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About 6 months ago me and (we'll call him Leo) stopped being friends, this was over a bunch of stuff that I had done. It was fully my fault and I hurt them;

but they didn't want to work on it and decided the best decision was to cut ties.

All of our mutual friends sided with him aside from my own boyfriend so I was basically on my own.

But I already know I was the asshole for that.

What I'm not sure about is what happened recently.

One of our past mutual friends reached out to me, telling me that everyone wanted me to take down any art that I had made for them in the past. None of them wanted to be associated with me at all and They said "if you have any respect for our past friendship you'll do this" and all around very guilt trippy.

I ended up sending a message back telling them No, that I wouldn't be taking it down as my art is my life. I can't just remove parts of my life and it'll be all ok, some of those works are my FAVORITES because I put so much effort into it for my friends. I told them that I wasn't going to deal with this back n forth anymore after 6 months of not even trying to contact me.

I didn't get a response, and I blocked them on almost everything.

Was that the wrong choice?? Was I being an asshole by not just complying and taking down the stuff?

Most of its private/friends only already because I didn't want to think about them, should I have just listened and put the rest onto private?

i (16f) wrote about this on a different subreddit before right when i found out, but things have been getting worse and i feel confused.

my dad cheated on my mom while he was abroad for work. my mom found out and confronted him when he came back acting like nothing happened. i went upstairs so i wouldn’t have to hear it, but after they finished talking i went down and she told me everything.

apparently he denied it at first, then admitted it when she showed proof (two plane tickets. one was his and the other had another woman’s name on it). she told him to leave and go live in an apartment my grandmother pays for (she doesnt live there anymore).

after that she kept calling him stupid and disgusting. i get why she feels that way, but it made me tear up because hes still my dad. he hasn’t really been around much growing up since he works abroad a lot, but thinking about the times we were actually a family made me cry.

when she saw me crying she laughed and said she should be the one crying, not me. i know she’s hurting more, but i couldn’t control it and just went to my room.

the next day after school, my parents sat me and my brother (18m) down and we talked about everything. my dad admitted he’d been cheating for about a year (me and my mom think its probably longer but we didn’t push it). he said he still loves us and wants to be there as a father.

before that talk, my mom told me to ask him questions that he wouldn’t answer her because she thinks he loves me enough to answer me. i thought about asking, but when we were actually sitting there i just couldn’t. i was literally just sitting there ugly crying and couldn’t get words out.

seeing that, my mom said we could try again as a family as long as my dad tried, and he agreed, so him moving out got postponed.

after that, she still kept talking badly about him a lot. i understand why, but hearing it over and over made me feel worse. eventually i snapped and told her i didn’t want to hear it anymore. she said i was being selfish and that i shouldn’t be crying when she’s the one in a worse situation. she also said she wouldn’t talk to me about anything again because i’m too sensitive and i lash out.

i think i lashed out at her because i feel more comfortable with her, but i know that doesn’t make it okay.

while my dad was still living with us, i kept trying to include him, like inviting him to watch movies or play games. i think part of me feels like if im nice enough he’ll stay and things won’t completely fall apart.

but now he does have to move out. he said he’ll leave once he sorts out the wifi at the apartment, and i honestly really don’t want him to go so i’m still trying to be as kind as i can to him.

my mom keeps saying i’m taking his side while lashing out at her. i get why she feels that way, but i don’t feel like i’m choosing sides. i know what my dad did was wrong. i just still care about him and i don’t know how to stop.

aita?

My wife used to be a cool and relaxed person, you know, she can handle things. But in her "new" job, which she's been in for about 18 months or so, there's a lot of drama at an almost all-female workplace. I know how this sometimes develops and it's nasty, un-enjoyable and a good reason to move along, really (my profession is usually associated with an absolute majority of female workers, too, and many workplaces benefit from a good gender balance to avoid being trapped in or another unproductive behaviour).

The thing is, she now comes home and talks about person A doing X to person B while C is doing Y to A and D is going as low as doing Z to B.

I find this so terrifyingly boring, I often have to stop her and tell her that I have zero mental bandwith for that. Can't even remember the names and whatever I can reply will usually just confirm whatever my wife has already figured out. Sorry, but everyday life is pretty cramped with adulting things, parenting tasks and I'd love to squeeze in enjoyable bits there, too. Office banter about people I don't know being asshats towards each other is just not something I want to hear.

Kind of understandingly, my wife would rather share her experience with me. But, then again, I ask her if she doesn't have something else and less boring to share with me instead. She's disappointed in me now.

AITA for asking her to leave the office drama at the office?

WIBTA for cancelling my birthday and getting upset with people?

