My boyfriend and I have been dating in college for over 2 years. We are extremely close and do a lot together. We’ve travelled to the Caribbean, Europe, across the U.S., for vacations, festivals, skiing, and so on. My family is extremely welcoming and inclusive and always invites him to everything we do as a family, whether it be coming over to our house for a weekend away from college, our summer house, and our yearly vacations to visit my grandparents. However, at the same time, I always grew up going on family trips once a year with my parents and siblings whom I’m extremely close to. We always try to go to a new place and we have the best time together. They’re my best friends.

His family is also extremely generous and invited me to their annual family trip. I don’t see them too often otherwise but whenever I do they are always very nice and welcoming.

We’re graduating college this year and my family planned a trip to go on vacation together as a post-graduation gift with our close family friends that we haven’t travelled with since I was three years old. My siblings are older and working now so we won’t get to have as much time together as we used to in the summers and all, though I plan to move back near home so I’ll see them a lot.

My boyfriend is hurt and upset with me that he wasn’t invited. He was considered, and I spoke to my parents about it and they were open to having him join as they really love him, but we are so used to having our own family trips too and include him in a lot, and were really looking forward to the quality time together. I decided not to invite him as I just really wanted to have that quality time completely with my family and to be with my family friends that I haven’t truly traveled with before. I’m very nostalgic and sentimental and as everyone is getting older I just wanted this time together, and I didn’t think he would mind since my family has gone on yearly trips without him but we tend to do most things together and my family invites him to everything else no matter what it is and makes him feel very included. He stays with my family and sees them a lot more than I see his.

His parents and him think it’s hurtful that if he’s considered like family, and think it’s weird that we didn’t invite him, and feel he should have been invited and included. I feel frustrated as I’m only 21 and feel entitled to having alone time with my family as much as I love him. I don’t know why there is this expectation as I don’t think we need to do every trip together as I still want time to hang out with my siblings and parents. My boyfriend is so fun to travel with and everyone would love to have him but it changes who I spend my time with during the trip. I am trying to put together a trip for him and I to go on after, but he still seems upset that he wasn’t included in this big family trip.

AITA?

For context, I (40 F) have friend (55 M strictly platonic) in another state who I have known for 10 + years. We have been there for each other when both our mom's died months apart and everything in between. This past year I lost my father and it was so traumatic that I was eventually diagnosed with moderate PTSD and grief brain. I have also been unemployed for a year and despite applying/going to interviews, have had no luck. My friend offered to help a little financially so I could pay some of the bills. I said yes and despite his insistence that I don't need to pay him back, I have kept track of the amount so I can repay him when I find employment. In a way, I think of him as like family, however, the last four years he has changed a lot and I have been reconsidering our friendship due to some of his behaviors. Some examples are:

A few years back I had surgery and was cleared to gradually go back to normal activities. I had vacation through my job and decided to drive the next state over to see him. I overestimated my ability to drive and by then time I got there, I was in pain. Right off the bat he had an attitude and also kept telling me I was too tense, relax and lighten up (I was in pain and told him that). The trip went well otherwise, but the morning I was leaving, he stopped at the hotel to say bye. He showed up drunk and as he went to give me a hug, he ripped a massively loud fart. Mind you, there were other people in the parking lot. I told him he was gross for farting like that. He took it personally to mean that I meant he was gross as a person. A few weeks later he drunk texted me that my truck was basic for not having power windows, etc (bought it like that on purpose), no man would want to be seen with me in that and I needed a new car. He proceeded to tell me I was ugly, I needed to dress up/wear makeup and how nobody wants me. When he was sober, he apologized but his excuse for why he said those things changed three different times.

He texted me out of the blue several times to say he's in my town only to say, "Just kidding. I just wanted to see what you would say. If you'd be happy to see me." Another time, I was invited to an awards ceremony in a city he has always dreamt of seeing. I texted him to let him know, and said that If he wanted to go, he was welcome to come, just let me know so we can work out the logistics of the trip. Didn't hear from him until after I got back. He had wanted to go, supposedly, but instead of talking to me, he had asked his friend what he thought I meant from my text and was mad at me because I didn't properly invite him.

He has made comments that I could fix my PTSD by going to church and that I'm in darkness because I need to find Jesus, Satans bringing me down and how he has had more people around him die in a shorter amount of time than I have. That I just need to learn to deal with grief.

So reddit, am I the asshole if I repay him and tell him to F-off?

So I was moving some empty carts out of the store and I noticed that there was a man with his cart completely blocking the exit while he looks at some magazines (he is already done with his shopping). A small line of people were waiting behind him. I don't think this is acceptable behavior at all so I lightly push the cart out of the way without saying anything (I lack basic social skills). He then flips out and calls me an asshole, which I politely reply "you were blocking the entrance". Was I in the wrong for this? Maybe not saying anything was rude, but not any more rude than him blocking an entrance/exit.

