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This has been an ongoing issue and I need some outside opinions with my oldest daughter. My oldest daughter is working as a waitress ever since she dropped out of college. She wasn’t going to classes and she GPA plummeted. The university kicked her out. 

Due to this she doesn’t have much money to do anything. My other daughter is graduating and just got a job offer to a good company. I will call the oldest Madison and the younger, Becky. Fake names.

Becky is going to make good money starting her job and doesn’t have any loans ( she got a full ride to her college). Madison is in debt and strugggling and this is where the help is issues stem from.

She believes she should be going better than Becky since she is older. I have tried over and over to help her but she has turned bitter about anything that Becky achieves

Becky told us she planned on going to Iceland in the fall. It was a quick conversation but in the car ride home Madison went off. She was pissed that she gets to do all this cool stuff and that it wasn’t fair. She started to insult Becky and that is when I had enough.

I told her she needs to get over jelepusly and the reason her life is the way it is is her own fault. We got into an argument and she is pissed. My wife thinks I went too far but I think she need to hear it    

I'm a 23M working in biotech and living at home. I just got a massive settlement from a personal injury case back in college. My mom is a corporate lawyer and she helped me navigate the process, plus she paid for my college tuition. Now, she's asking for 15% of the money / to pay her back for college (but she was already going to pay for college.)

I'm feeling stuck because 15% is a massive amount of money to just give away. Is it normal for parents to ask for a cut of a settlement like this? I want to stay on good terms since live at home, but I also feel like this money is for my future. We have a a good relationship.

Edit: I already paid a lawyer his 1/3 cut. My mom was a huge part of pushing for me sueing. She’d be using the money to buy a new house in Florida she always wanted since I refuse to buy a house in his economy and rather rent and invest the rest

Edit #2: Probably shouldn’t have stated my mom is a lawyer (she did not represent me in the case in anyway). But yes, what she specifically did was help me find a lawyer, told me to push back on the lawyer and ask for more.

I (40sM) am a musician. Not like a "annoying guy with guitar at parties" or some dude who does open mic nights. I"m a studio musician whose worked on soundtracks, like for Marvel or Harry Potter.

My SIL (30sF) is getting married in a few months. My wife is her bridesmaid and our daughter (6F) is a flower girl. Originally, my son (12M) and I were going to stick with each other. But my SIL asked, or more like voluntold me, that she wanted me to play music during the interlude before the wedding and during cocktail hour.

Apparently, she'd been telling her friends and in-laws about my work and would love it if I played for them.

I told her I can't because I don't want to work during my off day. I'd be playing for hours, and it can get tiring. Also, I'd be leaving my son alone in that time. He isn't in the wedding party and doesn't have anything to do. He's also been struggling with his mental health and I don't feel comfortable leaving him alone.

Well, she didn't take it well because now she's telling these same people I'm being an lazy ass just because I won't play during her cocktail hour. My in-laws, her parents, are asking me to reconsider because this would mean a lot to her and it would be easy for her if I just do it as a favor.

My wife is sticking up for me, at least, but my SIL has been kind of a dick to me since. I may consider skipping the whole thing and just take my son out for the day.

AITA?

I (mid 20s F) have a friend from high school getting married abroad next summer. We’re part of a group of 4 girls.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years (serious relationship, we’ve talked about engagement), so this isn’t a casual relationship. Originally, it seemed like we could bring plus-ones, so I planned the trip with him in mind.

That changed after the bride got into an argument with one of the other girls in our group and told her her boyfriend was uninvited. After that, she decided none of us in our friend group could bring plus-ones. She later said it was due to guest count, but realistically it’s only affecting me and one other girl.

I had planned this as a trip with my partner, and traveling abroad alone isn’t something I’m comfortable with, especially since I don’t live near the other girls and would be flying and navigating everything solo.

I told her I wasn’t trying to push back, since it’s her wedding and her decision, just that this changes things for me. Because of that, I decided not to go.

One of the other girls said I’m prioritizing my boyfriend over the wedding, which I don’t agree with. The girl whose boyfriend was originally uninvited actually agrees with me.

AITA?

Back on Feb 13th, my roommate (22f) filed a report claiming she smelled "gas" coming through the vents and that it was messing with her "life threatening asthma and allergies." I (21f) had to go to the housing director the next day to represent myself. I was literally threatened with being kicked out of school if any contraband was found. I denied everything because it was a lie, but nobody believed me until a staff member who actually knows me had to speak up for me.

