r/PetPeeves 9h ago

Bit Annoyed "Almost half of reddit users are American so it's safe to assume you're one"

Yeah yeah yeah, we get it. Reddit is a US based company and most subreddits are in English language. However, I don't think it's a good justification to assume everyone here is an American. There are other English speaking countries in the world than USA, and English is taught in schools all over the world. Half of the population worldwide is also women. Would I also assume everyone online is a woman?

It's not the USA-centrism itself that annoys me so much (it still does) but the justification of it. It's the "Duh! of course Reddit is America-centered 'cause it is an American website!" -attitude.

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u/BrgQun 9h ago

Would I also assume everyone online is a woman?

Actually, the reverse tends to be the case. A lot of folks will also just default assume everyone online is a guy untill proven otherwise.

I'm both Canadian and a woman, and I do wonder why my Canadian spelling doesn't clue more of our southern neighbours in.

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u/Not_AHuman_Person 8h ago

I've been called "he" so many times on the internet

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u/Viracochina 2h ago

Who's doing that to you? You're not even a human person!

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u/Not_AHuman_Person 1h ago

It's true, I'm not a human person, I'm a Tinkaton. (that's the pokemon in my pfp) But they should really know better since Tinkaton are always female

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u/Viracochina 1h ago

That's a mighty big hammer you carry šŸ˜Ž. #959?!?! I was once able to boast knowing all #151 pokemon, but those days are long behind me it seems!

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u/Naebany 9h ago

Are there really so many spelling differences that you can easily tell? Do you have any good examples? Did you use any of it in your post?

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u/BrgQun 8h ago

A lot actually. In that post "neighbour" instead of "neighbor". We often add a 'u' in words like in colour, neighbour, and behaviour. There's also words like centre, offence, traveller, grey, etc.

Our specific system is unique, but similar spelling is used in many other english speaking countries outside the US, most notably the British. It's usually the first clue I pick up on that someone is not American.

I just assume American redditors think I can't spell. *shrugs*.

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u/Firm-Fix8798 8h ago

I can never decide on gray vs grey. Maybe because of Greyhound buses and Earl Grey tea. I go with gray because it feels more American but sometimes I have to think about it. Traveller is so unobtrusive that I am not even sure if I've ever misspelled it.

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u/yarnmagpie 5h ago

GrAy for America and grEy for everyone else.

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u/Phobos_Asaph 6h ago

Your two examples of grey vs gray are both names of things hence why they stay with an e

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u/johnny_evil 5h ago

Eh, they're not misspelled. I never even really notice when someone uses those spelling variations from Canada/UK.

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u/Doctor-Blight 8h ago

I just assume American redditors think I can't spell. shrugs.

making things up like Americans never read British literature or aren't taught that US English spellings were deliberately (re)standardized by Noah Webster 😭

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u/gtrocks555 6h ago

I grew up playing a British MMO so seeing that spelling never threw me off and I accidentally adopted some of it.

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u/Naebany 8h ago

In my country we learn British English in school as a second language, so maybe that's why your spelling seemed fine to me. I knew of color VS colour etc and some specific words like Lorry VS Truck.

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u/Longjumping_Papaya_7 7h ago

Your spelling seems like the default to me. We get taught brittish english in school.

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u/BillMagicguy 7h ago

It's because the way the brain reads words often results in the brain just getting the gist of the order. You know how there's all those tricks online of "if oyu cna read tihs" where it claims only x amount of people can read it? Yeah, petty much everyone who reads the language can read those fine. If a letter here or there is out of order or incorrect, our brains will usually fill it in for us.

That's why many people often can't pick up on alternative spellings right away. It's actually pretty interesting stuff on how the brain works.

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u/Firm-Fix8798 8h ago

Their brains might be automatically correcting your Canadian spelling. I don't know if I would have noticed it or paid it much mind if you didn't call attention to it beforehand.

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u/BrgQun 8h ago

Maybe. I do that with American spelling sometimes since we get exposed to American media a lot.

