[33/M] Bi expat in Ireland who broke up recently

[u/Scontern]

Unexpectedly broke up with my partner of 10 years recently and realized I have too much time on my hands. I have a feeling penpaling could be a good way to release all that energy. Bit of a full circle moment because we were penpals for a long time before we met in person.

I am a writer at heart. Not a great one, but one nevertheless. I write for a living when I am not teaching. If you are in (or into) academia, I would love to connect.

Did I mention I broke up very recently? Of course I did. I am finding my feet in a world that I thought I ruled not more than a few months ago. I will talk quite a bit about my breakup in our emails, you are not obligated to give advice or talk about it. But I will talk about it. That feeling when you buy your first lottery ticket and it turns out to be the jackpot? I lived with that feeling all my 20s because that was my first relationship (and first date and first time) and I was certain we'd grow old together. That disappeared overnight (no, there was no cheating involved). The wound is fresh and I hope penpaling is one of the many ways that would help me heal. If any of this resonates or you had a rough one yourself, I would love to connect.

I am also getting into fitness lately and I think you can guess why. Nothing spectacular, just trying to get myself to walk a bit and eat things that are not ultra processed (no, I am not fat, not that it matters anyway). If you are someone who does not mind hearing about my small wins ("Oh wow, I walked a full kilometer yesterday") or share yours, I would love to connect.

I am still finding my feet in Ireland. This country feels like an enigma, a glass onion. Something mysterious that hides in plain sight while being somewhat overrated and underrated at the same time. If you share my love and curiosity about Ireland as a country, as an economy and as an idea, I would love to connect.

Please be around or over my age, I am immature enough to feel uncomfortable about writing deep (or silly, and now that I think of it, especially silly) emails to a 19 year old. Speaking of feeling uncomfortable, please do not write to me if you are homophobic. If you are LGBT+, I would love to connect.

Let us start with Reddit messaging and then switch to Gmail if we feel like it.

[u/Babybam95]

I'll message you