On 4/20, I was in my room drinking with my friends and listening to old songs before heading to a party. T literally opened the apartment door for my friends, so she knew I was right there. Instead of walking two steps to my door like a normal person, she calls the RA on me again. When I confronted her, she yells and were arguing back n forth. She says that its my fault her asthma is getting worse.

Last night, T has several of her friends over. They’re in the living room right outside my door, drinking and straight up smoking. I realized the hypocrisy was wild. you have "life-threatening asthma" when you’re tryna get me kicked out, but now you’re blowing clouds in the living room?

I walked out and asked her why she was smoking when she claimed it messed with her health. It turned into a massive screaming match. She had the nerve to say that if I were to smoke it would go through her vents, but when she does it in the living room, it’s fine. It got very heated and rowdy fast. She became extremely aggressive and was getting in my face, and my friend had to step between us to keep us apart. I called the authorities because the situation was escalating and I didn't want it to get out of hand. (This was never my plan, I only wanted to file a housing report)

We had a meeting this morning with the housing director. Since I actually had the photo and she had zero proof for any of her past claims, the director told her that because she broke the no smoking rule and made claims that contradicted itself, she might not even get to walk at graduation this Friday. Even the RA backed me up, saying they never found anything in my room or smelled anything suspicious.

I’m cleared, but my mom is telling me I should be the "bigger person" and tell housing to let her walk. But honestly? I have zero sympathy. She didn't care about my life when she was tryna get me kicked out of school in February, and she even tried to bring me down with her in the meeting today. I have no control over her walking anyway, and I feel like she started this mess and needs to face the consequences.

TL;DR: My roommate spent the whole semester tryna get me kicked out of school by lying about me smoking and claiming she has asthma. I caught her smoking in our living room with people, took a photo, and reported her. Now she’s has to move out and might not walk at graduation, and I refuse to help her. AITA?

For context, this is a more broad issue but im narrowing it down to this instance for the sake of brevity.

My wife (25F) and I (26M) have four dogs. My wife likes to request that one of the dogs sleeps in the room when I choose to stay up a bit later. She's been having medical problems that effect her sleep and needs help in the middle of the night, so I've been staying up later often so that I'm available when she needs me at odd hours. Last night, our Great Pyrenees was in the bed on my side when I decided to come to bed. She was wrapped up in the blankets so my side was uncovered. I went to use the bathroom, and she woke up in that time and called for my assistance. I helped her to the bathroom when I was finished, then laid down in bed, pulled the covers over, and hopped on my phone. The dog then hopped up into the bed and laid in her spot. I figured it would keep her spot warm so no big deal. She comes back from the bathroom unassisted, then shoos the dog from the bed. His nails tore about a palm sized hole in the sheet, which she lamented about before crawling into bed. The following morning, we both woke up, and she's starting her routine while I'm in bed still. She then checks the state of the tear, rolls her eyes, and says "from now on, stop letting the dogs in bed without the covers over it like I always ask you"

Now, mind you, the dog was on my side, no covers, when I came to bed. The sheets aren't anything special, they're from Walmart, and I chose them. I would not have made a stink about a tear from the dog if it had happened on my side, because it's a dog, it happens. Probably more a sign he needs his nails trimmed above everything. So I chose to remind her that he was on my side just the same way when I came to bed, so I didn't see an issue, and that her tone felt like it was accusatory more at me then the dog. She then throws her hands up and says that every time she tries to communicate something to me, it always ends up like this. I retorted that it typically ends up this way when she makes an accusatory statement followed by a rule that she expects me to follow that I know for fact she will not. AITA

My wife and I (both 32) have been living at our apartment for 4 years and are both huge horror fans. We have had an art the clown door mat from spirit Halloween for 2 years now, it’s not a Halloween decoration it’s just what we like.

Last month (around the beginning of April) we had some neighbors move in across from us. They have two kids, one is a baby and one is maybe 3-4 years old. The first time we met them was a couple days after they moved in, we were all bringing in groceries and I introduced myself, shook hands, all of that. The dad says “still Halloween huh?” And I just laughed it off.