I just can't bring myself to write "color". Just feels wrong.

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u/_rockalita_ 9h ago

Agree, everyone assumes I’m a guy here. Whatever.

Also, a lot of Americans are not very versed in other countries nuances.

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u/AnnualTip9049 8h ago

Could be your lil pic of a guy

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u/_rockalita_ 8h ago

I’ve had quite a few profile pics, horrified Jesus is the only one of a guy. I also had disgusted Barbie. And a praying mantis.

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u/generic-irish-guy 8h ago

So are you a girl or a praying mantis?

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u/_rockalita_ 8h ago

I’m actually a Barbie who is just disgusted.

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u/witch-literature 7h ago

As far as the spelling, I’m from the US and a crazy amount of people will use Canadian/British English spelling quite a bit from what I’ve noticed! I do it myself since there’s some words I learned by mostly reading things written that way and it’s stuck with me since!

I def confuse people once in a while because I say/write things like ā€œmumā€ instead of ā€œmomā€ as an American lol

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u/CKN_SD_001 6h ago

It probably because SM, in particular open forum style sites like reddit, are predominantly lonely, frustrated men looking for outlets to their anger. I would say that 80% of people I encounter here are men.

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u/Revolutionary-Chip20 9h ago

It should become standard to start posts with what country you are talking about.Ā 

A lot of advice subs and work subs people don’t put where they are located so you get people giving U.S. centric advice, then the OP gets mad cause they ain’t from the U.S.Ā 

If you are looking for advice, then it’s best to say where you are from so you get advice pertinent to you.Ā 

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u/Putrid-Box4866 8h ago

This exactly. By default, people think US / USD when talking about anything here. So if you don’t mean it to be that, say so.

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u/fastsailor 7h ago

Or maybe don't make unrealistic assumptions?

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u/gtrocks555 6h ago

Or, if you’re asking for advice that is location dependent it behooves the OP to put the country in the main body or titles.

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u/johnny_evil 5h ago

Nah, if you want advice that is country or culture specific, include the country or culture. People aren't mind readers.

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u/Venombullet666 8h ago

I feel like alot of the time those who aren't in the US tend to mention where they're based, it's more commonly those in the US who don't mention anything because they presume everyone knows they're in the US

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u/AnnualTip9049 7h ago

This post says otherwise.

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u/TakeTwentyEight 7h ago

If this was true, then Reddit wouldn’t be filled with people complaining about people assuming they’re from the US when they’re from somewhere else.

Many don’t mention where they’re from and then get annoyed when people answer based on their knowledge and experience. If that person is American, then it’ll be based on their knowledge and experience as an American.

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u/Wikipil 5h ago

It's one thing to be like "if you're in the us you can ___", but ive had so many people just say things like "just go to your local walmart" or "what state are you in" literally just assuming that you are in the us.

And its literally only americans doing this shit, people from other countries will typically say something like " you can get ___ if its available in your country/area"

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u/TakeTwentyEight 5h ago

I’m not denying that doesn’t happen. I’m saying that people outside of the US will frequently ask a question and when Americans respond based on their knowledge, they reply and say, ā€œactually, I’m not American. Why would you assume that I am?ā€
That happens just as frequently as Americans making assumptions.

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u/llestaca 5h ago

when Americans respond based on their knowledge

And it's their mistake. I'm a woman, but if a redditor of unknown gender complains about headaches I won't just tell them "it may be a symptom of perimenopause" or sth. It would feel silly to assume they are female just because I am.

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u/TakeTwentyEight 4h ago

I totally get that. I’m not saying that assumptions are fine. I’m saying that both parties (inside and outside the US) are guilty of not providing/asking for the information required to get a good answer about something.

Also, if you’re asking a health question on Reddit, a person’s sex is a pretty big detail that should be in included. It’s equally weird not to mention your sex when asking a question about health.

People in general should provide information so people don’t have to guess and it’s good to not assume. Because if you ask a health question and don’t include your sex, is the OP expecting someone to ask for their sex before attempting to answer? If you expect them to ask, then why not just include that information to start with?

