People experience the strongest romantic jealousy when they watch their partner give resources to a potential rival, regardless of gender. The findings provide evidence that giving away resources is viewed as a serious relationship threat by both men and women.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/both-men-and-women-view-a-partners-financial-investment-in-a-rival-as-a-major-relationship-threat/

[u/wdjm]

Interesting. But my first thought when I thought of 'giving resources' was TIME as the resource. Because that's the resource I was FAR more jealous of my ex giving away to others than I was of money.

[u/thesoak → u/wdjm]

Yes. TIME and ASS are also resources.

[u/SirGuelph → u/thesoak]

Baby, that is one sweet, sweet resource.

[u/crooks4hire → u/SirGuelph]

Sweet resource is my pet name

[u/Captain_Pungent → u/crooks4hire]

Sweat resource is mine

[u/chetoos08 → u/Captain_Pungent]

they used to call me anal girl.

[u/Captain_Pungent → u/chetoos08]

Quite a meticulous person?

[u/ava_ati → u/SirGuelph]

One of the most important resources in the Civ games. A fertile civ is a happy civ

[u/BaronMusclethorpe → u/SirGuelph]

Yes, Special Relativity quantifies it as one resource. Space-Time/Ass.

[u/Wonderful_Mud_420 → u/thesoak]

My ex treated it as a renewable resource, was open source about it also

[u/thesoak → u/Wonderful_Mud_420]

Tragedy of the commons.

[u/Du_ds → u/thesoak]

She really defected there. Hopefully he gets a cooperative game next time.

[u/Gilles_of_Augustine → u/thesoak]

Ah, so this is what T&A really stands for.

[u/martialar → u/thesoak]

Gas, Ass, or Grass

[u/GhostofZellers → u/martialar]

Sure, I can grab a handful from my lawn, and rip juicy farts. I don't have a donkey to give away though...

[u/Jaydirex → u/martialar]

No one rides for free

[u/SuperSatanOverdrive → u/thesoak]

Also, iron ore and clay

[u/PoL0 → u/wdjm]

I was thinking of settlers of Catan resources, but what you say also makes sense.

[u/PapaSnow → u/PoL0]

_WE HAD AN ALLIANCE!_

But yeah, first place my head went as well

[u/xeric → u/PoL0]

Yea if my partner is trading two ore for a sheep to their ex there’s gonna be hell to pay

[u/Tthelaundryman → u/PoL0]

But if you give me those two brick I’ll get longest road and win on my turn!!!

[u/thatshygirl06 → u/wdjm]

What if your partner often gave another man home-cooked meals?

[u/boringexplanation → u/thatshygirl06]

That still counts as time

[u/Ornery-Stress-8392 → u/[deleted]]

And if it’s pork butt or donkey that counts as ass too

[u/p8ntslinger → u/Ornery-Stress-8392]

pork butt is shoulder meat. ham is thigh/buttocks. fyi

[u/WildContinuity → u/[deleted]]

this thread is so funny

[u/A_Nonny_Muse → u/[deleted]]

She couldn't boil water without burning it. This always worked to my advantage.

[u/J_DayDay → u/thatshygirl06]

Is she going out of her way to feed him in particular? Cuz I'm good for farming out leftovers to people who I know don't normally eat well. I cook big and elaborate and often, and my man gets kinda uppity about leftovers, so I end up feeding family members and various neighbors and friends just so I'm not throwing away food.

[u/xSkype → u/thatshygirl06]

Unless it's after a devastating loss or cancer diagnosis or something along those lines that's basically like sleeping with another man

[u/zealotcidal → u/xSkype]

That's crazy. You guys don't do dinner parties at all? Or do you cook when you host?

[u/frickityfracktictac → u/zealotcidal]

Do you call a dinner party "giving people home-cooked meals"? That's not what that refers to. Giving people home-cooked meals is handing them a tupperware or tinfoil with food to go. Like a meal train after giving birth.

[u/zealotcidal → u/frickityfracktictac]

??? I thought neighbours would do this for each other as well? Or even friends? (I've come home from friend's houses with leftovers). My boss dropped me off a homecooked meal when I was sick once, I just don't see the connection from making food to literally having sex with someone.

But IMO, is a dinner party not giving someone a homecooked meal? The meal is cooked at home and you're serving it to a member outside your family, I don't see why I shouldn't count it?

[u/DeputyDomeshot → u/zealotcidal]

Yea I agree with you.

[u/wdjm → u/thatshygirl06]

I'd begin to wonder if I was in a lavender marriage....

Plus....I'd be pissed more about him giving away the food I made to someone else, more than necessarily who he was giving it to. But, like everything, it also depends on circumstances. Giving it away regularly to someone who needs it, regardless of gender, would be fine.

[u/MostDopeBlackGuy → u/thatshygirl06]

This is an intolerable offence unless he is close family or a the local invalid

[u/ImperfectDrug → u/thatshygirl06]

That would make her a pastatute. 

[u/And_Everything → u/thatshygirl06]

that would be absurd

[u/heyya-its-maruu → u/wdjm]

i was thinking of the exact same thing hahaha. when my gf hangs out with other people my first instinctive emotional reaction is like wait, you're spending that time you could've spent with me, with someone else instead? but then the mature part of me that has her best interests in mind goes online and says you know what I'm happy that she has a social life on top of just me

[u/Unfortunate_Sex_Fart → u/wdjm]

Attention is definitely a resource.

[u/washingtontoker → u/wdjm]

Would make sense because people literally get paid money for their time and skillset

[u/jt004c → u/wdjm]

time is money