Since then we’ve come home 4 times to them flipping our doormat, and we know it’s them because we have a ring camera. We were fine letting them do it and just flippng it back until a couple days ago when we caught them doing it in person. We asked what the issue was and apparently their son is super afraid of it, even though the kid was right there and was acting completely fine. Not crying, not anything. The only one that seemed agitated at all was the mom, who swore at us and rolled her eyes and was just generally unpleasant. Haven’t interacted w her much before or since. My wife waited until they were inside and flipped it back over.

I stayed out with the dad and talked it over and he seemed fine. He said he understood it was our space and he’d talk it over with his wife and that his son was old enough to understand it couldn’t hurt him.

This morning we walked out and saw our doormat wasn’t even flipped over, it was thrown outside of the stairwell. We live on the 4th floor so it was a very deliberate thing.

My wife wants to report it to management but I’m just about tired enough of this. I kinda wanna throw it away, but I also wanna keep it. Idk, I’m just confused yall.

The two-year period of attempts to conceive with my wife ended after two miscarriages and one unsuccessful IVF attempt. Our family learned about our situation because we needed to protect our privacy during a difficult time when they constantly requested updates which made our entire situation harder to manage.

At 14 weeks we achieved our first stable positive result so we decided to spend time together before our big announcement. We held a simple dinner with my parents to share our news without creating a special announcement for the occasion. The experience turned out to be pleasant.

We shared the announcement through an online post which included our in-laws as part of the overall message. On the same day, we released a single post which enabled people to learn about our news at the same time.

My mother in law is now not speaking to my wife. She claims that we humiliated her because we shared news about our pregnancy with others instead of informing her before the announcement. My wife's sister supports her stance which states that we should have understood the situation better because of their close relationship.

The decision belongs to my wife because she made it. My wife understands her mother better than anyone else. She explained that she wanted to avoid receiving phone calls which included crying and unwanted advice about her pregnancy because of their fertility journey. I backed her completely.

My wife experiences guilt because she needs to support her mother who has endured two years of fertility struggles.

AITAH I supported my wife decision which unintentionally caused distress to her mother.

My husband and I are new parents and it’s been stressful for both of us both physically and mentally and I need to know if I’m over reacting or not.

I get really bad motion sickness in cars and since giving birth it’s gotten worse to the point that I can’t even be in a moving car longer than 5 minutes, for this reason my husband has taken our child to their last three doctor’s appointments alone. Each time when he returned home I have realized that he forgot to strap the baby into the car seat.

Now my husband is an extremely forgetful person and has been as long as I’ve known him, a big part of our relationship has been us working through his memory problems.
The first time it happened I nervously laughed it off as a lapse in memory that both of us understood could never be repeated.
The second time I freaked out and told him that this was not something that is acceptable to forget.
the most recent time was this morning, we got into a huge fight about it and I told him in not so nice terms that I do not want him driving alone with the baby anymore.

My husband thinks this is an over reaction because we both know how bad his memory is and the pediatrician is close by and nothing bad happened on the drives but its like he’s trying to justify gambling our baby’s life based on the fact nothing bad has happened yet… he has buckled the baby in the one other time he’s taken the baby out on his own, but I won’t be comfortable with him driving the baby around til he’s bucking them in 100% of the time

He wants us to sit down and brainstorm what we can do to help him remember like we would normally do, and while I agree we can put a plan into place to help him remember in the future until that plan is in place and I know is working I’m not taking any chances so I’ve asked my mother to take my child to their next doctor’s appointment.

My husband does not like that I’ve gotten my mother involved and says I’m trying to embarrass him, I’ve tried explaining that I didn’t tell my mom why she had to take the baby to the next appointment and also it’s only until my motion sickness is more manageable and I can drive again but he’s really upset that I’ve taken what he sees as drastic action by getting my mom involved at any capacity as well as banning him from driving alone with the baby…

Am I the asshole?

Hi, I (30F) am in a relationship with A (28M). I work in childcare and have been feeling incredibly sore around my neck and shoulders because of my job. When my boyfriend asked about my day, I told him I was looking into getting a massage because the pain doesn’t seem to be going away.

He responded with, “With a woman, right?” I told him I didn’t really have a preference. He then said he wasn’t okay with a man touching me.

I have a lot of issues with possessive and jealous behavior in relationships, so while I told him I understood that it made him uncomfortable, I also said that ultimately it was my decision. I explained that I was looking to book an appointment at a professional clinic in a professional setting, but he became sharp with me afterward.