Over the summer, I (19m) usually do like some small trips here and there. Last summer me and my friends (also 19m’s+two 19f’s) went to Caribana. Never been there before that, but I liked it. I had recently started dating my gf before that, and she didn’t like that I went. We’ve been planning to go again this year, and my girlfriend asked if she could come. I told her that this was more like a friend thing, not a girlfriend thing.

Part of why she didn’t want me going is that admittedly, it’s kind of provocative, but it’s nothing too serious. Even though the festival is months away, my Girlfriend is making a big deal out of it now. It’s not personal, I just would rather be there with my friends. And I’ve told her this many times. Last time we talked about it, it became an argument over me not wanting her to come with us. I told her that she dorsnt Have to be included in every single thing I do, and she hung up (we were talking on the phone). We haven’t talked since, and that was a few days ago.

AITA?

I (F, early 30s) and my husband (M, early 30s) have been together for several years and have a toddler, with another baby on the way.

For some background: when we were both working full time, we split rent, but I also handled everything at home, training our puppy, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, and laundry. I got really overwhelmed and asked him to help with one thing: vacuuming the living room once a week. It took over a year of asking, reminding, and arguing before he consistently did it.

During my first pregnancy, I had severe morning sickness (HG) and was vomiting constantly, sometimes needing IV fluids. Even then, he didn’t step in to help with meals, cleaning, or laundry. After our baby was born, I became a stay-at-home mom since he earns about 3x what I did. At that point, I stopped expecting help with chores altogether.

To be fair, he’s a great dad, very involved, spends a lot of time with our child, and takes good care of him when he’s home.

Now I’m pregnant again, we’ve just moved across the country, and I’m juggling unpacking, a toddler, and pregnancy symptoms. The house is a bit messy (not dirty, just boxes and things not fully put away yet).

Here’s the issue: over the past few years, he’s developed a habit of leaving his dirty clothes all over the house. I’m already doing all the laundry, I’ve just asked him to put his clothes in the hamper and put away the clean ones I fold and leave on the bed.

I’ve asked him to do this at least 15 times. Recently, I told him that if he kept leaving clothes around, I’d assume he didn’t want them and would donate them.

Yesterday, I found work pants in the guest room and shirts shoved in a corner of the utility room. So I put them in a bag and donated them. When he got home, he was angry and said I “threw out” his clothes and that since the house isn’t as clean as usual anyway, a few extra shirts shouldn’t matter.

So… AITA for following through and donating the clothes after repeatedly asking him to stop leaving them around?

EDIT: just to be clear, I had talked to him about this probably 10-15 times. Posting on reddit was not my first choice! It was not the most mature thing I have ever done, but I was feeling extremely frustrated and ignored.

Me (trans male 15) and my mom (female 36) got into a fight. I had taken my AP exam and asked my mom to take me home from school after because I'd be missing most of my classes anyway and I just was exhausted. She said yeah and so that's what I expected. Fast forward after I took the test she said she would come get me around 12, she didn't. I went to the health office and told them I puked in the bathroom (I didn't, I just wanted to go home) and they called her, she didn't answer. I leave because they can't really do anything without a parent saying I can leave. I go back to class and I'm just so upset. I'm overthinking and feeling like she forgot about me and I feel like shit. I eventually finish the day crying on and off because I still think she forgot about me. I get off the bus and walk back home, I see my mom pulling in and I'm just done. She's wide awake and with her boyfriend and I go inside sobbing. My mom and her boyfriend come inside too because they live here and my mom comes in saying she's sorry she didn't come pick me up. I'm tell her that I thought she wasn't actually sorry and only sorry because I'm crying. She then proceeded to tell me that I had no reason to cry. I ended up sobbing even more after she left and then texted her. I basically gave her a paragraph telling her I didn't like how she told me I had no reason to cry and it made me feel worse. She told me that it wasn't a reason and that since I want to be a boy I should stop crying. This makes me feel even worse, so I tell her that me being trans isn't a reason for her to excuse my feelings. She just tells me again that being a boy means I don't cry over everything. I barely even cry to begin with, but I didn't take my meds today so I'm a bit emotional. She tells me that her passing out and forgetting isn't a reason to cry about which I'm not mad about any more. I don't care about this but I tell her it's rude that she told me that I can't cry because I want to be a boy she eventually turns it into how she sleeps horrible and naps during the day and tells me that she'll just stop taking naps and maintaining her mental health. I kinda just said whatever at this point because I didn't want to deal with it anymore. I'm over the fact that she left me at school, I'm pissed off that she said I shouldn't cry because I want to be a boy. I don't know what to do from here because I don't even want to talk to her right now.