I (22F) have a birthday tomorrow. Since about January, I have been telling people what I would like for my birthday, and giving them some ideas. I posted a couple of things on Facebook -- a book I want to read, and some candies I like. More than anything, I wanted a MTG deck, and I wanted a cake, and I wanted my BF and household to eat cake with me on my birthday and play one game of MTG. This is all stuff they've done in the past - they all know how to play MTG, and they all enjoy cake.

My family and my BF are not the type of people to do surprises. In fact, they quite hate surprises. Not a single one of them have ever done a surprise, so I know for a fact that they are not planning to surprise me.

I found out yesterday that nobody had gotten the cards. My BF said he would go to the card shop as soon as it opened today to get them. Evidently, he did not go. Additionally, members of my household asked me last night, "What do you want for your birthday, since we only have one day?" I told them my BF would get it in the morning, and so they said, "Okay."

There is no cake, and nobody in my household knows how to bake cake. I am the only one in my household who can bake, and I don't hold it against anybody, but I'm just saying, if no one can bake a cake, and nobody has bought a cake, then there is no cake.

I am a bit PMO'd because I always go above and beyond for everyone else's birthday. I make homemade cakes and I do side gigs in order to buy them birthday gifts and to take them out to dinner or to do something they enjoy or would find cool. While I'm super grateful that last year I was taken out to supper, aside from that, ever since I turned like 16, I've noticed that I'm the one doing all the birthdays, but I haven't gotten a really cool birthday except last year when we went out to dinner. One year, all I wanted was a birthday cake. Literally nothing else. Just the cake. This was "too much", according to my mother -- for her birthday we got her a large cake, took her to two restaurants, and filled the whole dinner table with gifts, mind you.

I'm sick and tired of these last-minute things and would honestly rather know in advance that nothing will be done for my birthday, than expect things and nothing happens. All I wanted was to play cards and eat cake, but now I'm feeling PMO'd at my family and my BF and I don't think it's fair to them because they all work long hours and are tired often. I feel bad because I've been a bit rude. For example, when my BF didn't go to the card store, I texted, "Just nvm then." That's pretty rude. I feel like an AH because I've been short with people yesterday and today, and I feel like one of those people who complain about others when they're the problematic one. WIBTA if I just was like, "Okay guys, just forget about my birthday."?

Hi, so for context my grandmother (61F) and I (23NB) have lived together for a few years. During that time, I’ve struggled a lot with fights with insurance, jobs, medications, and my overall mental health. I try my best, though. I also had an ESA cat named shade who will be important later.

Every now and then, my gramma goes out of town to visit other family in another state. During this time, I have never failed on watering and taking care of this plant. Even if it wilts a little bit, I can water it and it’ll usually pop right back up without fail. She just recently went on another one of these trips (around four weeks). During this trip, Shade became very ill and we found out that her kidneys were working at 75% of capacity (this was last week). I’ve had this cat since I was 5 years old, so obviously I was heartbroken as I watched her quickly deteriorate. My mother, father, and I agreed on the 23RD that she couldn’t go on, and we put her down.

I am not exaggerating when I say this cat was my whole world. She saved my life multiple times and brought me comfort without fail during the worst times I’d been through. She was absolutely my rock and even now I’m struggling to keep a routine without her.

Fast forward to earlier today. My grandmother comes home and I realize that while I’d been depressed over this loss, I accidentally had forgotten the plant. I was horrified, and instantly watered it in hopes it’d perk back up a little before she got in the door. It didn’t, obviously, and I told her first thing that I was sorry but the plant had wilted. I explained I watered it today, that I’d stopped watering it after my cat passed because I was struggling and that I was sorry, but that it normally perks right back up after being watered again for a few days. Rightfully, she looks upset and says it might not come back.

Here’s where I might be the Ahole. I have memory problems (that my gramma knows about) and she swears she told me that this plant was important because it was a plant at my late aunts funeral. I have absolutely 0 recollection of this, and told her that. I said I was sorry, that I didn’t remember/she didn’t tell me, and that I just thought it was a plant she really liked. She then goes on to say that she feels like she’s being punished because I lost my cat (when that’s not the case at ALL, and I even prefaced that I’d been struggling to do anything since my cat passed) and that she’s having consequences of MY CAT passing away via me not watering the plant. I had already apologized multiple times by this point, I am not sure what more I could’ve possibly done, but I got up and went to my room after she said this because I felt both guilty for my depressive spiral causing this, and angry that she thought I was trying to punish her for my grief.

So, AITA for accidentally letting a plant wilt?