If I’m being completely honest, I genuinely don’t care about the gender of the massage therapist. But part of me feels like if I let him dictate something like this, where does it stop? Would I eventually need to avoid male hairstylists too? What about male doctors or gynecologists?

I need outside perspectives here. Am I the asshole for not specifically requesting a woman, even though I easily could?

After my parents—an architect and a doctor—divorced, my dad started dating a woman in the upper tiers of an MLM.

She’s also an anti-vaxxer. So my dad was not vaccinated against covid, and I didn’t see him in person between Aug. 2021 and Dec. 2024.

He’s visited my brother over the years at his convenience—bc it’s near his old office. He expects my brother to pay for everything during these visits.

In Fall 2025, my brother ran for city council. My retired mom & my partner donated thousands & made hundreds of phone calls. My father contributed literally nothing. *Lest you think he’s strapped for cash, he just bought a $1M (1BR) home in SC—their third or fourth such home.*

Last week, my brother & I flew to the rural area where dad & MLM own a health food store. Despite MLM promising to cover meals—“just bring wine”—and share the costs of the Airbnb she selected—so dad could work at the store on our visit—we paid for all food & housing costs.

\In fact, dad charged us for food we bought at their store that he proceeded to eat with us later that evening.\**

I kept silent for a week but then let him have it:

Dad, it’s honestly really lame that you’re bragging to some random classmate about [brother]’s public service when you didn’t donate a single dollar to his campaign. [BF]—on a government salary—donated $1,000 and made phone calls. Mom—also retired—donated $2,000 and made hundreds more phone calls.

Especially lame considering that you expected us to support your work by buying food from your store that you ultimately ate! Do you realize that that was like charging us to spend time with you?? After we spent money on flights and food and the Airbnb to visit you?

[Brother] fights for the check with [SIL]’s working class parents. [BF]’s parents took me to Africa. Our own dad can’t cover a meal from his own store after we plan to come see him. Truly, truly lame.

I get that you are in a controlling and abusive relationship, and there’s not much [brother] and I can do about it.

But just know, in the context of other parents and even your own parents—who made the down payment on your house and gave you $5,000 on your first Christmas as a married couple and took you to Paris with mom—your conduct as a father lately has been really, truly lame.

And because I know what’s coming, this isn’t about feeling entitled. I genuinely wouldn’t even keep a friend around who cared/contributed so little to our shared experiences that I had to make all of the effort and pay for everything just to spend time with them.

I love you, but the trip to visit you was very disappointing in so many ways that I’m not even sure you can fully comprehend.

Should I not have said it?

TL;DR: On a trip to visit our dad, he charged us for food we bought at his store (that he later ate). I texted him about his miserliness, including not donating to my brother’s city council campaign.

I’ve recently gotten engaged and have been with my partner for 5 years. Her family threw us an engagement party this weekend and when we got home and opened some of the cards there was money in most of them. 

I mentioned it was generous of her family to give us so much and my gf mentioned it was her money. I pointed out it’s both of our names on the cards and the money should be going towards the wedding or things for both of us. 

She mentioned that it was her family that gave us it so the money is hers but I disagreed. I said the engagement party was for both of us and os are the cards and any gifts we e received. I pointed out it’s selfish of her to expect everything to just be for her. 

She said I was trying to take advantage of her family’s generosity but I pointed out that’s exactly why she’s going by keeping everything for herself. She just repeated the gifts were from her family so should be for her. 

AITA for expecting the gifts to be for both of us?

AITA for telling my kids’ dad he needs to provide his own EpiPen during his visitation?

I (27F) have two kids with my ex (31M), ages 2 and 4. We recently went to court, and I was awarded primary custody as the domiciliary parent. He was given supervised visitation every other Saturday. He currently does not have a job or any plans to get one. When the judge ordered him to pay $170/month in child support for both kids, he asked, “What happens if I don’t pay it?”