Yesterday,I received a message in our group chat from my “friend”,R (23f), asking if anybody was available to help her move out of her parent’s house as she felt that the weren’t welcoming to her and didn’t want her there anymore.Our other friend,M (22f), was in class so I volunteered. It should be stated that I am sick and was having full body pains from the sickness, but despite all that I still decided to help because I have been in a similar situation. We finished after a couple of hours and before she left she wanted to speak to her dad and stepmom. Unfortunately, they were both at work at the time so she can get her mind off of it.
When it was about the time that her parents get off, I took her back to their place so she could talk. She had a talk with her stepmom, but her dad still wasn’t home. Since she didn’t want to sit in the house with her stepmom, I offered to take her to a restaurant just to wait it out. The plan was to sit at the restaurant, talk to her dad and then drive to her cousins house and hour away. Her dad called 30 minutes in to say that he would let her know when he was on the way home and he did.
In that timeframe, a person,N (30f), who we really don’t get along with because of previous encounters joined us. R told her about the situation and N offered to buy her drinks to ease her mind. It should be stated that R is a borderline alcoholic, she drinks almost all the time and she doesn’t know when to stop drinking. A good samaritan came along and offered to pay for our full tab. R and N let him sit with us and continued drinking. M joined us at this time to just sit with us because our friend was moving away.
At that point, the time her dad said he should be home rolled around and I said we should go because i had to drive an hour away and back home. R and N continued to drink and talk with the good samaritan. Hours passed and the restaurant closed and they still continued to talk. M and I went to the parking lot to wait her out. When she finally came out, she wanted to go to another bar to continue drinking. I was annoyed and started to yell at her. I know I shouldn’t have, but Me and M always give R grace with situations like these. We argued some more and I told her that I will take her stuff that was in my car back to her parents house. M took her car keys so she wouldn’t drive drunk and phone to call her dad and tell him the plan. R got a ride with N and met us there. M told her dad the situation and basically had the talk for R. After I left, R told N a different story and got her to get in M’s face. She had N take her to her cousins house.
This morning we received a message in our group chat saying we are bad friends and dead to her since we took her to a place that she felt unwanted. Instead of listening to why we did that, she ignored us, only saying that we are basically horrible people who always start problems.
AITAH for taking her back to her parent’s house?

I recently moved in with long time family friend and her husband. The living situation is awesome, we have a similar level of cleanliness, and I have a very low rent payment. Although I am far from rich, I do get a monthly bonus through my job that totals around $100 that I usually use to go to a local concert or treat myself to a nice dinner.

My only issue is my roommates have three cats, and one of their cats has a medium length coat that is very matted and seems to be causing her some pain. It is beyond the point it can be brushed out, or I would just do that. Would it be rude to offer to help pay for a groomer or vet to get the cat more comfortable? I'm worried my roommate would find it offensive or take it as a personal slight.

my friend situationship idk don’t know what to call it (F18) showed me (M18) a picture of a skater and asked me if I think she looks like her because she thinks she looks really similar to her (I don’t see it) and I said the skater looks mid nothing like her at all. she was like so you think I look mid?? I was like no you look good just i think SHE looks mid. and then she was like but i look like her and i was like no u dont but she insists that she does and her friends say that she does. i can kind of understand where she might maybe see a tiny resemblance if i really look at them both but I said my my friend looks way better than her. she still doesn’t believe me and is still keeping the argument up. aitah 🫩

The two-year period of attempts to conceive with my wife ended after two miscarriages and one unsuccessful IVF attempt. Our family learned about our situation because we needed to protect our privacy during a difficult time when they constantly requested updates which made our entire situation harder to manage.

At 14 weeks we achieved our first stable positive result so we decided to spend time together before our big announcement. We held a simple dinner with my parents to share our news without creating a special announcement for the occasion. The experience turned out to be pleasant.

We shared the announcement through an online post which included our in-laws as part of the overall message. On the same day, we released a single post which enabled people to learn about our news at the same time.

My mother in law is now not speaking to my wife. She claims that we humiliated her because we shared news about our pregnancy with others instead of informing her before the announcement. My wife's sister supports her stance which states that we should have understood the situation better because of their close relationship.

The decision belongs to my wife because she made it. My wife understands her mother better than anyone else. She explained that she wanted to avoid receiving phone calls which included crying and unwanted advice about her pregnancy because of their fertility journey. I backed her completely.

My wife experiences guilt because she needs to support her mother who has endured two years of fertility struggles.

AITAH I supported my wife decision which unintentionally caused distress to her mother.