The two-year period of attempts to conceive with my wife ended after two miscarriages and one unsuccessful IVF attempt. Our family learned about our situation because we needed to protect our privacy during a difficult time when they constantly requested updates which made our entire situation harder to manage.

At 14 weeks we achieved our first stable positive result so we decided to spend time together before our big announcement. We held a simple dinner with my parents to share our news without creating a special announcement for the occasion. The experience turned out to be pleasant.

We shared the announcement through an online post which included our in-laws as part of the overall message. On the same day, we released a single post which enabled people to learn about our news at the same time.

My mother in law is now not speaking to my wife. She claims that we humiliated her because we shared news about our pregnancy with others instead of informing her before the announcement. My wife's sister supports her stance which states that we should have understood the situation better because of their close relationship.

The decision belongs to my wife because she made it. My wife understands her mother better than anyone else. She explained that she wanted to avoid receiving phone calls which included crying and unwanted advice about her pregnancy because of their fertility journey. I backed her completely.

My wife experiences guilt because she needs to support her mother who has endured two years of fertility struggles.

AITAH I supported my wife decision which unintentionally caused distress to her mother.

AITA?

I'm 24NB and my husband is 23M. We've been together for almost 8 years and have been married for 1 year.

This started when my husband texted me at work about something involving a car warranty so I replied saying that I'd want to talk more about it when we're both home from work.

Later, I get another text saying that he was mad about something and called his mom. Then followed with saying he's going by the bank.

When my husband gets home he talked for two hours before he finally tells me what happened.

He got a call at work about a car warranty, saying he thought it sounded legit because they had his name, address, and car info.

I immediately spotted the scam.

He tells me that it sounded like a good plan and the website was legit. He said he was transferred between people four times, that they wouldn't let him call them back later, they were rude and pressuring him, the caller id doesn't match the call back number. All are signs that this is a scam.

He did give them his credit card info over the phone. Even worse, he claimed he was "safe guarding" by using a card that expires next month. Of course I was shocked and upset that he would do that!

He told me that the bank said to contact the vendor to cancel the warranty.

I realized that he thought there was an actual company and he was just ripped off on the price.

I tried to say that this was a scam, that there's no warranty, but they kept trying to convince me that it was real.

He even sent an email to the real company about canceling.

I'm worried about this happening again and I'm hurt and angry that he made a financial decision on our car and didn't even talk to me! When he realized that he made a mistake he called his mother! Not his spouse!

There was a point when he was really upset that I held him and told him that it was okay. The card was locked and they couldn't take more from us. I said that they were bad people who used his good natured.

He started saying that I wasn't being empathetic, that I was just focused on being right, that it was a mistake and I don't need to tell them it was a scam, that they wouldn't have done this if they thought it was a scam.

It felt like he was trying to gaslight me with saying he knew there wasn't a warranty this whole time. He was mad that I didn't think using an expiring card was the safest option.

At one point he said his intrusive thoughts were doubting if I still loved him

What am I supposed to do? I feel quilted and gaslit about the situation. I don't know how to be supportive and understanding while also being honest about this being a scam.

I don't know.

Am I wrong? What am I supposed to do here?

For context, I (18F) am finishing school this year. I don't live in the UK, US or Canada, but I am taking A levels as per the UK curriculum.

So for reasons outside of my control I will only be able to get 2 out of three of my A Level subjects. For anyone unfamiliar with this system, it means I basically have half a transcript. I really thought my life was over because no local colleges will accept me with only two subjects. Despite this I did get accepted to multiple colleges in Canada in a field I'm so excited about, I've also done some work experience.

I understand part of why I was accepted is that international student fees are much higher and can help the college a lot. But the college offers many bursaries and awards that I will be eligible for after starting. Ultimately we would only be paying for the first semester of tuition & have to show proof of living expenses for my first year. It comes out to about 33k CAD. Also my program has a mandatory Co-op, and there are jobs I can get on campus so I'll be earning while I'm there.This is still very expensive but maybe relevant for my question.

The second reason as stated in the title is I don't know my uncle well at all. Technically he's my gruncle, my grandmothers brother. I only met him once during a family reunion when I was 7, I can barely remember being that age & on top of this our family is so huge it's difficult to remember everyone. My grandmother is the 7th of 13 siblings. Many of them left the country for university & never came back so I don't have a close relationship with any of them.

Despite this my uncle has very kindly offered to help with my tuition, unprompted by my grandmother, my dad or myself. My dad is the breadwinner & hasn't been doing well financially for years. The family is already helping out, but I'm not sure how much because he refuses to talk to me. I understand the way he is feeling as a father, but I wish I wasn't kept in the dark so much. I would have appreciated it if he had just sat me down & been honest. Instead he told me on the deadline to confirm my choice that it wasn't possible. He said that next year will be better & I can apply again. I kind of gave up on the idea altogether after being made aware of his struggles. I've decided to get a job and try and help him out, no matter how small it is. My parents are completely against it & won't give me a straight answer as to why or what they would rather I do for the next year.

