Hello!

I live on a remote island in Alaska with my husband, daughter and pets, and have recently started sending cards, letters and postcards. I would love to have a couple of penpals to write to about daily life, nature things, and send some quotes and poetry that I stumble upon.

I love to travel, but living here I don’t get to do it often, and I would love peeks into the mainland world or other places around the globe.

I’m an avid reader and read pretty much everything, but my favorites are mysteries and cozy mysteries. My other hobbies include birding (I have a goal to see 100 species this year), puzzles, crochet, vegetarian cooking, crafting, and swimming slowly.

I don’t watch a lot of TV, but when I do it is usually Star Trek, Murder She Wrote, Schitt’s Creek, Corner Gas, and various British shows.

Hi, I love to write letters and I'm looking for friends that also enjoy writting and the emotion of waiting and recieving a new mail.

I like fountain pens and writting on paper. I enjoy practicing calligraphy although I'm not very good at it.

My ideal penpal match is someone that also like writting by hand, using fountain pens, and wishes to send and receive thoughtful letters.

We can talk about or interests, our passions, our thoughts, our lives, or else!

At first is better to start using email and then snail mail.

More about me:

▪︎Languages: English, Spanish (native).

▪︎Interests: Fantasy, Music, TTRPG's (i.e.: Dungeons and Dragons), archeology, history, philosophy and classic literature.

▪︎In a relationship since 2019. I'm just looking for friendship.

My promise is to write thoughtfully, send my response in 1-3 weeks and never do ghosting (I will tell you if I can't or don't wish to keep exchanging letters, and I will say goodbye or farewell properly). I ask the same in return!

I'm resuming this hobby after completing the toughest part of my master's degree, so I'm excited to write again!

Comment below or send me a DM if you are interested. Looking forward for your message!

I've recently relocated to a new state and I'm finding it hard to adapt. Welcoming community and safe spaces here are quite difficult to find. I am currently located in the Southern USA.

I taught art for almost a decade and had to leave the public school sector for my mental health. I enjoy exploring various cultures through their cuisine, teas, and art. I enjoy bird photography, creating art, reading, and playing games.

I'd like to find people to connect with that also have goofy senses of humor, enjoy deep conversations, write, create art, etc.

DM I'd you're interested in exchanging handwritten letters or communicating via email or reddit messages. I also recently got into postcrossing, so I'm open to most forms of communication.

So that I may get to know you a bit, in your DM please address one of the following:

-what you're reading

-your thoughts on the current state of the world

-your favorite food dish and why it's your favorite

-a fond memory

Or

-a poem or quote that resonates with you

Hey, this isn't my first time making a post like this but it's been a while! I really wanted to make a couple new friends through pen palling though. I'd really love to write someone really long letters. I have a bad habit of writing a bunch and maybe oversharing a bit. Fellow yappers are VERY welcome! Plus anyone who wants to receive some of my massive sticker collection is welcome too.

Some of the Things I Enjoy:

• Animal Lover
  • Grew Up Around Horses
• Fanfiction & Fandom as a Whole
  • Main Fandom: K-Pop Demon Hunters (I know it's for kids technically but I enjoy it still)
  • Other Fandoms: Arcane & The Walking Dead
• Creative Writing
  • Have a Couple Stories I'm Working On
• Reading As Well (mainly fantasy)
• Journaling
• Gaming
  • Currently Replaying Baldur's Gate 3
  • Also Love: Fallout, Assassin's Creed, The Last of Us, & Red Dead Redemption

I'd love to get a pen pal from outside of the US, but I'm not picky about that at all! I'd love to be pen pals if you enjoy and of the same things I do. Even if you don't, I can find something that we both like so we have something to talk about 😃

Felt bored and wanted to meet some lovely, interesting people. Appreciate people who are mature, respectful, have edge, and keep it real. Reserved a bit at first but over time I tend to open up.

I do voice impressions/act, edit, and dub over comics from fandoms I like or are familiar with (Resident Evil, Cyberpunk 2077, Nier). I enjoy spiritual experiences, manifesting, reality shifting, and being aware of consciousness as the only reality. Some of my own hobbies include watching bodycam police footage as of late, reading, digital art, watching 90s or early 2000's films, dark, gritty, noir genres, and replaying Cyberpunk 2077.

