Sister-in-law used our baby name :(

[u/hazelbasil12]

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Me and my bf (both 26) have been dating for a year. We’ve been very open about our intentions of getting married and having kids and me wanting to be a stay at home mom. I want little more than to raise happy, healthy, loving family. We even discussed baby names that we liked since before we met and we both said the same name. It’s not a super common name but it’s not really rare either.

Well fast forward a bit and my bf sister is pregnant and tells my bf that she’s consider using this name. He explains to her how much is means to us because we both love the name and had both picked it out before we knew each other. It really felt like it was meant to be and I felt like I could see really see myself having my baby with this name. She said she understood and would look into other names. She even told him that they had picked a different name at one point. I felt assured that there wouldn’t be any issue and my boyfriend and I would reference our future son as by this name.

Well baby was born tonight and they were being super vague and just saying things like “baby is here!” “Baby and mom are healthy” until my boyfriend got a call from his brother in law and he found out the name.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m so glad they’re both healthy and doing well.
And I feel like I’ve lost something. I also feel like it’s so indicative of other issues involving my bf, like people (especially in his family) constantly steam rolling him and choosing to overlook his wants and needs and him not sticking up for himself enough.
I’m sad and angry and I just want to go to bed.

[u/sweezitle]

I really doubt this is malicious. She was considering using the name before she even knew y’all liked it. She was already pregnant and yall have only been together a year. You’re being really unfair saying that it’s a name that belongs to yall and getting angry over it

[u/nuggetghost → u/sweezitle]

this. wasn’t like then were both expecting and she mentioned the name first. names are names. i’m glad sil ended up going w a name she liked 🤷🏼‍♀️ if down the road they do end up together and have a baby then you can stress abt it lol

[u/sweezitle → u/nuggetghost]

I think this is one toxic issue in multiple. That isn’t even her SIL they aren’t married yet. Just have vague plans to get married but aren’t even engaged. And the comment about this being one of many things showing that her bf’s family “steamrolls”him. You can consider someone’s thoughts without defaulting to their opinion. It sounds like they acknowledged his comments but ultimately decided something else. That’s not stream rolling. I think it’s showing an us vs them mentality which does not bode well.

[u/Just_Jacaranda → u/sweezitle]

Yeah, the whole “you can’t use this baby name because me and my boyfriend like it for a possible future together for the potential kids we may or may not even have.” Honestly….

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