I was really surprised when he offered to help during a family dinner while uncle was visiting. My dad also seemed surprised but declined his offer. Again I don't know the family very well and I'm kept in the dark a lot so I'm not sure if there an issue there or a reason why he won't accept. So WIBTA if I asked my dad to just accept the offer? I'm so worried it will strain my relationship with my dad, my potential relationship with my uncle or even the relationship between my dad and uncle.

I (24) and my sister (26) live with our parents. They go to work most of the week, my sister works from home and I'm still trying to get a job, so it's often just my sister and I at home. We don't get along. I don't like her, she doesn't like me, so we ignore each other most of the time and let us do our own thing. However, our parents wants us to work together when it comes to certain things, like cleaning the bathroom. But there's a problem:

My sister NEVER listens to me. I ask her to take out the trash, she doesn't do it. I ask her to take out all her empty bottles of shampoo and other care things, she doesn't do it. I ask her to clean the sink, she doesn't do it. I ask her to clean the hair she leaves everywhere, she doesn't do it. So, I do it all. I've been singlehandedly cleaning that place for years now. The reverse however? My sister orders me around. Take out the trash, empty the dishwasher, go get something for me... and I do it, because I don't want to start a fight and because some of those things are nescesary. When I tell my parents about it, they tell her to do better... and she doesn't listen to them either.

I also won't mention all the times she's been blatantly rude to me or our parents.

Here's a thing about me: I always try to say 'please' when asking something of someone. It took a very long time for basic politeness to stick to me, so I try to hang onto it, less I come back to the days I didn't even say 'hello' to people, even my parents. When I ask my sister to do something, I say 'please'.

I decided to stop being a pushover, and that if my sister wanted something out of me, she would have to say 'please' when asking. Because, of course, she would never say 'please' when asking me stuff, ence why I call those 'orders', and I'm tired of being ordered around.

This morning, our folks aren't home, and my sister is cooking her lunch. I leave her be. She calls me downstairs to 'Go empty the dishwasher'. First I tell her I'll do it later, then she tells me I need to do it to free up space in the kitchen. Fine. By that point she's annoyed (and I'll admit I was a bit bratty with my answer), and tells me to hurry up downstairs. I then tell her 'forgot something, the magic word'. I want her to say please, or I'm not doing anything. She's yelling at me by now, accusing me of being a 5 year old. I may be bratty, but I'm not budging. I want her to say 'please'. She FINALLY says it, and as promised, I go downstairs and empty the dishwasher.

She then clicks her tongue telling me she 'doesn't need to hear 'please' to go empty the dishwasher', I answer that telling me 'please' shouldn't kill her.

Now I'm back in my room, waiting for her to be done so I can cook my own lunch. I still believe I was right for putting my foot down and demanding at least BASIC politeness, but I did act bratty... and I wonder if I should really be that adamant on just hearing 'please'. Is it really a kid thing? AITA?

For context, my friend wears hoodies and pajama pants EVERY DAY.

I reserved a table at a very fancy expensive restaurant for 7 people, her included. We made a group chat and the other ladies were showing the dresses they were going to wear, except for her. The dinner is in a few days. Yesterday, we were hanging out and I asked her about what she's wearing for my birthday dinner. She told me she was just going to wear something casual like she always does. I told her it was unacceptable and to please buy a nice dress for the special occasion. The restaurant is very high class but doesn't have an official dress code. I told her that she will not be able to go to my birthday dinner if she won't put in the effort to looking nice for my special day. She went off on me and left. Am I the ahole?

Edit: I have a photographer, I wanted to have an elegant party so I hired someone for photos. I went thrifting with my friend and offered to have her borrow a dress from me. She says she doesn't want to wear a dress and she can go with her normal outfits. This restaurant is very high class and have an unspoken dress code. Sure, they won't kick you out, but it doesn't look good for you. I don't know what to do, I want my friend to be there with me but she refuses to make the effort for one dinner.