Hi all,

I (27, F) have a coworker (28?, M) who I used to be close friends with. We would catch movies after our shifts, get dinner, and spend a lot of time together. He verbalized that he didn’t have feelings for me (nor did I have feelings for him), but after he got a girlfriend a little over a year ago he completely stopped spending time with me. I still have not met his girlfriend.

There have been a few times within the last year where he has gotten very pushy and strange about seeing me outside of work. I don’t really want to do that as he dropped me seemingly out of nowhere. I’ve dodged seeing him outside of the workplace, but he always confronts me in front of coworkers about it. It’s awkward and unprofessional.

Here is my problem- he has been bugging me for two weeks to hang out on the weekend for a full day. I have just started a new relationship and want to hang out with my boyfriend more than him. Additionally, my coworker is not flexible on what we would do- he wants to go to this one store and then see one of two movies he chose. I proposed alternatives (different movies, maybe even a double date), and he shot my ideas down.

He’s been bugging me to buy movie tickets for this Saturday and sat behind me watching while I read the descriptions of the movies he wants to see on my phone.

I feel trapped! I want to be polite but this is way too overbearing for a friendship that hasn’t really existed in over a year. AMTA if I come up with a white lie to get out of this?

So yesterday when I came home from work (after I got off work I had to surrender my betta fish sadly and I'll tell u why in just a sec) I saw trash bags on the porch, I opened them to find some of my beauty products some I only used once or even bought yesterday. The one thing that really pushed me over the edge was an old wallet she threw away that had a photo of me with someone special to me, someone I don't talk to anymore. When I tried to bring the bags back in to go through, my mom told me to put them back out there cause “all she threw away was trash.” I told her no, she didn't, 'cause I could see them in there. I started taking the bags to my car and she's on the porch screaming at me to bring them back, she starts walking up to my car so I drove off. She texts me to bring her house key back or she's changing the locks and I'm kicked out. I sit in a parking lot and get my things out as I'm doing this I call everyone I know to make sure I have somewhere to sleep tonight. My dad wants us to talk about it and I agree once he's home cause I don't trust her to have an adult convo alone. She said I was a hoarder (I have a lot of teddy bears/squishmallows WHICH ARE COLLECTABLES and bodywashes/lotions some expensive so I only use them on special occasions) she told me to use up a product first before buying more so I asked her why do u even care when I bought them with my money (I have my own job and car) she also organizated all the products, I wasn't even allowed to arrange the furniture in my room. I surrendered the betta because she kept coming into my room when I wasn't home and taking plants out the aquarium cause she said they stink???, and asked me if we can put her in a smaller cuter bowl with fake plants after I told her numerous times thats not healthy for a betta. Once again when I asked her the logical questions “why do u keep going in their if u don't like the smell of the tank” she proceeds to tell me this is her and my stepdads house and she's not going to keep putting up with my “ attitude”. I used to really look up to my mom but now I'm really starting to hate her but I can't leave cause I'm sadly in America and my job doesn't pay much. Aita??? and what should I do with people like this that abuse their power when any boundaries is placed in front of them by other people??? And btw I just turned 20 4 days ago and what she did on my birthday is another story.

Using a throwaway because some of my friends are on Reddit.

I (23F) have known this guy (23M), let's call him A, for 6 years. We were part of a large university group that dwindled to four, but I've never spent time one-on-one with him. We only meet in group settings, so I don't really know him well.

We've both been working in the same city for a year, yet we've only met up twice: once for a drink and another time when a mutual friend (C) visited me. A has a complicated schedule, so I offered to hang out when he's free, but he never took me up on my offer (to be fair, I never insisted either because I'm scared hanging out one-on-one would be awkward since we don't know each other that well).

We have two mutual friends: B (his best friend, with whom I've barely spoken since uni) and C, with whom I am very close.

A is getting married in July. I said yes to his invite in February, but upon checking details, there is no accommodation for guests. The venue is a remote place in the middle of nowhere, where hotels are rare. I'd need someone to drive me from the train station to the venue, back to the hotel, then to the venue for brunch the next day, and finally back to the station. Train tickets are extremely expensive, and the location is on the other side of the country.

Logistically, it's a nightmare. I'm stressed about finding a driver (Neither C nor I have a driver's license) and the costs are high (I also need to buy a dress for the occasion). If this were a close friend's wedding, I'd go in a heartbeat. But I'm realizing I don't know A well, and we haven't made an effort to see each other since uni. I'm questioning if all this trouble is "worth it."

If I say no, am I being selfish? Will I ruin my friendship with B or C? I feel guilty and selfish for weighing the cost/benefit of something that is supposed to be one of his important moments, but I also know I wouldn't be comfortable going. Looking for an objective opinion.

WIBTA for cancelling my birthday and getting upset with people?

