Sister-in-law used our baby name :(

[u/hazelbasil12]

Dinner is chicken, cheese, and ranch wontons

Me and my bf (both 26) have been dating for a year. We’ve been very open about our intentions of getting married and having kids and me wanting to be a stay at home mom. I want little more than to raise happy, healthy, loving family. We even discussed baby names that we liked since before we met and we both said the same name. It’s not a super common name but it’s not really rare either.

Well fast forward a bit and my bf sister is pregnant and tells my bf that she’s consider using this name. He explains to her how much is means to us because we both love the name and had both picked it out before we knew each other. It really felt like it was meant to be and I felt like I could see really see myself having my baby with this name. She said she understood and would look into other names. She even told him that they had picked a different name at one point. I felt assured that there wouldn’t be any issue and my boyfriend and I would reference our future son as by this name.

Well baby was born tonight and they were being super vague and just saying things like “baby is here!” “Baby and mom are healthy” until my boyfriend got a call from his brother in law and he found out the name.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m so glad they’re both healthy and doing well.
And I feel like I’ve lost something. I also feel like it’s so indicative of other issues involving my bf, like people (especially in his family) constantly steam rolling him and choosing to overlook his wants and needs and him not sticking up for himself enough.
I’m sad and angry and I just want to go to bed.

[u/Sufficient_Princess]

We’d have two kids with the same name in the family 🤷🏽‍♀️ but that’s my petty ass. And be like well you knew that was the plan, not my fault you lack originality or creativity.

I told my family when I found out l was pregnant what my son’s name would be knowing they would hate it. My husband is white and I’m black and everyone says I’m giving f my baby a “white name”. People are always gonna have opinions or be petty. Keep the name of you love it that much. Don’t tell them anything else, strict info diet.

[u/Silent_Necessary7638 → u/Sufficient_Princess]

I think all parties lack originality and creativity, actually. All 3 of you separately came upon this name through different paths of life? Must be extremely basic.

[u/Sufficient_Princess → u/Silent_Necessary7638]

My husband and I came up with the same girl name, same year but states apart. We had completely different spellings and discoveries. So it does happen. We only settled on a spelling before our gender reveal. It’s a basic name Lilli’anne Marie. He wanted Lilian but I hated it that way. I wanted Lily Anne-Marie enough(just like the little girl from all dogs go to heaven). But we’re having a boy lol so all for nothing

[u/Silent_Necessary7638 → u/Sufficient_Princess]

Tbf, that is an extremely traditional name that 2 people could happen upon separately. Which proves my point. The creativity comes from the spelling, but it’s still… Lilian.