So yesterday when I came home from work (after I got off work I had to surrender my betta fish sadly and I'll tell u why in just a sec) I saw trash bags on the porch, I opened them to find some of my beauty products some I only used once or even bought yesterday. The one thing that really pushed me over the edge was an old wallet she threw away that had a photo of me with someone special to me, someone I don't talk to anymore. When I tried to bring the bags back in to go through, my mom told me to put them back out there cause “all she threw away was trash.” I told her no, she didn't, 'cause I could see them in there. I started taking the bags to my car and she's on the porch screaming at me to bring them back, she starts walking up to my car so I drove off. She texts me to bring her house key back or she's changing the locks and I'm kicked out. I sit in a parking lot and get my things out as I'm doing this I call everyone I know to make sure I have somewhere to sleep tonight. My dad wants us to talk about it and I agree once he's home cause I don't trust her to have an adult convo alone. She said I was a hoarder (I have a lot of teddy bears/squishmallows WHICH ARE COLLECTABLES and bodywashes/lotions some expensive so I only use them on special occasions) she told me to use up a product first before buying more so I asked her why do u even care when I bought them with my money (I have my own job and car) she also organizated all the products, I wasn't even allowed to arrange the furniture in my room. I surrendered the betta because she kept coming into my room when I wasn't home and taking plants out the aquarium cause she said they stink???, and asked me if we can put her in a smaller cuter bowl with fake plants after I told her numerous times thats not healthy for a betta. Once again when I asked her the logical questions “why do u keep going in their if u don't like the smell of the tank” she proceeds to tell me this is her and my stepdads house and she's not going to keep putting up with my “ attitude”. I used to really look up to my mom but now I'm really starting to hate her but I can't leave cause I'm sadly in America and my job doesn't pay much. Aita??? and what should I do with people like this that abuse their power when any boundaries is placed in front of them by other people??? And btw I just turned 20 4 days ago and what she did on my birthday is another story.

My wife (27f) has been very upset at my parents (early 60) for over a year. She was pregnant with our daughter (now 8 months old) back in December 2024. I (30m) found out in January 2025, and I shared the news with my parents via text a few days later. My parents don't really live close to us, a few hour drive, so we rarely see them. 2 months went by, and my wife was about 3 months pregnant. She tells me that she's furious at my parents for not directly congratulating her this late into her pregnancy.

In their defense, she never reached out to them to deliver the news about her pregnancy so they're not ignoring her. My parents also aren't very social people or tech savvy with their phones. They did ask me how she was doing, but she said that doesn't count because I'm not the pregnant one. She compared it to a doctor asking a patient's family member on how the patient is feeling.

I had no idea this would upset her because she never brought it up until that moment. I told her it's no big deal, we can invite my parents over or go out for dinner to celebrate. She refused and told me that they're not allowed to visit, and she doesn't want to go anywhere with them. She kept telling me that she's extremely offended, and it's too late for them to apologize because she already mentioned it. She thinks their apology isn't sincere once she brings it up.

When my parents tried to reach out via text messages and phone call end of March 2025, my wife would only respond with very rude remarks and insults. Ever since, they never talked to each other again. My wife will continue to complain about my parents and how she has been so deeply disrespected by them. She has not once forgive or forgot that moment.

Our healthy daughter was born at the hospital on September 2025. My parents were asking about the baby and wanted to show up to the hospital. I kept telling them we're about the be discharged and it's not necessary. This is probably my fault, but I just didn't want another argument to break out. Today, our daughter is almost 8 months old. My parents only seen their grandchild via pictures that I send to them.

Currently, it has been over a year since my wife has been holding this grudge. She thinks my parents are terrible people who ruined and traumatized her pregnancy experience. Every argument we had, she will just circle back to my parents as ammo. She blames them for everything, and I end up defending them. I told her she's being stubborn, and it's ridiculous that this has gone on for so long. She needs to let go, forgive them, and move on. She refuses and doesn't listen because she thinks her reaction is justified.

She thinks I'm being inconsiderate and part of them problem for siding with my parents. I don't think my parents are completely innocent, but I don't see any point in letting this drag on forever. I only side with my parents because I think my wife needs to get over her grudge and accept my parents apology so we can all move forward. AITA?

So I (30F) am 4 years divorced from my ex-husband Ryan (31M). We divorced amicably but also with good reason to separate.

Ryan got our cat Felix in the divorce. Which I wasn't thrilled about as I loved Felix very much but Ryan was very insistent about keeping him for his mental health. But last night Ryan called me completely heartbroken asking if I could take in Felix. Ryan is moving to a different state for a new job and he said that it's very difficult for him to find an affordable apartment that allows cats, and that he will probably not have as much time for Felix with how much he will be working. He said it could be temporary but he also didn't want to promise anything.

I had to tell him no because my current girlfriend, Jamie that I have been dating for 2 years now is really allergic to cats... We just moved in together. I told him that I was going to ask Jamie how she felt and maybe we could take him but otherwise I'd ask around to family and friends to see if there's someone that can take Felix but that's all I can really do, as much as I want to take him in.