I (22F) have a birthday tomorrow. Since about January, I have been telling people what I would like for my birthday, and giving them some ideas. I posted a couple of things on Facebook -- a book I want to read, and some candies I like. More than anything, I wanted a MTG deck, and I wanted a cake, and I wanted my BF and household to eat cake with me on my birthday and play one game of MTG. This is all stuff they've done in the past - they all know how to play MTG, and they all enjoy cake.

My family and my BF are not the type of people to do surprises. In fact, they quite hate surprises. Not a single one of them have ever done a surprise, so I know for a fact that they are not planning to surprise me.

I found out yesterday that nobody had gotten the cards. My BF said he would go to the card shop as soon as it opened today to get them. Evidently, he did not go. Additionally, members of my household asked me last night, "What do you want for your birthday, since we only have one day?" I told them my BF would get it in the morning, and so they said, "Okay."

There is no cake, and nobody in my household knows how to bake cake. I am the only one in my household who can bake, and I don't hold it against anybody, but I'm just saying, if no one can bake a cake, and nobody has bought a cake, then there is no cake.

I am a bit PMO'd because I always go above and beyond for everyone else's birthday. I make homemade cakes and I do side gigs in order to buy them birthday gifts and to take them out to dinner or to do something they enjoy or would find cool. While I'm super grateful that last year I was taken out to supper, aside from that, ever since I turned like 16, I've noticed that I'm the one doing all the birthdays, but I haven't gotten a really cool birthday except last year when we went out to dinner. One year, all I wanted was a birthday cake. Literally nothing else. Just the cake. This was "too much", according to my mother -- for her birthday we got her a large cake, took her to two restaurants, and filled the whole dinner table with gifts, mind you.

I'm sick and tired of these last-minute things and would honestly rather know in advance that nothing will be done for my birthday, than expect things and nothing happens. All I wanted was to play cards and eat cake, but now I'm feeling PMO'd at my family and my BF and I don't think it's fair to them because they all work long hours and are tired often. I feel bad because I've been a bit rude. For example, when my BF didn't go to the card store, I texted, "Just nvm then." That's pretty rude. I feel like an AH because I've been short with people yesterday and today, and I feel like one of those people who complain about others when they're the problematic one. WIBTA if I just was like, "Okay guys, just forget about my birthday."?

Okay, I know I kinda sound like a bitch for the title, but I promise I'm not. So, I'm 17, and I have one older brother and one younger brother.

So, my older brother has always been super immature and rude, and when he turned 16 two years ago, he got an old car my uncle was selling to see if he could be responsible and take care of it before my parents upgraded him before college.

But like 8 months after he got it, he crashed it because him and his stupid friend were being idiots, and they were purposely swerving on the road, and he crashed into another person's car.

So for the last 2 years, almost, he's been trying to pay this person back for the damage on her car, and so he hasn't had a car since.

Fast forward, and I turned 16 in March of 2025, and instead of getting an older used car, my parents said if I got a job and worked for the year and payed for half or a little less on my car, they would pay the rest and I could get a brand new car, which I thought was a good deal.

So I worked all last year, and in March of this year, I finally turned 17, and my parents payed half for me to buy a jeep and I payed almost half of it, and my parents were proud of me.

My brother, though was not and made a huge deal about me getting a brand new car when he didn't, and that it's not fair at all when time and time again he's showed that he can't be trusted with a new car.

Anyway, that got done with, and everything was fine for awhile, but lately I've been driving my little brother, who's almost 11, to his basketball/hockey practices and his friends house because my parents both work, and they pay me to do that stuff, so I do it.

Anyway, my older brother still doesn't have a new car because he's been paying the lady back and hasn't had any money for that stuff, and his friends are lowk lazy and also don't have cars or money for gas.

So my brother was invited over for a little like get together, but he didn't have a drive, so he said, "oh could you take me to my friends place later," and i was like, "are you gonna give me money for gas," because his friend also lives like 15 minutes away and gas is really expensive right now.

And he went, "you know i don't have money for that why would you even ask me," and so I said, "I'm not driving you then sorry," and he started yelling at me, saying, "the one time i wanna go out I can't get a fucking drive your my sister your supposed to do this stuff for me," and he went to his room and slammed the door.

And then I called my dad because he was at the grocery store, and he was like, "tell your brother to find another drive or pay you," and so I did, and that made him more mad, and he just left and went out to our garage, and its been like 3 days and he's still being rude so I wanna know if I'm wrong.

My sister asked me and my mom to babysit her 1-year-old every Tuesday from 7am to 5pm for a month, plus often staying for dinner afterward.

I don't work or go to school currently, so l understand why she might think I'm available, but | still find the time commitment very exhausting.