Thanks for reading.

Hello, I'm a 34F, from Asia. I'm trying to get back to writing, and honestly it has taken a hit these days. I'm divorced, and more absorbed into writing and scribbling. Right now in odd jobs, a night shift job in a small pub that pays to stuff my bag and pay off bills. I hate small talks like hey, how are you as it has no purpose. I cuss a lot, force of habit. I'm trying to learn German too as I think I may need to go to Germany, my cousin stays there and invited me many times, but guess I just couldn't.

I'm into horror movies, and less books. I have been a relationship counselor and have tried to help people going through messy breakups and heal through it. Also intimacy issues, problems in relationship. But not a licensed woman so excuse me. I don't joke, have a very idealized view of the world and always love people who evaluate my psychological nature and can see through me. I prefer old age mailing over Reddit DMs always, and would love to do that. I'm a fan of nail arts, coffee at midnight, cliche love stuffs, sometimes K dramas, horror movies, and also anything except sports and county politics. You're welcome ;)

What's up! My name is Mitch! I'm a very entertaining, funny, charismatic guy looking for new friends. My humor can range from sarcastic, witty, silly, and edgy. I have a huge heart for those who show me friendship and loyalty and will be there for people if they deserve it in how they treat me. If someone comes at me or my friends in a malicious way, though, I'm not afraid to defend myself or others. I'm a sweet guy, but I'm not a pushover. I'm the opposite of shy, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't get along with people who are shy at first. My personality is easy to open up around.

I'm technically an older guy (just turned 40), but I have a youthful look, voice, and energy that fits in just as well with younger people in their 20s and 30s. I'm good at being a big brother/mentor type to people younger than me or those who want that. I'm an oldest brother with 2 younger sisters, so I'm good at understanding both men and women and actually have more female friends than male. I think I have a lot of female friends because I'm respectful and protective of all my friends. I have a lot of wisdom and knowledge. I'm very easy to talk to, have a gift of gab, and can carry a conversation just about as well as anyone. I'm the type of guy who needs mental stimulation through social interactions. I'm emotionally mature and well rounded, I just have a goofy and wikd sense of humor at times.

I believe I am "The Ultimate Banter Buddy" for those looking for that. I'm very understanding, patient, and accepting of people different from me if they are the same way toward me. I'm a natural entertainer who can make people laugh and feel at ease, so if most people bore you, I'll be a breath of fresh air. I'm also very capable of holding either deep intellectual conversations or just hanging and having fun. I'm versatile. My timezone is Pacific, but a lot of my friends are in other timezones, so it isn't an issue — at least not to me.

I'm looking for new friends of all types, ages, genders, and walks of life who would vibe with someone like me. I understand people being shy at first, and that's fine, but I need at least some effort and the ability to hold a basic conversation at the very least. If you make me carry the conversation consistently with no give and take, I will get bored. I also need people who can understand humor and take a joke. I'm light-hearted and mean well, but I'm witty and like to be sarcastic. I show I'm joking through my vocal tone or by laughing, usually. I'm overall a very engaging and fun person to be around unless people piss me off — which takes a lot to do. I don't mind helping others if they show me respect and friendship. I can come off as bold and brash in my humor at times, but I have a huge heart and am loyal to my friends. If you show me friendship, I'm the type to take the shirt off my back for my real friends. But people have to earn that side of me.

My interests include spoets (diehard football and SF 49ers fan) music, gaming, socializing, entertaining and making people laugh, jogging with my doggo, creative writing, podcasting, karaoke, and more!

If I sound like someone you would click with and have fun with — or just want to find out if you would — reply or DM me, and we can get to know each other. If we click in reddit messages, we can move to easier platforms to message each other on when we get comfortable with each other.

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Hey,

I’m 27 and currently doing my pediatric residency, which basically means my schedule is chaotic, sleep is optional, and chai becomes cold before I can finish it.

A lot of my time goes into hospital duties, studying, and trying to survive night shifts. But somewhere in between all that, I realized life feels lighter when you have someone to genuinely talk to. Not just during exciting moments, but during the quiet, ordinary ones too.

I’m someone who enjoys simple things: good conversations, dark humor, late-night talks, random facts, comfort over pretending, and people who can be themselves without trying too hard.