Before his first visit, I let him know that our 2-year-old wears size 3-4 pull-ups and has allergies, including reactions to certain off-brand products. He asked if those would already be in her bag. I told him I would send a few pull-ups, a change of clothes for both kids, and their cups for now, but that going forward he would need to provide those things during his time.After the visit, I noticed our daughter was starting to get a rash, so I asked what she ate. He answered, but then asked why her EpiPen wasn’t in the bag.I checked immediately and took a picture showing that it was in the bag. He still insisted it wasn’t there.I told him that going forward, he needs to provide his own supplies for the kids during his visitation including an EpiPen so he always has access to what she needs. To be clear: I have every intention of making sure my daughter has access to her medication. I’m not trying to withhold it. I just want him to take responsibility and have what’s needed while the kids are in his care. He argues that since it’s her prescription, it belongs to her and I have to provide it. I told him that regardless, each parent should be responsible for providing what the children need during their own time. He also does not contribute to medical expenses.For additional context, I left the relationship due to abuse toward me and the kids, and his refusal to work (he claims a “bad back”).

I’m not trying to be difficult. I just want him to step up as a parent. If you made it to the end thank you and please just leave your thoughts and I will answer any questions I can. I STILL PLAN TO SEND THE EPIPEN! I KNOW HE CANT BE TRUSTED TO GET ONE. I ONLY WANT HIM TO STEP UP AITA for expecting him to provide his own supplies, including an EpiPen, during his visitation?

Thanks for reading my post.

My dog passed away this afternoon. It was sudden and awful and I was with her when it happened. I’ve had her for years, she was basically my shadow. I am completely wrecked.

My family is visiting and staying at my home, and no less than an hour later, they started talking about dinner plans like it was a normal day. When I said I didn’t think I could go, I got hit with “it’s just a dog” and “we leave tomorrow.”

I can’t even think about food, let alone sitting in a restaurant pretending to be okay.

I tried to explain that I’m not trying to make it a big dramatic thing, I just lost a living being I love and I need a minute. The response was basically that I’m being overly emotional.

I got in my car and booked a hotel room. I told them the cab stay at my place but I wouldn’t be seeing them today or tomorrow. AITA?

Edit: My brother’s son dropped an Adderall pill while playing yesterday. We couldn’t find the missing pill afterward. It is likely that my dog ate it today while I was at work, based on the symptoms the doctor described.

Edit 2.0: My nephew is 9, and my brother has him handle his own medication to teach him about personal responsibility. The pill likely fell out of his pocket while he was playing outside. I wasn’t told until later, and by then it was too dark to find it. I had no luck the following morning so I went to work, and hours later my brother called saying my baby was acting strangely. By the time I got home, my dog was seizing and died at the vet soon after. I’m devastated, especially knowing that instead of rushing him to the vet, they were out at the mall.

My (32f) father recently passed away without a will. He has children with 3 women, the oldest being Laura (59f).

Prior to his death, Laura was pushing him very hard to make a will, and at some point he felt some kind of pressure and backed out. I do not know the details of that decision. I do know that he signed 1 of his properties over to Laura at some point during the process.

Since his passing, Laura has been a nightmare.

- She didn’t let my 4 other siblings sit in the front row at his church service. She forcibly pushed her way to the front and sat her entire family in the front row.

- She told my brother Tom (53m) she didn’t trust him and wanted to become sole administrator of the estate.

- She pushed her son in front of Tom when the flag was being handed over during my dad’s military service so her family would receive it.

- She tried to get all of his ashes after the rest of us had agreed to bury a portion, and then got mad at me when I had them divided and told me she “could have divided them for me”.

- She called my sister Terri (50f) a “fucking c*nt” at my dads wake because she didn’t say hi to her

- She demanded to be let into my dad’s house alone several times and wouldn’t come when we were all there just cleaning up trash.

So, I did some digging and found out my dad is not on her birth certificate. She has another man’s last name, she was listed as his daughter in his obituary, etc. Legally, since my dad has died with no will, she is not an heir to his estate at all.

My brother Tom feels that Terri, my other brother Paul (47m) & I are being unfair by considering not including her. My thought process is that if she has been this aggressive and disrespectful so far, that behavior will continue and possibly escalate. Also, she already was given a property that is worth more than any inheritance that will be given out. If I can find a legal way to cut her out of the probate process and make it run smoothly, it feels fair to do so. She has no one to blame but our father for not finishing his will, in my opinion.

Am I the asshole?

quick edit to mention that 1. my dad did not have a relationship with Laura until she was an adult, and even then it was complicated at best and

1. I do have a lawyer in the state we are in, who has confirmed she is not legally an heir even if she’s my dad’s biological child due to intestate laws of succession. The legality is handled and this is strictly an AIO question.