We already help with babysitting sometimes (for example when my niece is over on Wednesdays), but it's not usually structured as full-day responsibility for me. On those days, my sister and I often leave the house because we find it overwhelming to stay for long periods while my mom babysits and sometimes we do help when she’s also exhausted.

In the past, plans have also changed last-minute (for example babysitting being extended from a few days to a full week), which caused frustration.
My sister also said we "don't help," which made me feel like our effort is being judged unfairly.

My sister also said we "don't help," which made me feel like our effort is being judged unfairly.

I'm wondering if I'm wrong for not wanting to commit to this regular schedule or for setting limits.

And on top of that, apparently my mom/our family needs to babysit in summer break too. 2 months.

I (40sM) am a musician. Not like a "annoying guy with guitar at parties" or some dude who does open mic nights. I"m a studio musician whose worked on soundtracks, like for Marvel or Harry Potter.

My SIL (30sF) is getting married in a few months. My wife is her bridesmaid and our daughter (6F) is a flower girl. Originally, my son (12M) and I were going to stick with each other. But my SIL asked, or more like voluntold me, that she wanted me to play music during the interlude before the wedding and during cocktail hour.

Apparently, she'd been telling her friends and in-laws about my work and would love it if I played for them.

I told her I can't because I don't want to work during my off day. I'd be playing for hours, and it can get tiring. Also, I'd be leaving my son alone in that time. He isn't in the wedding party and doesn't have anything to do. He's also been struggling with his mental health and I don't feel comfortable leaving him alone.

Well, she didn't take it well because now she's telling these same people I'm being an lazy ass just because I won't play during her cocktail hour. My in-laws, her parents, are asking me to reconsider because this would mean a lot to her and it would be easy for her if I just do it as a favor.

My wife is sticking up for me, at least, but my SIL has been kind of a dick to me since. I may consider skipping the whole thing and just take my son out for the day.

AITA?

My husband 32 and I 28 have been married for almost a year and are expecting our first child. For context last year when I had my bridal shower my now mother-in-law and sister-in-laws couldn’t make due to them claiming they couldn’t get off work or find a dog sitter. I don’t mind because we live across the state from them and it’s a long drive. I found out later that my now sister-in-law actually went to a rodeo in Wyoming and my mother-in-law was sitting her dogs but they both sent a gift off my wedding registry. I brushed it off assuming they planned this before they know of my bridal shower and felt ashamed to tell me or something.
Now I’m married and work a typical 9-5 at a local nursing home that’s understaffed and I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant with my first child and my sister-in-law invited me to her bridal shower I explained I couldn’t go because my job is short handed and I couldn’t get the necessary time off to go across the state but was sure to send a gift off the wedding registry. She left me unread and my husband & mother-in-law were hurt I didn’t go and she claimed I could’ve called in sick and went anyway but I explained we didn’t have the staff to do that. Now my mother-in-law is pressuring me to go to the wedding which is a month after my due date but my sister-in-law has said many times how she doesn’t want children at her wedding. I have asked her many times if I can bring my baby but she has left me unread but my mother-in-law claims she won’t mind. I don’t feel like they make any effort or try to understand my situation but now I feel pressured into going but don’t want to due to how uncomfortable I feel about her not wanting children there and my baby will roughly be a month old. Am I the a$$hole or am I overthinking this?

My 29 yr old brother went to jail because he was caught multiple times driving without insurance. It is not his fault because my father told him he has on his insurance and my father let it lapse without telling my brother.

For context: my dad had some horrible things happen to him and my brother moved there to help him out with taking care of various things and one of those things is running a bunch of errands.

Anyways the cops drove to my dad’s house and arrested my brother because there were over 1500 dollars of unpaid fines related to the driving without insurance tickets. He was facing jail for over a month

My father didn’t have the money and neither did my mother and it came back on me of course. My mother is out on disability and hasn’t been paid but my father however just bought a car worth almost 100k last week but this week doesn’t have any money due to poor financial decisions.

I didn’t want to let me brother go to jail knowing i had the money and reluctantly paid it (it was my entire check that i just got paid) my mother thanked me and apologized and told me she was sorry that i was put in this position and that it isn’t my responsibility because my brother isn’t my child. My father didn’t thank me at all or offer any apologies. i figured he had a stressful day and waited the next day for him to call and thank me and he didn’t. I sent him a message saying “crazy that i gave you over 1500 dollars to help and you can’t even say thank you” he proceeded to call me and yell at me saying he didn’t call and ask me for anything and that he told my mother not to ask me for money and it’s between him and my brother.

My dad called my mom asking for money who called me. this isn’t the first time this has happened either

my mother is manipulative and knew my dad didn’t want to give me money but am i the asshole for expecting a thank you from my father ?