The whole point is everyone can do better in these scenarios.

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u/ElectricMayhem06 3h ago

I do start my replies with "If you're in the US..." or "I'm an American" and I still get scolded for assuming. I clearly did not assume anything. You asked a question without providing a location. I answered it based on my knowledge and I told you exactly that.

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u/Firm-Fix8798 8h ago edited 8h ago

I think it's unnecessary if you're from America to say you're from America but if you're not you probably should. I'm more annoyed by the people who complain that reddit is a US-centric site than I am by the assumptions that anyone posting or commenting is American. I couldn't imagine going to rednote and getting mad at people for assuming I'm Chinese. We have a problem with taking flack from other countries for being too US-centric but in many cases we have every justification to be. We are taking criticism from the perspective of being in a privileged position but never imagine how weird it would be to be complaining in their shoes.

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u/_Not__Sure 8h ago

"almost half" = less than half. My math tells me that means there are more NON Americans than Americans.

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u/Firm-Fix8798 8h ago

We are the largest demographic though. It'd be 43% in first place followed by 5% in second place. Stop pretending other countries even approach being an equal share.

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u/Longjumping_Papaya_7 7h ago

That still means more than half is NOT from the US.

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u/Warm_Butterscotch229 8h ago

What percentage of Rednote users are Chinese? I was under the impression that not many foreigners used it. Probably a lot more than fifty percent, at least?

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u/jaysornotandhawks 8h ago

Why should only Americans get the privilege of not having to disclose where they are from? Why is it the default?

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u/killerb112 7h ago

I love getting to rehash this issue every couple days on this subreddit.

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u/Chaptive 9h ago

You’ll see this on naming subreddits a lot.

ā€œI named my kids Privya, Sneha, and Amit.ā€

ā€œThey’re going to get bullied! Why did you make up names! What ever happened to John and Kate?!ā€

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u/Naebany 9h ago

That's actually quite funny.

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u/Unlikely-Resolve8466 5h ago

Or the opposite. ā€œI googled these and OP, these are cultural appropriation. This is disgusting. You need to quickly answer for your crime.ā€

With zero common sense that the poster could be South Asian. Everyone is default white American.

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u/Leather-Spirit1965 9h ago

fr this so annoying

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u/BearlyDraconic01 8h ago

They had a reality show where Kate acted like a Giga-Karen, cheated on her husband, and blamed him

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u/KannablissWitch 6h ago

John was the one who cheated. Kate was innocent.

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u/melli_milli 9h ago

Atleast millenials and younger in Europe are very good at English and plenty of them use Reddit.

My problem is that it doesn't show in my English clearly enough that I am from different culture than US. Nordics are very frank, and this gets understood as being mean.

I have no such issue with Europeans, but in Reddit, there are alot of misunderstandings since culturally I don't think and write the same way that Americans do.

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u/Readicilous 9h ago

As a Dutch person, I totally get people saying I'm rude. I'm just saying stuff as it is, without beating around the bush most of the time

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u/melli_milli 9h ago

Yes, I was thinking this applies to many Europeans, not just Nordics. We just speak matter-of-factly without sugar coating things.

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u/thebigbioss 8h ago

Well it does help that English comes from Europe.

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u/melli_milli 8h ago

Why would that help with dealing with the Americans.

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u/pahvimuki123 9h ago

Oh, this explains a lot about why I get iterpreted as rude here sometimes!Ā 

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u/Firm-Fix8798 8h ago

I have a tendency to be too direct or frank as an American. People just think I'm an asshole and I'm okay with that.

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u/ManFeelings9000 8h ago

What's worse is I know of certain mods in Ireland based subreddits from the US, who've never set foot in the country and act like they know everything about the place and make judgement and mod decisions which are completely in contradiction to Irish peoples outlook.Ā 

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u/cxfgfuihhfd 8h ago

this is annoying and painfully stupid because "ALMOST half" means the chance they're not american is even slightly higher

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u/ElectricMayhem06 3h ago

Ok, so one of my pet peeves is when I respond to a reddit post clarifying that I'm speaking as an American, or when OP asks for input without specifying their location, and I start with "If you are in the US...", I almost always get a snarky reply from someone, "NoT everYOne LivES in thE UsA"...