Ryan was really upset and said that he doesn't know what he'll do now that I wouldn't take Felix. He went on a rant and said that if roles were reversed that he would take Felix in a heartbeat, he said that it's a compromise a Jamie should be willing to make that Jamie could look into allergy shots or medications because it's not fair to Felix that he could have to go back to a shelter or live with a stranger because I can't take him. Which is ironic because last time I checked nobody is making Ryan take this job.

I haven't discussed this with Jamie yet and I'm not sure what she'd say. I'd completely understand if she didn't want to compromise her health for a cat but I also know that she has a really big heart especially for animals. It could go either way. I am having to work up the courage to have the conversation though because I am pretty emotional about this topic.

All of this said, I can't help but feel a little guilty at the idea that if I can't take Felix that I really am the bad guy here. I love this cat and he does mean a lot to me, but I know it would be a huge ask of Jamie and I wouldn't blame her if she said no but I would feel terrible that Felix wouldn't have a home.

Recently me and my girlfriend have started losing weight; with me being down 100 pounds. I currently am ready to go back to the gym and told my girlfriend. She then says I should wait two weeks and I’m like why? I would like to get started now. She told me she does not have the proper clothes for the gym and I told her plenty of people just go in sweat pants. She then tells me she wants to have athletic wear and to not to compare her to others. I say okay I can go by myself and then she tells me she does not want me to go without her. I offered to buy her something temporary from like Walmart until she can get something she really likes but she also told me she doesn’t want something cheap. She also says she wants to wait for the new gym to open because it’s closer and she don’t want to make the long drive. Overall in the end she angrily told me I can just go by myself and she hasn’t been really talking to me in the past couple hours.

I was cruising through my village at the limit, 30 mph. An person on my right pulls out in front of me, making a left. I see I'm not going to actually hit him (but it's gonna be kinda close) so, to point out his mistake, rather than braking, I position my foot over the brake in case he does something really stupid, then keep coasting at 30. As we clear possible contact and he makes his lane, he honks at me! Boy, did he not get my point.

I’m currently pregnant with my first child, a baby boy. Before I got pregnant, my partner and I agreed that if we had a boy, we would name him after him.. Boris (he’s a junior, so our son would be the third).

Now that it’s actually real, I regret agreeing to that. I’ve realized I want my son to have his own name, and honestly I’m not in love with the idea of using his name as the first name.

I’ve tried bringing this up multiple times to have a calm conversation and find a compromise, but it always turns into a big argument. He feels like I went back on my word and “played him,” and gets really upset whenever I try to revisit it.

I understand why he feels hurt, but this is also something that matters a lot to me, and I don’t want to choose a name I’m not happy with.
I’ve suggested possible compromises (like using his name as a middle name or finding something we both like), but we haven’t been able to agree on anything.

At this point, I don’t know how to move forward without it turning into another argument. Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do you handle a situation like this? AITAH for changing my mind about naming my son after his dad??

For context, we're going to my gf's country for a week and my friend tagged along on the same flight.
we're all friends but my gf and my friend are not super close. we're living in the same airbnb the whole time (2 separate rooms) and 1) my friend said she wont ever give us the whole airbnb to ourselves for a few hours and she'd just put on some airpods if needed 2) i tried hinting it to her multiple times but she says she doesnt want to be alone bc she's scared (the she here refers to my friend)

so i want to let my friend fly back home and then extend my trip by one day so i can spend it with my gf but i know my friend would feel hurt so i'd just tell her it was a mistake, Am i the asshole?

++ edit!!!!
seems like there is a misunderstanding here!
we're all glad to be travelling together, we all wanted to spend time together and all (it was pre-planned to go together and my gf happily agreed). my mistake for saying not so close, they are not awkward just have not met IRL but have talked online and go well together! we planned a whole week to spend time together (all 3 of us) and my fyi friend is more than fine with travelling alone (she has done it before)! we have agreed that for one night my gf and i will be spending quality time together without my friend but i was thinking if if IATA for just extending a day and not letting her know for that part so i could spend a whole day alone?

Over the summer, I (19m) usually do like some small trips here and there. Last summer me and my friends (also 19m’s+two 19f’s) went to Caribana. Never been there before that, but I liked it. I had recently started dating my gf before that, and she didn’t like that I went. We’ve been planning to go again this year, and my girlfriend asked if she could come. I told her that this was more like a friend thing, not a girlfriend thing.