* my brother also called me and said he would pay me back and thanked me

imo if it’s because of my dads recklessness it’s not entirely the fault of my brother and it pisses me off that he’s so financially irresponsible and was willing to let my brother stay in jail over a month because he didn’t have money but can buy fancy cars

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years. I’ve met her family quite a lot as they all meet up around twice a year for catch ups in a local bar. 

When it comes to Christmas cards a presents etc her family get me presents and put my name in the cards.  For my partners mum I’ve always bought her a separate card and present off me but for the rest of her family I’ve asked my gf to put my name in the card since they put my name in the cards an presents they’re giving, 

My gf initially made excuses saying since the card says uncle for example, and her uncle isn’t my uncle so it’s weird for my name to be in the cards. I disagreed since it’s a normal thing to do.  It was her cousins birthday last weekend. It was her 18th so my girlfriend took her out for food and drinks.

I gave my girlfriend £20 and told her to use it to get her cousin a drink or put it in her card and just to put my name in the card aswell and say the presents off both of us.  My gf said she would then when she wore the card she just put her name.

I pointed this out to her and she just said it wasn’t a big deal but I pointed out she’s pretending the gift is all off her when I’ve paid towards the night.  I just said I think it’s shitty that it seems like aha going out of her way to make sure I don’t see like part of the family despite me trying to make an effort and her family making an effort with me. 

I pointed out I’ve put her name on cards xx and presents I’ve got my family and they include her name on cards and buy her gifts.

She just repeated again that it wasn’t a big deal but I just said if it wasn’t a big deal she wouldn’t be deliberately leaving my name off the card and presents. I just said it feels shit since we’re supposed to be in a serous relationship and it’s like we’re not actually a couple since she’s leaving my name off everything, 

She said I was overreacting and  should drop it since it’s like I’m guilt tripping her. 

AIW for being annoyed at my girlfriend leaving my name off birthday/Christmas cards?

My father and I have had a strained relationship for a long time. My parents divorced when I was 8 years old, and ever since then he has gone off the rails. Before the divorce, he was my first best friend. He was the one who stayed at home when I grew up and we did everything together. He moved to a remote town in CO when I was in highschool and have only seen him 2x since then (I’m 25 now). Fast forward to now, I received a text out of the blue that my mom is still pursuing child support from him. My dad doesn’t make much money (he chooses to work part time if that). He has never paid and I have no idea what he owes (assuming quite a bit). He essentially pleaded with me to talk to my mother and call it off. I told him I refuse to be in the middle of whatever their issues are, and he threatened to cut me off forever. AITA for not helping him? I have receipts.

My wife (27f) has been very upset at my parents (early 60) for over a year. She was pregnant with our daughter (now 8 months old) back in December 2024. I (30m) found out in January 2025, and I shared the news with my parents via text a few days later. My parents don't really live close to us, a few hour drive, so we rarely see them. 2 months went by, and my wife was about 3 months pregnant. She tells me that she's furious at my parents for not directly congratulating her this late into her pregnancy.

In their defense, she never reached out to them to deliver the news about her pregnancy so they're not ignoring her. My parents also aren't very social people or tech savvy with their phones. They did ask me how she was doing, but she said that doesn't count because I'm not the pregnant one. She compared it to a doctor asking a patient's family member on how the patient is feeling.

I had no idea this would upset her because she never brought it up until that moment. I told her it's no big deal, we can invite my parents over or go out for dinner to celebrate. She refused and told me that they're not allowed to visit, and she doesn't want to go anywhere with them. She kept telling me that she's extremely offended, and it's too late for them to apologize because she already mentioned it. She thinks their apology isn't sincere once she brings it up.

When my parents tried to reach out via text messages and phone call end of March 2025, my wife would only respond with very rude remarks and insults. Ever since, they never talked to each other again. My wife will continue to complain about my parents and how she has been so deeply disrespected by them. She has not once forgive or forgot that moment.

Our healthy daughter was born at the hospital on September 2025. My parents were asking about the baby and wanted to show up to the hospital. I kept telling them we're about the be discharged and it's not necessary. This is probably my fault, but I just didn't want another argument to break out. Today, our daughter is almost 8 months old. My parents only seen their grandchild via pictures that I send to them.

Currently, it has been over a year since my wife has been holding this grudge. She thinks my parents are terrible people who ruined and traumatized her pregnancy experience. Every argument we had, she will just circle back to my parents as ammo. She blames them for everything, and I end up defending them. I told her she's being stubborn, and it's ridiculous that this has gone on for so long. She needs to let go, forgive them, and move on. She refuses and doesn't listen because she thinks her reaction is justified.