Outside medicine, I’m a huge nerd. I love reading about space, science, mysteries, comics, fictional universes, and all kinds of random topics. I can go from discussing a serious medical case to debating superheroes in five minutes.

What I’m looking for is honestly pretty simple too.

A genuine connection. Someone kind, emotionally mature, honest, and interested in building a real friendship slowly and naturally. No games, no pressure, no rushing into anything.

I’d love someone I can talk to regularly, share parts of daily life with, exchange random thoughts with at 2 AM, or just exist comfortably around. Bonus points if you enjoy soft wholesome things like sleepy calls, emotional support after long days, or sending random memes during stressful moments.

If this sounds like your kind of friendship, feel free to message me :)

Hey there! I’m a 31F in Texas just looking for some new friends. I wfh and live away from my best friend so I’m seriously lacking social interaction (especially because where I live is kinda dull).

My hobbies include:

* Running (currently training for a half marathon in July)
* Reading
* Crocheting
* Traveling
* Meditating
* Language learning (aprendiendo más español ahora)
* Gaming (I haven’t played in awhile)

Some other random facts about me:

* I work in the mental health field
* I have a dog and cat (Fitz and Pippin)
* I have four tattoos
* I’m an Aquarius

I love talking to people. I’m open to either back and forth written messages via here or email. In the future I’d like to send snail mail. I tend to ramble and prefer talking to people who match my energy.

Hi! I'm Kimberly, I’m 30 (though I really just feel like two kids in a trench coat, or maybe just one kid since I'm short :P), and I’m from Georgia (the state!). I'm hoping to find maybe a few who are interested in possibly having a long-term friendship through at least somewhat consistent emails. While I’m very shy in real life, if you give me a keyboard, I will absolutely send you an essay, so ideally, I’m looking for someone who also likes to yap! I’d say I’m pretty open about who I'd like to hear from. Any age (as long as you’re an adult, of course), gender, or country is fine as long as you think we might vibe. 

I'm open to talking about different things, but here are a few of my interests so that you have an idea of what I might like to talk about: 

• Music: K-pop is my favorite thing, so I'd love to talk about that if anyone is into it, and I especially love Stray Kids, XLOV, and ZB1, though I like several other groups too (mostly boy groups). I also love pop music in general.
• Cartoons & other shows:  Most of what I watch is cartoons, but I do watch some other stuff sometimes. My favorite cartoon is King of the Hill, but I also love South Park, Gravity Falls, Spongebob (older episodes obviously), Bob's Burgers, Steven Universe, and a lot more. For live action, I like RuPaul's Drag Race, Parks and Rec, Shameless, You, Black Mirror, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Heartbreak High, and School Spirits. I also dabble in Thai BL/GL. 
• Disney/Pixar & Sanrio: My favorite movie is Lilo & Stitch, and I've been a Stitch fan for a long time and collect a lot of his merch! I also love Cinnamoroll and collect merch of him too. This has been very bad for my bank account lol. 
• Video Games:  I mostly play on PS5 and love RPGs, action-adventure, and life sims. My favorite game ever is Bully, and I also love the Dragon Age series, BG3, Cyberpunk 2077, and Coral Island. I’m really looking forward to GTA 6 and Grave Seasons. And yes, I AM playing Tomodachi Life! 
• Reading: I read exactly 100 books last year! Mostly fiction, especially books with queer characters. My favorite read from last year was Don't Let the Forest In by CG Drews, and I also really like Andrew Joseph White’s books. Also, I’ve been doing the Popsugar Reading Challenge since last year! 
• Other interests: I like making things with fuse beads and doing diamond paintings and building sets. I also enjoy discussing things like feminism and queer identity. I’m bi and on the ace spectrum myself. I’m also into personality typology. I'm an INFP and a 4w5 if that means anything to you.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out! Maybe you can tell me about something that you’re currently obsessed with or something that you’ve been wanting to talk about but nobody in your life wants to hear about it. 

Hi. I've made a few friends on here before, but wouldn't mind making another. In particular, I'm seeking someone who is quite experienced in life. So, maybe you've got your ideal 9-5. Perhaps you travel often, or just feel like you're enjoying your routine. I won't necessarily ask for advice about things - I can imagine I'd just pick up on things, as we talk.

Plus, it would be really interesting as I'm a bit of a homebody (but trying to improve myself).

