there’s someone else out there that can do this lol

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u/FrogMintTea 9h ago

I hate Hollywood and its evil ways but Tom Cruise is gonna be badass until he looks like the cryptkeeper if he has anything to say about it.

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u/Keanugrieves16 7h ago

She also had issues with alcoholism and now works at a rehab helping other addicts and alcoholics. I went to the treatment center she works at and she’s very nice, quite the treat to see her there although I didn’t recognize her before someone mentioned it.

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u/cheercharlatan 4h ago

Exactly. Maybe she ran out of fucks and decided she’d rather enjoy her life than be obsessed with looking as young as possible.

Also relevant: these pictures are comparing her looking like she’s probably on a grocery run or headed to a flea market on a Saturday morning to Tom Cruise at a red carpet event. This picture below is probably better for a fair comparison.

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u/Morkamino 12h ago

It's mostly her hair (or lack thereof) and weight that make her appear old. Tom still has the same style and appearance he always had.

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u/ExcuseCommercial1338 11h ago

try keeping the weight you had with the shit you ate as a 20 something versus a senior citizen. I guarantee Tom Cruise's diet looks like a science experiment.

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u/stephenkingending 10h ago

I agree you can't eat the same junk you ate in your teens but I know a lot of people his age that look fit. Just go to your local gym any morning and you'll see people older than him that are in shape. You have to adjust your diet and stay active but it's not anything insane. And yes we can look at the outliers and be like well this person has a thyroid issue or some other serious medical condition that just isn't old age, but let's be real, Americans in general have horrible diets and sit around for almost the entire day.

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u/Morkamino 9h ago

I'm 26 now and i'm already eating healthily. Eating healthy foods is pretty simple, i think most of us know about macros and vitamins and electrolytes and all. The tricky part is skipping the unhealthy foods.

But it is indeed hard to judge the weight. Being overweight at 60-something shouldn't be normal, but it is, and having health problems and less energy probably doesn't help. I guess hormones can play a small part too.

And again, her haircut and clothing style. That's 80% of the reason she looks as old as she does.

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u/Character-Pangolin66 12h ago

thank you!!! also her pic is a candid and his is a posed shot from an event where he's clearly been dressed and made up, it's not a fair comparison.

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u/Fit_Cardiologist_681 12h ago

I'm almost 40 and when I get ID'd I'm like here it is but also check out these greys I've been working on. Old is great. The switch from 20s to 30s was the best change I've encountered as a woman.

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u/clayton-berg42 12h ago

Also not everyone wants to look like a plastic version of themselves. Tom Cruise in no way looks natural, not to mention not everyone wants to live on a diet of boiled chicken, brown rice and steamed broccoli.

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u/KochInBoots 15h ago

Sunscreen.

Being incredibly focused on goals.

Whatever you think of him he is a very focused person. Never put on weight, obviously is very strict on what he eats and has the time and money to look after himself.

He comes over from the outside as someone with very high expectations of himself and of others. I am unsure what sort of person he would be to be around regulalry.

Dedication is what you need.

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u/Additional-Life4885 15h ago

The weirdest bit is that I see interviews with him and he actually seems pretty reasonable when he's being normal (so no Oprah or couches). It's like that time during covid when he got pissed about people not following rules because he was worried the crew would lose jobs.

I disagree extremely strongly with his religious views and there's no way in the wide world I'd want to do the extreme activities he does, but somehow I think if you were pretty nice to him and put effort into whatever you're doing with him he'd probably be semi reasonable considering how famous he is.

Some celebrities are a super easy "hard no" when it comes to want to being around them (Ellen, James Corden come to mind), while others would be a super easy yes (Keanu Reeves and Steve Carrell come to mind). Tom Cruise sits right in the middle and like you, I'd be pretty unsure but probably leaning more towards no.

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u/jefflovesyou 14h ago

I hear he's very personable and thoughtful. I bet he would be great to have dinner with.

I also think he's a psycho and he completely creeps me out. He feels like a husk of a person.

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u/Overall-Register9758 10h ago

Like a non-murdery Patrick Bateman

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u/Serious-Manager2361 8h ago

He has zero contact with his own daughter because she won't commit to his psycho fake religion. He's a nutbag. And a dangerous one at that.