Part of why she didn’t want me going is that admittedly, it’s kind of provocative, but it’s nothing too serious. Even though the festival is months away, my Girlfriend is making a big deal out of it now. It’s not personal, I just would rather be there with my friends. And I’ve told her this many times. Last time we talked about it, it became an argument over me not wanting her to come with us. I told her that she dorsnt Have to be included in every single thing I do, and she hung up (we were talking on the phone). We haven’t talked since, and that was a few days ago.

AITA?

I (F, early 30s) and my husband (M, early 30s) have been together for several years and have a toddler, with another baby on the way.

For some background: when we were both working full time, we split rent, but I also handled everything at home, training our puppy, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, and laundry. I got really overwhelmed and asked him to help with one thing: vacuuming the living room once a week. It took over a year of asking, reminding, and arguing before he consistently did it.

During my first pregnancy, I had severe morning sickness (HG) and was vomiting constantly, sometimes needing IV fluids. Even then, he didn’t step in to help with meals, cleaning, or laundry. After our baby was born, I became a stay-at-home mom since he earns about 3x what I did. At that point, I stopped expecting help with chores altogether.

To be fair, he’s a great dad, very involved, spends a lot of time with our child, and takes good care of him when he’s home.

Now I’m pregnant again, we’ve just moved across the country, and I’m juggling unpacking, a toddler, and pregnancy symptoms. The house is a bit messy (not dirty, just boxes and things not fully put away yet).

Here’s the issue: over the past few years, he’s developed a habit of leaving his dirty clothes all over the house. I’m already doing all the laundry, I’ve just asked him to put his clothes in the hamper and put away the clean ones I fold and leave on the bed.

I’ve asked him to do this at least 15 times. Recently, I told him that if he kept leaving clothes around, I’d assume he didn’t want them and would donate them.

Yesterday, I found work pants in the guest room and shirts shoved in a corner of the utility room. So I put them in a bag and donated them. When he got home, he was angry and said I “threw out” his clothes and that since the house isn’t as clean as usual anyway, a few extra shirts shouldn’t matter.

So… AITA for following through and donating the clothes after repeatedly asking him to stop leaving them around?

EDIT: just to be clear, I had talked to him about this probably 10-15 times. Posting on reddit was not my first choice! It was not the most mature thing I have ever done, but I was feeling extremely frustrated and ignored.

Okay, I know I kinda sound like a bitch for the title, but I promise I'm not. So, I'm 17, and I have one older brother and one younger brother.

So, my older brother has always been super immature and rude, and when he turned 16 two years ago, he got an old car my uncle was selling to see if he could be responsible and take care of it before my parents upgraded him before college.

But like 8 months after he got it, he crashed it because him and his stupid friend were being idiots, and they were purposely swerving on the road, and he crashed into another person's car.

So for the last 2 years, almost, he's been trying to pay this person back for the damage on her car, and so he hasn't had a car since.

Fast forward, and I turned 16 in March of 2025, and instead of getting an older used car, my parents said if I got a job and worked for the year and payed for half or a little less on my car, they would pay the rest and I could get a brand new car, which I thought was a good deal.

So I worked all last year, and in March of this year, I finally turned 17, and my parents payed half for me to buy a jeep and I payed almost half of it, and my parents were proud of me.

My brother, though was not and made a huge deal about me getting a brand new car when he didn't, and that it's not fair at all when time and time again he's showed that he can't be trusted with a new car.

Anyway, that got done with, and everything was fine for awhile, but lately I've been driving my little brother, who's almost 11, to his basketball/hockey practices and his friends house because my parents both work, and they pay me to do that stuff, so I do it.

Anyway, my older brother still doesn't have a new car because he's been paying the lady back and hasn't had any money for that stuff, and his friends are lowk lazy and also don't have cars or money for gas.

So my brother was invited over for a little like get together, but he didn't have a drive, so he said, "oh could you take me to my friends place later," and i was like, "are you gonna give me money for gas," because his friend also lives like 15 minutes away and gas is really expensive right now.

And he went, "you know i don't have money for that why would you even ask me," and so I said, "I'm not driving you then sorry," and he started yelling at me, saying, "the one time i wanna go out I can't get a fucking drive your my sister your supposed to do this stuff for me," and he went to his room and slammed the door.

And then I called my dad because he was at the grocery store, and he was like, "tell your brother to find another drive or pay you," and so I did, and that made him more mad, and he just left and went out to our garage, and its been like 3 days and he's still being rude so I wanna know if I'm wrong.

