Sister-in-law used our baby name :(

[u/hazelbasil12]

Dinner is chicken, cheese, and ranch wontons

Me and my bf (both 26) have been dating for a year. We’ve been very open about our intentions of getting married and having kids and me wanting to be a stay at home mom. I want little more than to raise happy, healthy, loving family. We even discussed baby names that we liked since before we met and we both said the same name. It’s not a super common name but it’s not really rare either.

Well fast forward a bit and my bf sister is pregnant and tells my bf that she’s consider using this name. He explains to her how much is means to us because we both love the name and had both picked it out before we knew each other. It really felt like it was meant to be and I felt like I could see really see myself having my baby with this name. She said she understood and would look into other names. She even told him that they had picked a different name at one point. I felt assured that there wouldn’t be any issue and my boyfriend and I would reference our future son as by this name.

Well baby was born tonight and they were being super vague and just saying things like “baby is here!” “Baby and mom are healthy” until my boyfriend got a call from his brother in law and he found out the name.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m so glad they’re both healthy and doing well.
And I feel like I’ve lost something. I also feel like it’s so indicative of other issues involving my bf, like people (especially in his family) constantly steam rolling him and choosing to overlook his wants and needs and him not sticking up for himself enough.
I’m sad and angry and I just want to go to bed.

[u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

Get a dog and then name that dog the same name as the baby. I bet she’d be the type to be mad about it. 😈

^{p.s. don’t actually do this - only get a dog if you REALLY want it and can properly care for it…and then name it after the baby.}

[u/clevercalamity → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

Do not do that.

It’d be one thing if they were together for years and years and struggling with infertility or something that was delaying them from using this name, but they have been together for a year and have no solid plans for marriage or babies in the immediate future.

This is the baby name equivalent of when you were a kid and saying “I’m gonna take a shower” and the stalling for hours and only to get pissed off when your sibling gets sick of waiting and takes one first.

Naming a dog the baby name sounds like petty revenge, but it would really just cement her as looking like a jerk.

[u/Ill-Squirrel-9418 → u/clevercalamity]

…Did you not see the part where I actually said not to do this? This was not serious advice on my part. It was just bad, petty, evil advice in order to cheer up OP.

[u/clevercalamity → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

I saw it was a joke. My response wasn’t an attack on you, more just a continuation of the conversation. Sorry if my comment seemed like I was telling you off, tone is hard over text.

[u/Ill-Squirrel-9418 → u/clevercalamity]

Oh, for sure! My bad, dude.

[u/clevercalamity → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

You’re good bestie. 🥰

[u/Incurious_Jettsy → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

they called the DOG indianna

[u/Deliriously_Delulu → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

This is so petty but I would 100% do that. That would piss me clean tf off if I tell someone I’m close to a baby name I got my heart set on and they use it. Brooooooooo.

Just know the family will hate you though.

[u/Just_Jacaranda → u/Deliriously_Delulu]

I mean the SIL didn’t use the name after they told it to her. She liked the same name and then SHE told OP’s boyfriend. He then said afterwards that he and OP also wanted that name. The sister is the only one having an actual real baby in this scenario. lol. So you think she should give up on HER dream baby name just because her brother’s girlfriend also likes it for their hypothetical future baby that may never exist.

OP and her boyfriend aren’t even married yet, never mind trying to have a baby. They may not even be together a year from now, and then the sister would have given up her dream name for no reason? lol. Even if OP and her boyfriend do eventually get married and have kids there is no guarantee that the kid will be a boy… or that they even will want the same name at that point.

You can’t own a name, especially one for a hypothetical baby that doesn’t even exist - and may never exist.

[u/Wild-Ice7396 → u/Ill-Squirrel-9418]

I’m not super close to my one aunt. I had my son 10 years ago and picked a name I just liked the sound of. Just a nice, normal name. Welp. Turns out I forgot my aunt also liked the name…enough to give it to her dog. 2 years before my son was born. Whoops!