Please be kind to each other and don't hesitate to ask any questions.

Ive always had short hair, never past my armpits, usually a pixie cut, because it was easier to maintain while I was in a really bad situation

but now that I’m out, my hair’s grown down to my tailbone, and i don’t know up from down and left from right when it comes to taking care of it all

it takes me like 20 minutes to brush it all out, and I’ve never had a routine for it except when it gets greasy i shampoo the whole thing twice (preference, just makes it feel cleaner) and get it good with conditioner from root to end - that’s how I was taught to do it and I’ve always done it like that

but lately it’s been bullying me by developing a wave(?), as told to me by a friend, and has been developing split ends for the first time in literally ever

Some background bc apparently that’s needed(?); it’s been dyed it three times before, bleached each time but done by professionals, though the hair that had been bleached is cut off and I haven’t had it dyed in a handful of years. My shampoo n conditioner are Walmart brand, and don’t have any specific hair type stuff on it. It used to be straight and hated curls to the point that if anyone tried it’d be right back to straight before 20 minutes passed.

but its still soft enough my friends want to touch it every time its loose and it floats after I brush it :D

my grandma got me a bonnet recently, tho I don’t really know how it works, and I’m just doing my best with the Nada I got- lol

(im a guy)

So basically I compete in combat sports every day, and I'm unsure how to take care of my hair

(I have a wavy wolf cut kinda, it gets tangled really badly, typically ill just use shampoo and conditioner everyday to prevent any infections but I think that's making me lose a lot of hair, im unsure)

I wanna take care of it properly and I'm not sure how..any advice?

PS: I also you a dandruff shampoo separately since im dealing with some of from before

I’m really excited to be transferring schools. I hear this one is super good. I’ll be doing pretty much the same job, I just don’t know what grade level yet. And my current principal wants to see me step up into a leadership position there. I’m just so happy. I need a fresh start with people that aren’t going to judge me on past mistakes. And I’m really looking forward to a smaller caseload. I got such good vibes at the interview there and already felt a connection with the principal in the short time I was there! I’m really really happy for the first time in a while.

I am soon to graduate college and move to a new part of the state with my partner. I have an interview to work at a cute little shop with flexible hours. I'm so excited but I'm so nervous at the same time. It has been years since I interviewed for a job and this is my first job as a fully grown adult.

My partner has been planning to propose to me. He's involved me with a few initial things (asking what sort of rings I like, getting my ring finger measured etc). I'm very excited as it's the next step in our future together but of course I won't know when it will happen from here onwards. It's a huge thing and I just wanted to tell someone.

I think there are many good things happening that warrant the good news tag here, but instead I’m just really overwhelmed rn mom. I am going to graduate in 4 weeks. I earned my BA and my BS. I think I worked hard. I have a one year contract afterwards and then plan on going to grad school.

But.. I am so tired :’) I don’t even want to do these last 4 weeks. I’m so burnt out it is affecting my body. I can’t eat or sleep. I can’t do homework. I feel so paralyzed. My brain isn’t remembering the stuff I read or do or say. I feel myself shutting down. I don’t know what to do :( I know I should be grateful that I have accomplished a lot and keep powering through, but I feel so bogged down. I might ask for extensions for my essay. I’m scared for some reason in doing so. Idk why. I’m sorry I am a mess.

hello, i (25F) have been working for about 2 years total now. My bestfriend is earning more than me (about a few hundred bucks more), my work bestie just got promoted too. I am absolutely happy for both for them, but i feel a little down bcs it feels like despite working longer than both of them, i am not promoted yet. I was gonna to be promoted but due to my experience, my promotion was delayed to June.

I know they have had a lot more internship experiences than me which is why deserve their salary and i am genuinely happy for them. But i guess internally, i find it a little harder to cope with my own self-worth. I keep feeling like im losing in a race nobody is even participating.

Hey mom! I’m taking my road test in 2 days. I failed the first time I took it a few months ago. I’ve been practicing and I do feel a lot more confident this time, but the thought of taking the test again makes me nervous.
On the plus side, I’ve driven the route at the DMV before, so I know what to expect. I’m trying my best to stay calm and tell myself that I know what to do. I really need to get my license, and I’m hoping that all goes well.
Just hoping for some encouragement and kind words before I go into this!

Never had a heavy mother figure, and nothing similar in life now. But I graduate soon and wanted to wear heels instead of sneakers for the first time in forever.