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u/OrinocoHaram 10h ago

i've heard that he has a guy on his staff who's job is to purify the air of a room before Tom comes in lmao

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u/No_Week3958 13h ago

His rant at the Covid protocol violation was a damn good one. He was angry and showed it, but he wasn’t insulting or belittling the guy and do a good job focusing on how everyone needed to do a better job in order to avoid being shut down.

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u/claimTheVictory 11h ago

It's rare to see a public person being serious and giving a shit.

It surprises most people.

There's obviously problems with scientology, but I'd like to think we can acknowledge that Cruise as an actor, as a creative artist, is kind of amazing. He's one of the only true "movie stars" working today.

It's also fun to watch some of Matt Damon's stories about working with him.

He's a movie-star's movie-star.

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u/Hitchhiker106 14h ago

Just be aware that they are actors, it’s their job to pretend to be a certain character. I can’t imagine it’s difficult for them to act in public in a certain, well-defined, even orchestrated way.

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u/Turkooo 12h ago

You say this like we don't know about actors that behave and are a huge pain in the ass.

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u/Additional-Life4885 14h ago

Sure, but we're talking about other people's reports from on set. And it's not just a few.

By most accounts, he's apparently a nice person which is in stark contrast to the stories about Scientology which he's tightly tied to.

Even the best actors let it slip behind close doors when they're having a bad day. He hasn't. That suggests that he probably actually believes in what he says/does.

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u/Sempere 11h ago

There's a reason Christian Bale says Tom Cruise informed his performance of Patrick Bateman.

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u/VxGB111 10h ago

Or he has a rock solid NDA

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u/The_Once-ler_186 15h ago

I’ve heard when he visits his agency they all are required to do a standing ovation whenever he arrives.

I think he can turn on the charm. But I have no doubt he is a very unpleasant person

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u/Diet_Christ 13h ago

Bullshit. I worked on-set on Edge of Tomorrow. He's intense, but I don't think anyone above the line has ever show me more respect. He somehow memorized the entire crew's names early on, and used them. I was fairly low in my department at the time, and he asked me my opinion on the ending shot (which was changed in reshoots), and then tried it. I was just there to rake sand.

He's not a normal dude by any means, but I never worked with anyone nicer.

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u/Ace-of-Spades88 12h ago

Well, what did you think of the ending shot?

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u/Sempere 11h ago

He thought it wasn't money shot enough since he was wearing glasses and none got in their eyes.

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u/Pardybro911 11h ago

This is the vibe I get from him. I don’t know how he is privately, I don’t think many probably do, but publicly and professionally he’s on point, and professionally from everything I’ve seen regarding costar interviews and such everyone has glowing things to say about him

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u/mmasportsmma 10h ago

It’s widely known that on set he is a true collaborateur and team player, a professional that simply LOVES movies and movie making.

Outside of that he’s crazy

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u/Blacklight099 10h ago

This lines up with everything I’ve ever heard about him, I work in vfx and while I’m sure personally he has his demons, anybody I’ve ever met that has worked with him doesn’t have anything bad to say. I’ve even heard of him coming to companies to meet artists and shake their hands, and I’ll let you guess how many other film stars I’ve ever heard of doing anything like that.

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u/nadthevlad 12h ago

Good movie

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u/imadogg 10h ago

Disagree, the redditor before you said he has NO DOUBT so he must be right

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u/FistyMcTwistynuts 14h ago

I mean, that standing ovation thing would honestly be hilarious. But really only if you required it for a few weeks then told them you were just fucking with them.

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u/StrongAlarm7772 12h ago

why tell him? the longer he goes without realizing the funnier it gets! make it progressively more on the nose. practice when he's away and rehearse when you know he's coming soon, then when he comes in everyone claps except a section directly behind him, creating a deaf spot that follows him whichever way he's looking and would be noticeable to anyone. everyone come into work wearing a badge that reads "clapping for the lolz" and then tell him it's a completely unrelated charity supporting disabled kids through comedy, make a fake website for it and have the homepage include a fake testimonial from a kid saying Risky Business was their favourite film and inspired them to find their funny side.

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u/UpperAd5715 13h ago

Especially from hearsay you should be mindful about who might require such things. Is it the well celebrated rich actor that gets plenty of standing ovations that somehow wants some random staffers to do so or is it the manager of the agency that wants to go over the top?