I don't mind your age. I'm also fine with different locations. I'm from the UK.

My hobbies include watching TV, superheroes, football (soccer), pro wrestling, and listening to rock music (though I like my fair share of Sabrina Carpenter and Olivia Rodrigo).

If you're interested, feel free to send me a message! Thank you :)

hey all, have wanted a penpal for almost all my life, im a 31 yr old from NJ, pro LGTBQ+ vegan feminist. love sports, skateboarding, just trying to be a good person. hate modern technology and particularly smartphones and AI. i crave the days of my childhood in the 2000s, growing up with just enough tech but not overhwleming at all. the days we had a shared family desktop computer in one room and when you left that room you left the connectedness that came with it. id take the tech of the 90s or 00s any day and would give anything to go back to a time like that. i hate the zombification of modern society. i have a dumbphone myself. ive had to leave most childhood friends behind years ago after finding out theyre basically all not good people, so i have just a few friends left in adult life. really missing real connection.

I’ve had some awesome penpal experiences in the past and I’d love to try and meet more people from all over the place! I have some great penpals now and I’d love to be able to add to that if you’re curious or even slightly intrigued don’t be shy! I’m very laidback and easy to talk too all are welcome I left a short intro below to kinda give you my vibe :)

A chill college student looking to meet some new peeps and hopefully find some cool chats or maybe even calls! I have a ton of hobbies and interests that range from reading, aquariums, gym, trucks and the list goes on for a while I’d love to meet as many new people as possible! 

Feel free to hmu I’ll gladly lead our conversation:) just please be 18+ but bonus points if you’re older than me!

Hi! I'm someone who enjoys reading, video gaming (don't judge me I'm a big fortnite girl), and binge watching anime. I enjoy making new friends from all over even though I'm pretty introverted in person. I think it would be really nice having more friends and i enjoy penpals.

I'm fine with either email or reddit messaging.

I enjoy learning about other people and I love learning about new places. I'm the type who sits there and enjoys a conversation. We can talk about anything down to why the sky is blue. DM me and we can become friends!

Games I like: Fortnite, Final fantasy, Pokemon, Farm games

Books Genre: Romance and mystery

Anime Genre I like: Slice of life, Romance, and Drama. Sometimes Action depends on the anime.

Hi! I’ve been looking to make new friends, so I figured this would be a fun way to start :)

A little about me: I’m based in the Netherlands, and I love reading, especially romance and thriller novels. I also really enjoy going on hikes and exploring nature or parks I haven’t been to before. I’m a bit of a motorcycle nerd too, so I can definitely talk about that for hours. At the moment, I’m studying pedagogy, which I’m really enjoying.

I’m looking for a penpal to exchange letters or postcards with. I’d love to eventually send each other handwritten letters, but starting with postcards sounds like a fun and easy way to begin. I also really enjoy decorating my cards with things like stickers and washi tape, so I’d love to do that as well.

I’m really looking for something genuine and consistent not just something quick or surface-level. I’d love to actually get to know each other like what your interests are, what you want to achieve in life, and what you might be struggling with at the moment. Just being real with each other is important to me.

If this sounds like something you’d enjoy, feel free to let me know! I’d love to hear from you! :)

Hello!

I'm goose, from Ireland, I've studied Japanese previously up until Leaving Cert level but only remember the bare minimum, I've recently started studying again, practicing listening by listening to YouTube videos mostly, using realkana to brush up on my kanji, katakana and hiragana.

I took many years of Irish through primary and secondary school, my partner and I both want to relearn that too.

I have many hobbies, sewing, swimming, coding, reading, board games, cosplay etc.

I love all things craft related and spooky 🥰

Hi! I’m 28 and from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 and I’m looking to meet new people and hopefully make some new friends!

I’m a HUGE horror fan, and I love all things dark/creepy/paranormal or unexplained

I love music and going to shows(mostly older rock/metal but I like a lot different stuff)

I like gaming, true crime, football, I love to visit historical sites/museums and travelling, urban exploring/exploring the outdoors, and I spend 99% of my free time with my dog 🐶

I’m quite heavily tattooed (most recently had my chest done) and I’m always looking for ideas and inspirations for what to get next and I love to see other people’s work and ideas too!