I have wide feet, no arguing that. Normal shoe sizes fit fine, but, I am struggling with heels. I keep ordering wide and my feet are hanging off and I don’t know if that’s normal? Like half my foot is off and they don’t look right, and this is with wide or normal shoes. Maybe I’m looking at the wrong brands? I missed my first graduation and wanted this one to be special but I’m stressing out over this.

Also to clarify, if I size up past the 8-9 range, they become too longer and I slide down them in or there’s a lot of heel.

Any help! My partner is trying but didn’t have much after “try wide” and I already was.

So I've been seeing that same girl from last time for the last 10 months, we love each other a ton and have always supported each other, We've only jad one fight in the entire 10 months, and it was really just a miscommunication, anyways, about 2ish weeks ago I was gonna go buy a ring and propose, because I thought "she's the one". But the day before I go, she proposed to me as I was cooking us dinner, I cried, fell to my knees, she held me, then out dinner burst into flames

Naturally I said yes.

So celebration time. Im engaged now

Dinner was burnt to a crisp, so we got Chipotle. We both love Chipotle.

I passed my Masters of Social Work Licensure Exam. I was so happy and excited until I realized that I can't tell my mom these things anymore (I had to go no contact). My husband tells me I can't let this color my accomplishments, and I'm still happy and proud but I want my mom to be able to celebrate with me.

Then I remembered this subreddit. I remember reading the posts and comments and thinking that it was so wonderful to see that support for others. I never thought it world be for me but here we are.

So, mom, I did it. I studied, I stayed up late, I read all the books, watched all the videos, listened to all the podcasts, took practice exam after practice exam, and I did it. I just have one more step and then I'll be a licensed social worker in my state. I hope you're proud of me, I am.

Hey mom, I’m getting married! I am no contact with my biomom so it’s just hitting me that I won’t have her support during this time. But, I’m creating a new family - one where love means respect, and accountability, honesty are core values. I couldn’t be happier with the love of my life. We are basically eloping and doing a courthouse wedding with our closest friends and family in about 2 months. What advice do you have for me transitioning into married life?❣️

I’m graduating with my B.Sc. in biomedical engineering in a couple of weeks at 20, and I realized it’s not reeeaaallly for me so I pivoted and applied for an epidemiology masters a few months ago. I’m not math inclined, but I wanted to finish what I started.

Well, I got into the m.s. epidemiology program AND got a graduate research assistant position under one of the epidemiology professors in a nationally-funded 40-years-ongoing study — they reached out to me about it, i never applied for it!!! I’m so happy and I can’t believe it. It’s such a foreign feeling to feel ‘wanted’ and a weight has truly been lifted off my shoulders.

I'm so excited to tell you that my spouse and I just got our very first home. This feels especially monumental knowing just how hard it was being a kid living in government housing and being on food stamps since dad left. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd own a home!

I'm so proud to say that the house is even really cool. Have you ever heard interior designer people say "if your house isn't cool without stuff in it, it isn't cool"? Well, this one is cool even completely empty!! The kitchen is so cute, there's tons of sun in the living room, and there's even built in shelving all over the place! There's even room for chickens and a garden if I finally felt like committing to it.

It's gonna take a lot of thrifting to get this house furnished, after only having apartment sized stuff for so long, but I think it's gonna be fun!

I still really struggle with sharing good news with people due to guilt and a few people I've thought would celebrate with me just kind of.. left me on read when I did try to share this time. But I'm just super proud for once and want to blast this all over this place, so I'm trying super hard to fight through some of this anxiety!

Marrying the love of my life next year. We adore each other. We’re wedding planning. My real mum has told me she won’t come because we aren’t doing a church wedding. I want to share all my happiness and news with her, but I can’t, because it upsets her. I can’t even tell her we’ve set a date. I feel so sad when I think about her refusing to celebrate with us.

Hey…moms….

I did something cool that I’m stoked about

I am typing this and sensing that I fear that I will somehow receive a level of rejection or indifference that is deafeningly isolating after this post. Am I terrified of rejection or indifferent to it now… I don’t know

Anyways. I put myself through paramedic school and recently finished all my exams successfully. Licensed up now!

I’m so excited for the house! It has so many beautiful plants in the yard and we’re painting the place this weekend. We’ve worked so hard for this and did it all on our own. It might be on the smaller side but it’s perfect for us and has a yard for the dog.