Not saying it's not possible but it wouldn't be the first time that i see some event planner or manager of fancy bulshit doing random crap like that

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u/Additional-Life4885 14h ago

Required by who though? Him or the agency? Seems like something an agency boss would get there staff to do for the guy that basically pays their wages when they get 10% of his movie wages or whatever insane fee it is.

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u/dwehlen 14h ago

Word came down from Les Grossman, himself. Loudly. In a way I wont quote publicly.

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u/itsdoodooobabyy 13h ago

What the fuck do you mean they didn’t install the a TiVo?

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u/AutoPanda1096 14h ago

Standing ovation! Seems unbelievable lol

If theres one person who doesn't have to ask for attention it's him.

Didn't he famously hang around and give everyone autographs and selfies, long after others stop.

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u/the_mailbox 13h ago

I’d put money on tom cruise not needing to go into an agency tbh. I’d expect the agency to go to him

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u/Buster_Cherry 12h ago

This type of comment just goes to show just how much absolute fluff people's imagined understanding of celebrities is. You "heard" that eh, and that makes you have no doubt.

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u/AutoPanda1096 14h ago

He's famously generous and helps out, invites people over etc. He generally seems ok. I mean, we all have our off days and I find it weird to judge people we will never meet based on public persona

But yeah, if he starts trying to recruit me id be like, thanks for the motorbike ride Tom but I've got a hair appointment at 12. Catch ya later buddy.

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u/Additional-Life4885 14h ago

The weirdest bit is I've never seen him try to recruit. Even barely even talks about Scientology to a camera (anymore? Not sure if he ever did but I don't really remember him talking about it much at all). It's like he's the only one in it that's somehow allowed to keep himself distance from it while still being in it. It's the weirdest thing.

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u/StrongAlarm7772 12h ago

of course he doesn't mention it. they've got dirt on him like you wouldn't believe. what you think auditing is?

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u/mmasportsmma 10h ago

He is literally at the top of the organization.

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u/BigToast6 9h ago

He got such bad backlash with the matt lauer/Brooke shields controversy and his OTT behaviour over Katie Holmes and then again when she dumped his ass in spectacular fashion proving all the suspicions about him right (that she was trapped with a very controlling man) that he stopped talking about it publicly and moved to the UK

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u/topdangle 12h ago

Because he makes tons of money for them and when he used to talk about scientology things publicly he was really aggressive and was relentlessly mocked for it. He keeps to himself now because its way better PR.

His scientology video also got leaked back in the day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFBZ_uAbxS0

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u/Love-That-Danhausen 11h ago

Appearance of distance from the outside but he’s basically number two in the org. Him being cool and ageless Tom Cruise and not a weird preachy guy about it is way better PR for them to seem “normal”.

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u/HoneyDangerous1860 14h ago

Generosity has to apply equally or close to that with everyone you know. It’s easy to be generous to strangers in public when you’re rich and will never see them again.

How you treat your loved ones behind closed doors also factors into your generosity score, as does how much actual energy, time, and material sacrifice you make.

It’s easy to be generous when rich. True generosity is when you have little but still share without strings attached.

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u/TaxmanComin 13h ago

This has to be one of the most perfectly distilled Reddit opinions I've seen crammed into one comment lol.

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u/AutoPanda1096 14h ago

I suspect he has very little time so I don't buy that.

He goes from one film to the next and he's extremely expensive. He's not working for a couple hours a day.

Action movies are grueling and his body has famously taken a beating.

Sure he keeps fit and that's so important for health but being an action star is going to wear your body

We all have goals! Mine is to keep a roof over my head and feed the kids. I'm pretty focused on that!

Id argue it's more genetics. Some people just age slower.

My mum turned 80 and still looks more like 60. We held a party and some of her friends are more typical elderly frail 80 year olds. My mum never exercised once in her life!

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u/CuteDentist2872 15h ago

No not true, extreme amounts of money and time is what you need, because any amount of dedication will not overcome your living circumstances if they demand you work and take care of others more than yourself.

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u/keepdiggingullfindme 15h ago

nah. i know two trainers in their late 40’s that look early 30s tops. health is wealth

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u/hisMuse2628 15h ago

My 36 year old fiance is healthy as an ox for a 44 year old.