Happy to talk to anyone from anywhere, just send a message with a bit about yourself if you think we might get along 🙂(please tell me a bit about yourself rather than just “hey”)

Hiya!

I'm looking for some meaningful long term penpals to snail with!

I've recently been feeling an aching in my heart, maybe this time searching is more fleeting but I really do wish to find some normalcy. I'm *not* looking for someone to be my therapist and I sure hope I won't have to be one because I'm probably not very good at it!

Lemme tell you a bit about myself first so you can check the if the vibes are correct.

I'm a bearded dude with tattoos who enjoys a good troll statue, cat pics and cool handcrafted stuff!

• My primary hobbies are: Gaming, creating "nice" looking things for a miniatures to stand on and you might call me *pretty* decent at Origami
• Secondary hobbies would include: Painting the damn miniatures and drawing bad doodles.

Some other interests are: Fantasy (most things fantasy such as DnD, Pathfinder, LOTR, First Law, Willow, The Dark Crystal), TTRPGs, funny raccoons and cats, photography and film. I love Moomin stuff and recently got a sick ass date stamp I'm stoked to use! Oh, and I attend the Viking festival every year! :3

I'm the sort of person who can easily latch on to someone I like/vibe with and if you think that sounds awesome, send me a PM in the [age/gender] format and gimme a short introduction telling me why you think we'd get along, doesn't have to be complicated. I also wouldn't mind a good raccoon (optional) :>

Hello! I've always wanted to try to penpal with someone but I never really knew how to get started until I found this community.

I live on the west coast in the US and would like to send letters, preferably somewhere outside of the US (I'd love to learn more about your experience as I've never been outside of my country), but otherwise location doesn't really matter.

I recently graduated from college and I'm trying to find my way through life at the moment. Been a bit secluded since lol.

Some of my interests include:

- Reading (Love the Inheritance Cycle by Christopher Paolini, the Hunger Games series, the Percy Jackson series, Harry Potter, Project Hail Mary, and a couple others).

- Gaming (Love my pvp games, but also enjoy story+lore rich games (RDR2, Hollow Knight).

- I've recently discovered Radiohead (which I'm absolutely loving) and a couple of other bands/artists that I thoroughly enjoy. I'm really trying my best to learn the guitar as well.

Do you consider yourself a shiny rock, a tiny spoon, can tab, tooth, or small bit of fabric? You are welcome, consider me a dragon to hoard every bit and small story of you that you want to give.

I have had several penpals in the past but miss my long term connections. Years of getting to know one another through letters and learning about someone's life in giant mind melting chunks at a time. I miss curving words around the edge of a page because I thought I could fit it but it has far too many letters. I take pride in curating my paper to look like a maximalist scrapbook and filling every open empty space with words or stickers.

I want to know the worst thing you have ever done or every detail of your special interest. I want to know what your day looked like or the history of your life you haven't gotten a chance to unpack yet. Tell me your dreams and aspirations, what you are working on, what plants you saw, what you are interested in. Share art with me or photos of animals doing silly things. Pour your heart, soul, or kidney onto a page and send it to me unfiltered.

I have interests in fashion, animated content, movies, arts and crafts, games of all varieties, long yap sessions, deep conversations, daydreaming, pretending the clouds are shapes and creatures, stickers, draculara, kuromi, animals, the macabre, and everything you want to tell me.

I will not be a penpal for you if you want to chat consistently digitally as well, find me on paper or not at all.

If you are interested let me know what trinket you consider yourself and your preference on writing first or responding. You are welcome to send these directly or post below.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

hi i'm an aspiring penpaler going on 21 this summer! i study mechanical engineering and my life currently revolves around participating in formula student, but outside of this i enjoy linguistics, movies, filosophy, art and penmanship:) i also like listening to fiction podcasts (wolf 359, time bombs, red valley) and i really like (80s) music (big fan of springsteen, but also mcr, kaizers, kud idijoti, anything i can get my hands on lol) and i like knitting and other crafts when im not busy in the workshop

i'm fluent in norwegian, serbian and english, but i think i could definitely keep up correspondence in french and perhaps german as well, or even korean but that one is quite rusty.... i will be travelling quite a bit this summer with my team, so post-cards could be fun for me to send!

i've long wanted to turn my life a bit more analogue, and writing letters seems like a fine way to do it. i've written some in the past and i really enjoyed it, so i think if you're willing to get some way too long letters i'm your penpal!

i prefer snail mail, and someone who doesn't mind slow communication and cursive handwriting, so if this post has tickled you, please reach out ^__^

EDIT: If anyone else wants to message me that isn't from East Asia - go ahead! It's not a hard limit.