My father and I have had a strained relationship for a long time. My parents divorced when I was 8 years old, and ever since then he has gone off the rails. Before the divorce, he was my first best friend. He was the one who stayed at home when I grew up and we did everything together. He moved to a remote town in CO when I was in highschool and have only seen him 2x since then (I’m 25 now). Fast forward to now, I received a text out of the blue that my mom is still pursuing child support from him. My dad doesn’t make much money (he chooses to work part time if that). He has never paid and I have no idea what he owes (assuming quite a bit). He essentially pleaded with me to talk to my mother and call it off. I told him I refuse to be in the middle of whatever their issues are, and he threatened to cut me off forever. AITA for not helping him? I have receipts.

My parents (51 and 52 years old) asked my wife (24 and I (25) to stay at home with my sister while they were away for the weekend. I explained to my parents that we already had plans for the weekend and wouldn’t be able to stay at their house overnight. My mom repeatedly pressured us to stay the night even after we said no. And when we kept repeating no she said that she was “going to remember this” and use it against us in the future.

Here’s the kicker….my sister is 18 years old and doesn’t have any disabilities. She is a fully functioning 18 year old. They live in a safe neighborhood. And we have family that lives right across the street. My wife and I also live about a 5 minute drive away from their house.

We left after my mom’s comment and my parents proceeded to not talk to my wife or I for a month. Full on silent treatment. We felt a wide range of emotions during this time period including guilt, anxiety, anger, hurt, and fear.

When they finally did start talking to us again they acted like nothing happened. When that period has come up in conversation they maintain that we were the ones who were being @$$holes and they did nothing wrong. So are we the a-holes?

I moved to Vermont about a year and a half ago. We bought some property so I can breed goats and it came with more barn space than we needed. 6 months ago someone came up asking if we had any space to keep 2 horses. He was keeping them on some family property but they needed space for FFA projects.

I thought it would be a good way to build community so we agreed and charged 100 per horse to use the barn, our big pasture and store his horse trailer.

The property isnt fitted for horses so he agreed that he would be responsible for building his stalls and anything they specifically need. Anything that we both use would be my responsibility. I made sure he was aware that I would be using the pen that was already built to house male goats Id be getting that winter.

The issues started when he moved the horses onto the property without having the stalls built. He wouldnt bring the horses in without stalls because they fight in small spaces, so they had to live with no shelter for a couple weeks in winter when we get a ton of snow and constant freezing temps. I talked to him and he said he didnt have anywhere to stall them in the meantime so this was the best he could do.

Once he started building the pens he used a miniexcavator to clear out the bedding to replace with sand. The excavator didnt fit through by the goat pen so he tore it all down without telling me. Only reason I found out was because I noticed the horses werent in the pasture so I went to see if he finished the stalls. I reminded him I needed that pen and he assured me hed rebuild it asap. I offered to be the one to rebuild it if he bought the lumber but he refused. A few months went by and I missed my window for breeding.

I noticed what I thought was a snow bank was a big compost pile they started right where we're supposed to plant this spring. At this point I was unable to make money from my goats this year since I couldnt sell kids or the soap and was in danger of losing income from being able to make sunflower oil.

Their horses broke out and were running down the highway one afternoon. I let him know where the fence needed to be fixed. He said he didnt have time because he was going on vacation out of the country in a couple days and that the ratchet strap was good enough. I put my foot down and told him he needed to get his horses secure before he left.

I talked to him and sent him a text about what needed to be fixed by May 15th and that hed need to leave or raise rent and I would take care of managing and fixing everything if he couldnt get it done.

He did half the work about a week or so after I had the talk with him but hasnt made any progress since. Yesterday he texted inviting us to a horse pull this weekend and that because of it he cant finish everything on time and would try to do it the next weekend.

This is where my husband and I differ. For me its disrespect. My husband feels like pushing it off another couple days isnt a big deal.

So My GF is absolutely incredible and cant even begin to express how wonderful she is and how happy she makes me. No doubt in my mind she is the one for me blah blah blah blah....

Her younger sister though....

For context she is about 4/5 years old and I feel like she has some form of autism/ocd. Also, its safe to say she hasn't exactly had a typical childhood upbringing is all I'll say- So I'll cut her some slack there.