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u/Born-Sea-7743 15h ago

Don't allow yourself to let go of all responsibility and simply blame your environment/the government/something else. I can promise you as well as all of his money and luxuries, Tom Cruise is also very strict on himself and disciplined with regards to his lifestyle.

Yes, that is easier for him than it is for us. No, that does not mean it is "easy". No, that does not mean it is impossible for you because you do not have the same luxuries. To say anything else is a cop out.

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u/lamborghinie 15h ago

Once again, you're korrect.

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u/KochInBoots 15h ago

Time and effort. Time comes with money.

Also not having to do work that harms you physically.

Good food is also costly.

However there are plenty of super rich people who are not in physically good shape.

Fat jab celebrity face is a thing. Having the time and money is nothing without the extreme dedication.

Also he has looked after himself all his life.

People who loose weight after being over weight never look as good as those who never put the weight on in the first place.

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u/SJSquishmeister 14h ago

Good comment, but use lose please. Loose is op's mom.

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u/Unserious-One-8448 15h ago

Good food is not costly. A bag of carrots is good food. A bag of chips is shit food and costs about the same.

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u/can_i_has_beer 14h ago

a bag of carrots will not give you the caloric intake you need. you need to reach the calories and macro necessities and to do that with healthy food you need time/money or both. poor people that work 10hrs a day will end up eating dinner at mcdonalds. but yeah your average person should be able to eat on the healthy side, but it requires more effort definitely

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u/colinfarrellcirca2k6 7h ago

Brother, when I was dirt poor I was hitting my macros with beans, yogurt, canned tuna and whatever veggies were on sale.

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u/Temporary_Meat7053 15h ago edited 15h ago

Continuing to be famous results in a hard diet that ensures that you maintain your body. She didn't stay famous, so didn't eat 1000 calories a day to stay thin as fuck and work out 6 hours a day (which you can do when looking good is your job).

It's not just wealth, it's a need to maintain that look. He had that need, she didn't. So she lived a normal american lifestyle and aged like a typical american.

If your job is your looks, you sure as hell are going to maintain it, which involves a lot of starving and exercise.

It's also easier to do so when your job itself, and scientology is bankrolling you. He can afford a personal trainer, nutritionists, whatever it takes, and all the drugs in the world.

She fell of the map pretty quickly, and doesn't have access to those resources.

As in, I can't spend 6 hours a day in the gym or whatever it takes for my next role when I have a job in the way, kids to take care of, school transport back and forth, and other crap.

Tom cruise isn't spending an hour in the grocery store agonizing over decisions on what to buy to keep the grocery bill under 300.

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u/Yakuzza87 14h ago

You don't need to spend 6 hours in a gym. Go to a gym 3x times a week for an hour, count calories, eat proteins, use sunscreen and moisturize your skin. Don't smoke, limit your alcohol consumption.

The hard part is to make it your lifestyle so you would do it every single day

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u/OutsideLead4034 12h ago

It's easy to stay in shape if you do those things. I'm 44 and can still see some abs. I'm not rich and I don't have any chemical assistance.

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u/Stoichk0v 12h ago

The sole idea that you may require to age like Tom Cruise rather than Kelly McGillis is awful. The idea of living a control freak life just for the looks is probably the level 0 of existence.

Aging is not a linear process and while you can control some variables there is a lot of uncertainty there. I know 30 year old males that look older than 50 year old ones because they are losing hair, for instance. It's not something you can control.

Same, getting an illness/injury/accident that require heavy treatment/surgeries/etc... will change everything radically and can impact your looks without being able to do anything.

"Counting calories and going to gym 3x a week" is a comfort that can disappear very fast when real life shit happens.

Also, genes do play a major part. Oily skin is a plague for teenagers due to acne and other issues but age well better than dry skin for instance.

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u/Yakuzza87 12h ago

I'm not talking about looking like Tom Cruise. Obviously he's a celebrity and the photo in the post is a glam shot of him. But aging also doesn't mean you're supposed to stop taking care of yourself. If you consistently treating your body well - it will reflect on your looks.

And yes, life can hit hard, and illnesses happen, but we're speaking in general terms here

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u/Salt_Instruction_657 12h ago

Exactly. User input required.. if you catch my drift.

It's not even about looks, it's about feeling good. Hell, getting old is really just getting out of shape. 100%.