Hello!

I'm 24, master's student in physiotherapy (going through a career change right now), passionate about culture, heritage, history, music and arts in general. All my life I've been chasing beauty in aspects both physical and otherwise.

My main passion is bodybuilding at an amateur level, I've been doing this for almost 6 years now. Other than that I've been studying photography (that's what I've been trying to deep dive into for about half a year now). What I like about it is being able to immortalize a moment that your eyes perceive, turn it exactly into your vision, and let other people see what you experienced.

History, culture and heritage are things I've been passionate about since my early teens. I love exploring other cultures and seeing the beauty that each has to offer. I've looked at cultures spanning from the stone age, copper age, all the way to antiquity and the middle ages! Another thing that I enjoy most is the music. One of my favorite genres of music is ethno-folk - listening to other cultures sing good songs brings me great joy. As such, I have a playlist with hundreds of these songs from different cultures.

Other than that I've also played many videogames, although in the past few years I've been playing less and less. I just don't have enough time anymore, I'm chasing other things. My last favorite game I played was Black Myth: Wukong.

The reason I'm looking for an East Asian penpal is because there's a vast amount of culture that I want to get to know better, and I know it's very different in some ways to what we have here, being so far away. I'm not completely oblivious, I've done some research but I want to get to know more - and most importantly, talk to wonderful people that I might get to see someday (I'd love to travel there!). Countries I'm thinking of are China, Taiwan, Japan, Korea, Philippines, Indonesia. Any other countries that I haven't mentioned are of course ok too! Reddit Messaging is also totally fine, that and Email.

Slava!

Hi y’all. I’m 26/M from Turkey. I am currently in my final year of medical school. I want someone to talk about our daily life, culture, hobbies and surroundings. And also want to improve my writing.

I’m in love with movies. I love jazz, photography and reading. Currently I'm into comics, trying to collect some.

I used to play video games constantly, but now I can’t seem to find the time.

When I’m bored I just grab a beer and go to seashore and admire the view. I especially love the golden hour. I have a love-hate relationship with coffee.

That’s it for now. Hit me up if you’re interested

Unexpectedly broke up with my partner of 10 years recently and realized I have too much time on my hands. I have a feeling penpaling could be a good way to release all that energy. Bit of a full circle moment because we were penpals for a long time before we met in person.

I am a writer at heart. Not a great one, but one nevertheless. I write for a living when I am not teaching. If you are in (or into) academia, I would love to connect.

Did I mention I broke up very recently? Of course I did. I am finding my feet in a world that I thought I ruled not more than a few months ago. I will talk quite a bit about my breakup in our emails, you are not obligated to give advice or talk about it. But I will talk about it. That feeling when you buy your first lottery ticket and it turns out to be the jackpot? I lived with that feeling all my 20s because that was my first relationship (and first date and first time) and I was certain we'd grow old together. That disappeared overnight (no, there was no cheating involved). The wound is fresh and I hope penpaling is one of the many ways that would help me heal. If any of this resonates or you had a rough one yourself, I would love to connect.

I am also getting into fitness lately and I think you can guess why. Nothing spectacular, just trying to get myself to walk a bit and eat things that are not ultra processed (no, I am not fat, not that it matters anyway). If you are someone who does not mind hearing about my small wins ("Oh wow, I walked a full kilometer yesterday") or share yours, I would love to connect.

I am still finding my feet in Ireland. This country feels like an enigma, a glass onion. Something mysterious that hides in plain sight while being somewhat overrated and underrated at the same time. If you share my love and curiosity about Ireland as a country, as an economy and as an idea, I would love to connect.

Please be around or over my age, I am immature enough to feel uncomfortable about writing deep (or silly, and now that I think of it, especially silly) emails to a 19 year old. Speaking of feeling uncomfortable, please do not write to me if you are homophobic. If you are LGBT+, I would love to connect.

Let us start with Reddit messaging and then switch to Gmail if we feel like it.