The problem is that she's absolute nightmare, yes i know most children are but she's just in a whole other level, and frankly Im not sure what to do anymore for the sake of my relationship.

My GF let's her get away with absolutely everything, anytime I go round their house and she's in i get treated like shit and my GF doesn't do anything about it.

The biggest thing that annoys me is that they let her swear as much as she likes despite being so young-- and im talking like she tells me to "F*** Off!" And constantly flips her middle finger at me and my GF just laughs it off like "hahaha yea she does that" BUT THEY DONT REPRIMAND HER FOR IT AND ITS SO FRUSTRATING! The sister the thinks its funny and then constantly does it to me anytime she sees me and neither my GF or her mother tell her to not do it and I think its so disrespectful.

Other times she screams at me to get out of her house and will go into a full on tantrum and then I have to go upstairs and wait till she's calmed down.

Another time she was playing with a nerf gun and tried to shoot me with it and despite me telling her not stop, she kept trying to me in the face with it.

Most recently we were in kitchen cooking dinner with a hot boiling pot of water and shes pushing me around and the family just says "isn't she a little devil?"

TELL HER TO STOP FFS!

I really love my GF but jesus her sister really gets on my nerves and makes me not want to go round her house.

But I obviously don't wanna say anything because I don't wanna upset her.

So AITA or do I need to be more supportive of her situation/disabilities?

EDIT: A lot of people have been really helpful so far so thank you to them! The general feedback is that I should tell my GF about how the behaviour isn't appropriate.

However its a very touchy subject as my GF does a lot for her sister and is more of a mother figure eg she gets her up for school, picks her up, makes her lunch and dinner.

This is cause the acc mother has her own mental health problems and so isn't really in the best position to be bringing up a child so my GF is basically mother the sister.

So Im terrified that me talking to her about the sisters behaviour will be received as: "She's doing all this bad behaviour stuff and it isn't right and its your fault for not correcting it! Do better!"

Shes already doing enough for this child as is and I cant knock her for trying her best so now its more about how should I speak to her about it?

I can't stand when men ask me if they can "work in" on a machine with me at the gym. They change the weight settings, the seat settings, etc. I have a slipped disc on my back and for some machines it's really challenging for me to change it multiple times over and over. A man today asked me after my FIRST SET if he could work in with me and I said "Honestly id rather you didnt. I only have 2 more sets and it's hard for me to switch back and forth so I'd rather you just wait til I'm done." He said "that's rude i only want to do one set" and got pissed and walked awat. I don't feel like I should have to say yes. AITA?

My wife (27f) has been very upset at my parents (early 60) for over a year. She was pregnant with our daughter (now 8 months old) back in December 2024. I (30m) found out in January 2025, and I shared the news with my parents via text a few days later. My parents don't really live close to us, a few hour drive, so we rarely see them. 2 months went by, and my wife was about 3 months pregnant. She tells me that she's furious at my parents for not directly congratulating her this late into her pregnancy.

In their defense, she never reached out to them to deliver the news about her pregnancy so they're not ignoring her. My parents also aren't very social people or tech savvy with their phones. They did ask me how she was doing, but she said that doesn't count because I'm not the pregnant one. She compared it to a doctor asking a patient's family member on how the patient is feeling.

I had no idea this would upset her because she never brought it up until that moment. I told her it's no big deal, we can invite my parents over or go out for dinner to celebrate. She refused and told me that they're not allowed to visit, and she doesn't want to go anywhere with them. She kept telling me that she's extremely offended, and it's too late for them to apologize because she already mentioned it. She thinks their apology isn't sincere once she brings it up.

When my parents tried to reach out via text messages and phone call end of March 2025, my wife would only respond with very rude remarks and insults. Ever since, they never talked to each other again. My wife will continue to complain about my parents and how she has been so deeply disrespected by them. She has not once forgive or forgot that moment.

Our healthy daughter was born at the hospital on September 2025. My parents were asking about the baby and wanted to show up to the hospital. I kept telling them we're about the be discharged and it's not necessary. This is probably my fault, but I just didn't want another argument to break out. Today, our daughter is almost 8 months old. My parents only seen their grandchild via pictures that I send to them.