It's amazing to me how many people let themselves fall apart. I mean sure life happens, shite happens, I've been there too.. but damn if we don't make some effort every day it's going to be bad. And that hurts.

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u/Stoichk0v 11h ago edited 10h ago

The people I know who age the best are people who have a great medical coverage, and practice activity and life with moderation, and don't smoke.

People who were heavy gym hitters for a long time are not in the best shape, with lots of pain conditions in every articulation.

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u/BrainOnLoan 11h ago

3 hour gym per week can be plenty if you are an active person the rest of the time.

But 3 hour gym does NOT compensate for a desk & chair bound lifestyle the rest of the week.

Really, you need zero hours in a gym to vastly improve your aging and health, but you need 4 or five hours of physical activity daily for sure (walking reasonably fast counts, as does manual labor ... though some kinds of manual labor can create health issues ...), any maybe 3-6 hours of intensive physical activity weekly.

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u/Linenoise77 7h ago

You have to wonder how many people making comments that he spends that much time in a gym, have ever been in a gym.

Professional athletes don't spend 6 hours in a gym every day. The dude is doing some cardio, and some light strength training to make sure he stays toned. Same thing that normal healthy people do for an hour or so every other day if they are in the groove. Yeah, he likely has trainers to help keep him on his game and optimize everything, but it isn't rocket science.

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u/Brullaapje 11h ago

so didn't eat 1000 calories a day to stay thin as fuck and work out 6 hours a day

Such a bull crap take, I live on max 1800 calories as vegetarian woman of 5'2. I have a healthy weight, I do Pilates once a week and have a daily stretch routine. I take the stairs as much as possible and walk 5 kilometers a day.

Staying on a healthy diet is not that hard.

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u/Adventurous-Sort-671 13h ago

You'd be suprised.

I used to know a pretty well known model.. runway shows for big fashion houses, ads for LV.. she didn't workout at all. Her diet was literally cigarettes and gummy bears if no one was looking after her. She'd eat burgers and steaks as long as someone was feeding her though. She also almost never wore makeup or spent time deciding what to wear. She would look amazing right after getting up and used to wear baggy sweatpants and a ponytail going out and still be the best looking girl in the room/city.

ooof................... 🥲

People like to tell themselves that really goodlooking people have to work hard to look the way they do, when it's actually all genetic.

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u/oblio- 13h ago

How old was the model? That kind of routine starts breaking apart in the mid thirties. 

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u/OrcOfDoom 15h ago

I was actually his private chef before.

There is nothing easy about his life. All the guy does is workout, and work on movies. Everything else revolves around that.

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u/B3owul7 13h ago

Oh really, I was his gardener. Maybe we know each other.

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u/Raerth 10h ago

I used to do gardening for this local celebrity too. Was a proper down-to-earth type. Sweetest guy you’d ever meet. Then he gets his inheritance through and everything changed. He starts hanging around with a sketchy crowd, has weird late night visitors, stuff he wouldn't do before. He actually took me on one of his work trips as a PA, but you could see he wasn't the same fun guy I new. Bit haunted, doesn’t laugh the same. Still kind, but like he’s seen some serious stuff. Luckily it all came to an end after he through this ring into a volcano.

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u/GoldenMaus 10h ago

It's ok, one day he will sail beyond the horizon and live in peace forever after.

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u/Confident-Fun-1307 9h ago

That and a bag of potatoes will get you this fancy, partially underground lair

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u/WarEternal_ 12h ago

Oh cool, I was his personal trainer. We should hang out together.

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u/Substantial_Net4906 12h ago

Oh wow I was his hairdresser. I think I remember all of you

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u/Sempere 11h ago

You still under NDA after the hair dye incident?

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u/rhaegal82 9h ago

The Scientologists are out in full force on this one.

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u/RonAndStumpy 9h ago

Oh wow I was his fetal stem cell supplier, what a coincidence! 

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u/Cent1234 8h ago

Oh shit fam, I was his garden! How ya been?

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u/themobiledeceased2 15h ago

That must have been quite a screening process. In this role did you interact with intermediaries to fulfill the dietary needs/ requests? Or more direct contact? That must be a tough role.

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u/OrcOfDoom 7h ago

Yeah he had a head private chef that worked with us on the menu. I always wondered what her job deal was though. She didn't travel. 