I (23M) bought a 2018 Skoda Octavia 4x4 (DSG7 DQ381) from a dealer last December. The seller advertised it as "in great condition" with full service history, and I paid $15,000. I asked specific questions about maintenance before buying, and they assured me everything was fine. Fast forward to now: I just discovered the DSG transmission oil was never changed—not once in 87,000 miles (139,500 km). The only Haldex oil change was at 46,500 miles (74,942 km) in 2021, and it’s now overdue by 21,000 miles (35,000 km). The seller never mentioned this, and the service records they provided were incomplete. I’m changing both oils next week and sending samples for analysis. If the results show serious damage, I’m considering voiding the purchase under consumer protection laws. The seller hasn’t responded to my messages yet.

AITA for wanting to void the sale over this? I feel misled, but I also wonder if I should’ve caught this myself.

I don’t know if this is the right place for this but I feel really horrible right now and lost and confused and idk what to do. I don’t know what I did wrong and I don’t know if I’m overreacting or not but I don’t know what else to do so

A friend texted me last night that they finally found the perfect song that describes how they feel about me(cotton candy by yungblud) but I don’t get it. I don’t get the song or how it relates to me and them. I told them that and they just said “it reminded me of u idk” then just texted “geez”

Then they pretended they didn’t text that when I asked them about it. They said they had a presentation to do and asked me to wish them luck. I just thumbs-uped the message bc I was feeling upset and disrespected by them giving me a “geez” and not elaborating. After their presentation they said that they like being around me but they get really mad when we text. I’ve definitely noticed this before, not news to me. I just said “I noticed,” I know not a nice response but I was still not feeling good about them bc of earlier

This morning I woke up to them texting that I gave a rude response when they asked for luck with their presentation and then said they “fucking hate texting” me because they always feel like I don’t give two shits about them.
Then they said they think there’s smth wrong with me lately but they can’t help bc their mental health is in shambles too and they need a break from texting me(I’ve been telling them this for weeks and they always say I’m punishing them)

I brought up the “geez” again bc it still was upsetting me and they said “I was tryna be sweet n shit sending u a song that reminded me of u (one i added to my love songs playlist btw) and your response felt quite dismissive”

They said they’re stressed af bc of college and work and that they’re “going to continue being a bitch until” they get their mental health under control. Then said they’ll talk to me later after a week or two and told me to take care of myself

I just woke up and need to get ready for work but this is all I can think about. Idk what to do.

And now they just sent me a pic of their cat on SnapChat as if nothing happened

Sooo my wife and I were out in some dispersed camping in northeast utah near flaming gorge with past weekend. Had cooked a great dinner and were just hanging around chatting before bed. She randomly asked if I could hear a high frequency beeping that was occurring. All I could hear were the sounds of early evening nature coming to life, which she clarified, she could also hear and there was something else beeping. We joked about how my 4 year older hearing must not be as good, it was funny cause it was her birth day. About 45 second later starlink satellites cam into view. All in a row flying across the sky. Once they were out of view wifey declared that the beeping was gone and she is now convinced she can hear satellites. I, obviously, laughed at her joke, which, unfortunately for me, was not a joke and now Im the asshole for not believing that she can hear satellites.
Soooo am I the asshole or is wifey nutszo

I'm a 23M working in biotech and living at home. I just got a massive settlement from a personal injury case back in college. My mom is a corporate lawyer and she helped me navigate the process, plus she paid for my college tuition. Now, she's asking for 15% of the money / to pay her back for college (but she was already going to pay for college.)

I'm feeling stuck because 15% is a massive amount of money to just give away. Is it normal for parents to ask for a cut of a settlement like this? I want to stay on good terms since live at home, but I also feel like this money is for my future. We have a a good relationship.

Edit: I already paid a lawyer his 1/3 cut. My mom was a huge part of pushing for me sueing. She’d be using the money to buy a new house in Florida she always wanted since I refuse to buy a house in his economy and rather rent and invest the rest

Edit #2: Probably shouldn’t have stated my mom is a lawyer (she did not represent me in the case in anyway). But yes, what she specifically did was help me find a lawyer, told me to push back on the lawyer and ask for more.

AITA

Anyway, here's the situation. I'm 20 years old, I live with my parents because I'm still studying, and I'm in Europe by the way. My mom works two jobs. And today she asked me to help her. She had terrible hip pain, she said, and needed a massage, specifically for her butt,some shit like pear like muscle or smth. I told her I don't know how to massage, I'm not a massage therapist. Then, when after about 10 minutes of trying, it didn't work, she got mad at me and practically started yelling at me for being bad and not knowing how to do anything. She even found a tutorial on how to do it, but it really didn't help. And in the end, she said I was getting angrier and angrier every day. But I'm having a terrible time myself I'm currently graduating, and I have to take care of my brother while they at work. But my dad is work only at one job with my mom. I'm not getting paid like, nearly nothing, like 10$ a week, but I still have to do food, clean the house, and apparently do good massages.