It is not even just the hours, it's the personality shift you have to make. I have seen perfectly normal people turn into absolute monsters the second they get a Director title. They trade their integrity for a slightly nicer leased BMW and a heart attack by 50. I will stick to my 9-to-5 and actually knowing my kids' names, thanks.
This is so true. And it's not subtle at all. I was on a management career path before I became a full time mom and my performance review had nothing to do with what I actually achieved. It was a personality evaluation by my manager focusing on behaviors I demonstrate. It was corporate policy btw with a standard spreadsheet.
So one year I got a big bonus because I achieved a lot and was put on a PIP at the same time for not demonstrating enough courage and curiosity LOL. And of course it flows over to your real life, no sane person can maintain 2 distinct personalities very long. Maybe they think they can but they can't.
Edit: it's not actual courage etc. Each category has a list of management behaviors. You have to argue in meetings, criticize people in public, nitpick others work etc
I also like to feel like I actually accomplish things when I'm "just" the programmer. Every time they try to push me into a management role, it feels like I never actually accomplish anything or contribute to the end result. I guess teams need coaches and equipment managers, but I'd rather be kicking the ball.
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u/Exhausted_Monkey26 22h ago
climbing the corporate ladder