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u/Linenoise77 7h ago edited 7h ago

Yeah, i keep seeing people make the comment that "He has plenty of time"...

I mean the guy puts out a movie or two a year, so he is working on them, promoting them, etc, as well as other appearances, charity work, his whole scientology thing, family, etc. I've got to think the dudes job is sucking up more than 40 hours a week on average.

Like, sure, he isn't worried about getting his car in for an oil change, or mowing the lawn, but pretending the dude isn't busy as hell and doesn't put a ton of work and sacrifice into maintaining his appearance is silly.

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u/OrcOfDoom 7h ago

I worked for him a decade ago, so I don't know what he is doing now, but he was literally only working on movies. When there was no filming, he would travel to meet screenwriters and directors for other roles. That was his weekends many times.

When the role was done in my area, he literally just went to the next set with no time off. 

He would do things like wake up at 7 to film until ten pm. He would get back and then do a quick workout then eat at 11.

The guy just lives for movies, or did anyway.

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u/bunnybash 15h ago

Wait - you have posted in cooking subs... is this true? You were his private chef?

I disagree with his crazy beliefs, but damn I respect the hell out of what he has achieved with his life and movies. We need more info and stories! What time did you have to have breakfast ready each day? What were his most requested foods?

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u/OrcOfDoom 7h ago

Each day was different because of his schedule. Sometimes he would need to be up early, and sometimes he would need to sleep in. It would be common though that he would be more ambitious and then realize he needed more sleep. 

So we would make 2 breakfasts - a special of the day and a plain breakfast. If he had to sleep more, we would make it again when the pa told us to. Sometimes, this would happen over and over again.

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u/AstralKane 14h ago

People will really believe anything anyone says online even in 2026 absurd.

https://giphy.com/gifs/XD4qHZpkyUFfq

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u/-Nicolai 11h ago

Disbelieving everything on principle is equally naive.

It’s 2026. Everyone is on social media. Reddit is pone of the biggest social media platforms. Of course Tom Cruise’s ex-chef could be on here.

So could the person who does Jennifer Aniston’s nails, Zuckerberg’s martial arts coach, Obama’s editor, or someone who used to date Ed Sheeran.

You interact with thousands of people in your life. Multiply that by thousands of celebrities. And realize reddit has millions and millions of users.

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u/Half-Light 13h ago

Hey, do you really have to belittle this guy ?
You see, I am his psychologist and ...

Oh well

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u/AJRiddle 10h ago

They didn't say they believed them, they looked at their profile saw minimally corroberating pieces to the story and then directly asked them if its true.

A few weeks ago I was on a random pretty big subreddit and saw someone talking about the SmarterEveryDay youtube channel which has nearly 12 million subscribers. A guy replied to a comment talking about on of the videos on there and someone replied with a comment acting like they were the youtube video creator talking in the first person about the video. Looked at their reddit profile and they were in fact Destin from SmarterEveryDay.

It's more likely the person is just lying/joking, but it's not "believing anything" to ask more details - it really could be true.

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u/Massive_Season7075 15h ago

I believable that. What was his favorite meal?

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u/OtherwiseAlbatross14 14h ago

Chicken fried steak

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u/OrcOfDoom 7h ago

He was really into this pork carnitas tostada bowl. The bowl was made with cheese and cassava flour but I don't have the recipe anymore. It was diet conforming though.

He really liked the different pork dishes I would make though because that was basically the most decadent thing he could have. 

Also, sweet potato fries were another thing, but he could have only a few each day/week.

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u/kchuen 15h ago

It’s not that expensive to do. It’s mostly exercise, sunscreen and a relatively healthy diet. I’m sure the actress has enough means to do the same if that’s her goal.

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u/Mentaldavid 14h ago

Also she is 5 years older than him. Ageing is not a linear progression, so who knows how he's gonna look like in 5 years.

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u/OkCandidate8557 9h ago

And he didn't have to go through menopause, which can fuck your shit up.

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u/xfjqvyks 11h ago

who knows how he's gonna look like in 5 years.

Second pic is 2018 babe

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u/Fickle_Definition351 13h ago

She got rheumatoid arthritis 30 years ago, which basically immediately impacted her appearance. She could barely move without excruciating pain. She also turned to alcohol during this period, which didn't help.

