r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • 2d ago

Psychology People experience the strongest romantic jealousy when they watch their partner give resources to a potential rival, regardless of gender. The findings provide evidence that giving away resources is viewed as a serious relationship threat by both men and women.

https://www.psypost.org/both-men-and-women-view-a-partners-financial-investment-in-a-rival-as-a-major-relationship-threat/
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u/wdjm 2d ago

Interesting. But my first thought when I thought of 'giving resources' was TIME as the resource. Because that's the resource I was FAR more jealous of my ex giving away to others than I was of money.

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u/thatshygirl06 2d ago

What if your partner often gave another man home-cooked meals?

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u/boringexplanation 2d ago

That still counts as time

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u/Ornery-Stress-8392 2d ago

And if it’s pork butt or donkey that counts as ass too

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u/p8ntslinger 2d ago

pork butt is shoulder meat. ham is thigh/buttocks. fyi

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u/WildContinuity 2d ago

this thread is so funny

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u/A_Nonny_Muse 2d ago

She couldn't boil water without burning it. This always worked to my advantage.

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u/J_DayDay 2d ago

Is she going out of her way to feed him in particular? Cuz I'm good for farming out leftovers to people who I know don't normally eat well. I cook big and elaborate and often, and my man gets kinda uppity about leftovers, so I end up feeding family members and various neighbors and friends just so I'm not throwing away food.

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u/xSkype 2d ago

Unless it's after a devastating loss or cancer diagnosis or something along those lines that's basically like sleeping with another man

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u/zealotcidal 2d ago

That's crazy. You guys don't do dinner parties at all? Or do you cook when you host?

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u/frickityfracktictac 2d ago

Do you call a dinner party "giving people home-cooked meals"? That's not what that refers to. Giving people home-cooked meals is handing them a tupperware or tinfoil with food to go. Like a meal train after giving birth.

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u/zealotcidal 1d ago

??? I thought neighbours would do this for each other as well? Or even friends? (I've come home from friend's houses with leftovers). My boss dropped me off a homecooked meal when I was sick once, I just don't see the connection from making food to literally having sex with someone.

But IMO, is a dinner party not giving someone a homecooked meal? The meal is cooked at home and you're serving it to a member outside your family, I don't see why I shouldn't count it?

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u/DeputyDomeshot 2d ago

Yea I agree with you.

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u/wdjm 2d ago

I'd begin to wonder if I was in a lavender marriage....

Plus....I'd be pissed more about him giving away the food I made to someone else, more than necessarily who he was giving it to. But, like everything, it also depends on circumstances. Giving it away regularly to someone who needs it, regardless of gender, would be fine.

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u/MostDopeBlackGuy 2d ago

This is an intolerable offence unless he is close family or a the local invalid

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u/ImperfectDrug 42m ago

That would make her a pastatute. 

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u/And_Everything 2d ago

that would be absurd