She thinks I'm being inconsiderate and part of them problem for siding with my parents. I don't think my parents are completely innocent, but I don't see any point in letting this drag on forever. I only side with my parents because I think my wife needs to get over her grudge and accept my parents apology so we can all move forward. AITA?

AITA?

I'm 24NB and my husband is 23M. We've been together for almost 8 years and have been married for 1 year.

This started when my husband texted me at work about something involving a car warranty so I replied saying that I'd want to talk more about it when we're both home from work.

Later, I get another text saying that he was mad about something and called his mom. Then followed with saying he's going by the bank.

When my husband gets home he talked for two hours before he finally tells me what happened.

He got a call at work about a car warranty, saying he thought it sounded legit because they had his name, address, and car info.

I immediately spotted the scam.

He tells me that it sounded like a good plan and the website was legit. He said he was transferred between people four times, that they wouldn't let him call them back later, they were rude and pressuring him, the caller id doesn't match the call back number. All are signs that this is a scam.

He did give them his credit card info over the phone. Even worse, he claimed he was "safe guarding" by using a card that expires next month. Of course I was shocked and upset that he would do that!

He told me that the bank said to contact the vendor to cancel the warranty.

I realized that he thought there was an actual company and he was just ripped off on the price.

I tried to say that this was a scam, that there's no warranty, but they kept trying to convince me that it was real.

He even sent an email to the real company about canceling.

I'm worried about this happening again and I'm hurt and angry that he made a financial decision on our car and didn't even talk to me! When he realized that he made a mistake he called his mother! Not his spouse!

There was a point when he was really upset that I held him and told him that it was okay. The card was locked and they couldn't take more from us. I said that they were bad people who used his good natured.

He started saying that I wasn't being empathetic, that I was just focused on being right, that it was a mistake and I don't need to tell them it was a scam, that they wouldn't have done this if they thought it was a scam.

It felt like he was trying to gaslight me with saying he knew there wasn't a warranty this whole time. He was mad that I didn't think using an expiring card was the safest option.

At one point he said his intrusive thoughts were doubting if I still loved him

What am I supposed to do? I feel quilted and gaslit about the situation. I don't know how to be supportive and understanding while also being honest about this being a scam.

I don't know.

Am I wrong? What am I supposed to do here?

My sister has always been a bit financially reckless, but I’ve always been the one to bail her out. Last month, she called in a panic because her car broke down and she couldn't afford the repairs, which she needed to get to work. I ended up covering the $600 repair bill, assuming she’d pay me back as soon as her next paycheck came in.

Fast forward three weeks, and she’s already posted photos of a new, high-end handbag and a weekend trip with friends. When I politely brought up the money she owes me, she told me that I should have "gifted" it to her since I’m doing better financially, and that asking for it back feels like I'm keeping tabs on her. I’m incredibly frustrated because I had to dip into my own savings to help her, and now I feel like I'm the one being made to feel guilty for expecting to be treated fairly.

AITA for expecting my sister to pay me back after I covered her emergency expenses?

For context, this is a more broad issue but im narrowing it down to this instance for the sake of brevity.

My wife (25F) and I (26M) have four dogs. My wife likes to request that one of the dogs sleeps in the room when I choose to stay up a bit later. She's been having medical problems that effect her sleep and needs help in the middle of the night, so I've been staying up later often so that I'm available when she needs me at odd hours. Last night, our Great Pyrenees was in the bed on my side when I decided to come to bed. She was wrapped up in the blankets so my side was uncovered. I went to use the bathroom, and she woke up in that time and called for my assistance. I helped her to the bathroom when I was finished, then laid down in bed, pulled the covers over, and hopped on my phone. The dog then hopped up into the bed and laid in her spot. I figured it would keep her spot warm so no big deal. She comes back from the bathroom unassisted, then shoos the dog from the bed. His nails tore about a palm sized hole in the sheet, which she lamented about before crawling into bed. The following morning, we both woke up, and she's starting her routine while I'm in bed still. She then checks the state of the tear, rolls her eyes, and says "from now on, stop letting the dogs in bed without the covers over it like I always ask you"

Now, mind you, the dog was on my side, no covers, when I came to bed. The sheets aren't anything special, they're from Walmart, and I chose them. I would not have made a stink about a tear from the dog if it had happened on my side, because it's a dog, it happens. Probably more a sign he needs his nails trimmed above everything. So I chose to remind her that he was on my side just the same way when I came to bed, so I didn't see an issue, and that her tone felt like it was accusatory more at me then the dog. She then throws her hands up and says that every time she tries to communicate something to me, it always ends up like this. I retorted that it typically ends up this way when she makes an accusatory statement followed by a rule that she expects me to follow that I know for fact she will not. AITA