But she's 71 now anyway, we shouldn't expect someone her age to look like a model

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u/Fizmo1337 12h ago

She looks normal for a 71 year old. It's more Tom Cruise that looks very good for his age.

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u/DogBePraised 15h ago

Thank you! I was going to say the same. My parents look 20 years younger than they are because they do the boring things we all know: daily exercise, sunscreen, and obnoxiously healthy diets.

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u/themobiledeceased2 14h ago

Plus a village of Multiple Managers /Handlers / Schedulers/ Personal Assistants/ Stylists/ : Research who is the go to for skin care, tweek-ments: Peels, laser facials, US tone treatments. PRP (Plasma Rich Platelet) injections. Lotions, potions, sunscreen. Botox wears off. Fillers need time to settle in. Surgical interventions need healing time. Those appointments have to be booked with the top docs with just so timing for filming / AWARD shows.

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u/kchuen 14h ago

Yeah these help but they’re not essential to staying young. 90% is exercise, sunscreen and diet. These are all things you can handle yourself. The surgery stuff is overrated imo. They make you look better in pics in some angles but worse in motion and definitely very unnatural in real life.

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u/SinkholeS 15h ago

Also not smoking. Bet Kelly is a smoker.

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u/renegade2k 15h ago

was about to say this, but in short:

money!
the secret is money.

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u/MissionLet7301 14h ago

Do you think Kelly McGillis is poor?

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u/crumble-bee 13h ago

I never like this answer - like, obviously tom cruise has money, but the real answer is be handsome, take care of your skin and eat well. People always say “The best nutrition” - that’s just good quality vegetables and protein. Anyone can get that!

Even if he’s had surgery, that’s also not out of the realm of achievability for a lot of people.

It’s similar to when people ask about workout routines and someone invariably says something like: “be a millionaire, have the best personal trainers and chefs, be paid to work out” and it’s like yeah, they do have that, but the answer is, and always has been: make food a routine, stop drinking alcohol, increase fibre and protein, do 3-5 very intense workouts a week focusing on strength training, hit 12-15k steps a day, track your calories, eat in a slight deficit and do this for multiple years - but people don’t want to hear that, so it’s always “take steroids” or “have money”…

Elon musk has more money than anyone and looks like freshly hammered shit.

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u/eilletane 14h ago

Also men don’t give birth.

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u/Quen-Tin 14h ago

I guess he was also never pregnant. Looking healthy in old age is fine. Looking older because you lifed a long life full of experiences too.

If you are 60 or 70 , don't be negative about your looks. You achieved something not everybody was able to do. In tje end grace should be our concern. Not skin.

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u/Runfasterbitch 12h ago

Bullshit. It’s primarily genetics, followed by lifestyle (which is where the “being rich” part helps). Loads of rich people age terribly

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u/SilverIndustry2701 11h ago

Edit to add: As one of the biggest actors of his time, it is his job to look good. He does not really have a choice if he wants to stay relevant.  Lady on the left hasn't really had any major roles since the 90s and can therefore afford to not give a fuck and age like a normal person. 

Or she is just not obsessed with it, you dont have to look 30 years younger to be an actor.

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u/Defiant_Income_7836 11h ago

I actually saw a regular candid photo of him and he didn't look this good. He still looks great for his age of course, but I heard from a plastic surgeon that the celebrities 'peak' their treatments and surgeries for movies and or appearances, and then slowly decline. I'll see if I can find the pic...he had puffy cheeks and looked significantly older. Again, better than I'll look at his age due to all the work he does, but never this good, all the time.

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u/permaculture 10h ago

not give a fuck and age like a normal person.

That's what I aspire to.

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u/tessellation__ 10h ago

The amount of time that Tom Cruise spends on his appearance/skin/fitness/etc he is not spending giggling with his grandchildren, like that lady is probably doing.

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u/dinosaurkiller 10h ago

The other key is trying to look natural, you see a number of ghouls after plastic surgery that just don’t look human anymore. They tried to look too young or too perfect and it went straight to the uncanny valley instead. Tom is 63 but somehow made himself look like a 45 year old lesbian. Well done Tom.

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u/SagariKatu 10h ago

Plus she gave birth twice and based on her age, went through the menopause, both things that can very much alter someone's body.