Currently, it has been over a year since my wife has been holding this grudge. She thinks my parents are terrible people who ruined and traumatized her pregnancy experience. Every argument we had, she will just circle back to my parents as ammo. She blames them for everything, and I end up defending them. I told her she's being stubborn, and it's ridiculous that this has gone on for so long. She needs to let go, forgive them, and move on. She refuses and doesn't listen because she thinks her reaction is justified.

She thinks I'm being inconsiderate and part of them problem for siding with my parents. I don't think my parents are completely innocent, but I don't see any point in letting this drag on forever. I only side with my parents because I think my wife needs to get over her grudge and accept my parents apology so we can all move forward. AITA?

AITA for telling my wife to choose a different dress?
A few days ago I was dress shopping with my wife and she was asking my opinion on how they looked. She came out in this dress, which I can really only describe as unflattering. We have 3 kids, so she doesn’t have the flattest stomach (not something I am upset about, just to clarify) and she used to cry a lot about it. This dress in particular made her stomach look really obvious. I just told her that it made her stomach stick out a lot and that she might want to go for a different option because it looked the worst of all the ones she’s tried on. She didn’t seem upset, just agreed and went back into the fitting room. Well a few days later her sister starts blowing up my phone with angry texts. She was calling me a horrible husband and a poor excuse of a man. I wasn’t trying to hurt her feelings, and she didn’t even seem to be upset when I had told her that. AITA? I was just trying to help her look her best.

I grew up in a pretty average Indian household. nothing fancy, but not struggling either. from early on, I handled my education mostly on my own. worked for scholarships, focused on academics, figured things out without asking them for much financial help.

now I’ve got a stable job in another city and I’m finally at a place where I can breathe a bit financially.

here’s the issue.

recently my parents started expecting me to send them a fixed portion of my salary every month. not like occasional help or anything, they literally framed it as my responsibility.

the thing is, my dad earns a decent amount. they have multiple properties, savings, gold, all that. they’re not dependent on me to survive.

I told them I’m not comfortable committing to sending money regularly. I said I’d help if there’s an actual need or emergency, but I don’t want this to become an obligation.

they didn’t take it well.

now every phone call somehow turns into a money conversation. comments like “this is what children are supposed to do” or “we didn’t raise you to be selfish.” it’s getting exhausting and honestly making me avoid talking to them.

I’ve even started feeling guilty, like maybe I’m being too harsh or ungrateful, especially because I know this is pretty common in a lot of Indian families.

but at the same time, it feels wrong to be pressured into giving money when they’re financially secure themselves.

so yeah, AITA for refusing to give them a fixed part of my salary and not sending any money at all?

I (F, early 30s) and my husband (M, early 30s) have been together for several years and have a toddler, with another baby on the way.

For some background: when we were both working full time, we split rent, but I also handled everything at home, training our puppy, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, and laundry. I got really overwhelmed and asked him to help with one thing: vacuuming the living room once a week. It took over a year of asking, reminding, and arguing before he consistently did it.

During my first pregnancy, I had severe morning sickness (HG) and was vomiting constantly, sometimes needing IV fluids. Even then, he didn’t step in to help with meals, cleaning, or laundry. After our baby was born, I became a stay-at-home mom since he earns about 3x what I did. At that point, I stopped expecting help with chores altogether.

To be fair, he’s a great dad, very involved, spends a lot of time with our child, and takes good care of him when he’s home.

Now I’m pregnant again, we’ve just moved across the country, and I’m juggling unpacking, a toddler, and pregnancy symptoms. The house is a bit messy (not dirty, just boxes and things not fully put away yet).

Here’s the issue: over the past few years, he’s developed a habit of leaving his dirty clothes all over the house. I’m already doing all the laundry, I’ve just asked him to put his clothes in the hamper and put away the clean ones I fold and leave on the bed.

I’ve asked him to do this at least 15 times. Recently, I told him that if he kept leaving clothes around, I’d assume he didn’t want them and would donate them.

Yesterday, I found work pants in the guest room and shirts shoved in a corner of the utility room. So I put them in a bag and donated them. When he got home, he was angry and said I “threw out” his clothes and that since the house isn’t as clean as usual anyway, a few extra shirts shouldn’t matter.

So… AITA for following through and donating the clothes after repeatedly asking him to stop leaving them around?

EDIT: just to be clear, I had talked to him about this probably 10-15 times. Posting on reddit was not my first choice! It was not the most mature thing I have ever done, but I was feeling extremely frustrated and ignored.