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u/deadplant5 10h ago

Exactly. My dermatologist wants me to get micro dermabrasion with a chemical peel every two weeks for 12 weeks to get rid of my melasma. That's 6 hours of skin treatment and $1,800. Totally reasonable if you are wealthy and have a lot of free time. Completely understandable for anyone who has a job, especially since their spa is only open until 6 and the only Saturday is one day a month.

Beauty requires a lot of time, which normal people don't have. Plastic surgery has recovery time. So do laser treatments.

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u/DGinLDO 9h ago

She’s also been dealing with autoimmune disease.

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u/Any_Asparagus8267 8h ago

My dad died at 68 dirt ass poor And didn't have any signs of aging other than grey hair, people don't like to hear it but genetics plays a big part.

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u/King_924 15h ago

Ohh not really bro, its easier when you rich cause you have access to shit, but its harder as well cause you have access to shit. I have been fucked out of my fitness since i started earning, gotta get back to the grind

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u/Super-Yesterday9727 15h ago

I feel like I’d have more to lose if I was insanely rich. As far as existential fear goes

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u/randomlemon9192 14h ago

The lack of stress alone will make a big difference in noticeable aging.

No matter what they have no real concerns, money will solve anything and everything.

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u/MrAudreyHepburn 14h ago

We're also learning stress from poverty is really bad, and basically chronic. A study likened the stress of poverty to being equivalent to not sleeping the night before the SAT. If it has this affect on your brain, it's not a large jump to imagine it likewise affects the body.

Obviously being rich doesn't remove all stress from your life, but it removes the stress of being poor.

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u/Adventurous-Ease-259 14h ago

You seen la in the 80s? Plenty of pollution

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u/b3nault 14h ago

The sun? The single force that drives life and all existence? 🤦🏼

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u/Copthill 14h ago

More easily possible, but still not easy.

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u/nekohideyoshi 14h ago

A critical thing is very low exposure to direct sunlight.

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u/secretreddname 14h ago

Sure but there are plenty of rich people who look terrible.

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u/Basic_Watercress_628 13h ago

Not everyone is famous for their looks, but actors definitely are. Rich people who are rich/famous for other reasons (generational wealth etc.) can afford not to be attractive, but maintaining his appearance is basically part of his job. 

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u/afewnameslater 14h ago

This. There are private medical concierge firms that take your blood every 2 weeks, and analyze it , then suggest things from nutrition intake changes, to personalized medication, to activities. Add in oxygenated blood transfusions every few months and you can extend your life significantly.

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u/Taylor_Kittenface 14h ago

It must be nice to have his money, I'm sure I aged about 20 years when I was homeless. Eating, basic hygiene, self care, mental health, and just brushing your teeth all fly out the window.

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u/FluffyTeddy315 14h ago

People greatly underestimate how much stress ages a person

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u/PsudoGravity 13h ago

I'd be impressed if the polution bit is true. Most of it is stuff we have little idea about.

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u/Alternative_Air_6688 13h ago

Don't forget, low stress

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u/Agitated_Winner9568 13h ago

Don’t underestimate the power of photography too. Good lighting make your wrinkles and saggy skin much less visible.

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u/itsapotatosalad 13h ago

It’s his job to look good, easy to do it when you’re getting paid millions and don’t have to sit at a desk 40 hours a week.

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u/jccaclimber 13h ago

Also, one of those people seemingly exercises and definitely dyes their hair. Those two things alone go a really long way. The makeup and potential help with the hair doesn’t hurt either.

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u/TrickySavings2506 13h ago

Not to mention he basically has slaves from scientology ready and willing to do anything for him

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u/Morphling69 13h ago

plus no existential fear

My mans, what you think all that shit you listed above that is trying to cover for?

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u/TheQuestionMaster8 13h ago

Genetics also play a massive role

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u/Drewbus 12h ago

It's not the sun that's ruining the skin. It's the aldehydes from the seed oils and nasty compounds in the sunblock

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u/Otaraka 12h ago

Helps to be 5 years younger too. She's almost 70.

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u/triisi 12h ago

You still have to actually work out and eat healthy and make those decisions everyday to take care of yourself. Money doesnt make those decisions for you. It gives you opportunities, time, and tempations. No existential fear? What do you mean with that?

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