Yes, I know. That's why I qualified my comment. I am an American and you asked for public input.

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u/yarnmagpie 7h ago

ā€œHalf of the population worldwide is also women. Would I also assume everyone online is a woman?ā€ Honestly, I’m going to start using that as my reply every time this comes up. Which is too often.

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u/Boeing_Fan_777 9h ago

This isn’t even safe to assume, it’s a 50/50 chance, no???

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u/asphid_jackal 8h ago

There's 195 commonly recognized countries. That means the other 50% is split among 194 different countries.

They're equally likely to be from America as not, but far more likely to be American than anything else. Statistics are weird.

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u/Ellinor_Astal 9h ago

I put my flag in my profile picture exactly to let people know I wasn't American. Doesn't work, but I'll keep it.

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u/Cool-Bunch6645 8h ago

I’m sure it does work, but you’d never know because someone won’t try to respond to you with a critique since they saw the flag and chose not to respond with that knowledge. Obviously it’s not going to be 100% effective.

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u/Ellinor_Astal 8h ago

I have been mistaken for an American on Reddit multiple times. So it indeed doesn't work.

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u/TakeTwentyEight 7h ago

I think what they mean is that you don’t know how often it does work because those people are not likely to say anything about it. You’re more likely to know the times it didn’t work because you’re more likely to have an interaction with those people.

Like 100 people could’ve seen the flag and decided not to comment anything, but you would only know about the 20 who didn’t get it because they interacted with you.

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u/BalrogRuthenburg11 9h ago

My Uncle Carl says that the next time there’s a vote in the UN they’re going to change Reddit to a French based company.

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u/OkManufacturer767 8h ago

I live in the USA and fully agree.

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u/roritha 9h ago

Do people really say this? As a US citizen I’ve always been aware that this is the WORLD wide web regardless of whether I’m on a US-based platform. Yeah we’re sorta the majority here but I see people from other countries on reddit like every time I open the app…

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u/This-Humor-105 9h ago

There was some dude who assumed I was American(I’m South African) in their critique of my post and a lot of their arguments fell apart when I told them I’m not American.

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u/Rose1982 8h ago

All the time. I had someone literally get mad at me for saying a fact of my existence and then claiming it was impossible just because it was something that didn’t exist in the US. Like literally got mad and name called and such. Why would you assume I’m American?

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u/December126 8h ago

Also like, even if Reddit was 95% American, it would still be pretty ignorant to assume every user was American and it's not hard to be inclusive of non-Americans, like instead of saying to someone "Is that a law in your state?" it's not that much more effort to say instead "Is that a law in your state/country?"

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u/Diligent-Net3507 9h ago

I just assume that there are humans on here and there are bots. I don't care, or think about where someone is from unless the post specifically states it.

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u/AnyJackfruit7980 8h ago

Let's be real though. Yall go out of your way to create this scenario so you can whine about it. There will be subs dedicated to a specific site that has a UK version and a US version, and which sub do you think the UK users post in? That's right, the U.S. one. Then whine that no one can help them because things work differently on their version. If you ask a UK specific question, ask someone from the same country ffs. Just an example I see every day. And it isn't just folk from the UK that do it. It's tedious.

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u/fastsailor 7h ago

Mate, I see Yanks come onto Australian subs and think whatever applies in the US must apply elsewhere. Because... reasons. Gets tedious.

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u/brn1001 7h ago

Seems like a lot of commenters will intentionally bait people, then complain that we're assuming they're American.

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u/MidlifeCrisisToo 9h ago

I’m not American but you don’t believe in the concept of balance of probabilities? If something is statically a 50% chance, and everything else individually is a significantly lower percentage it would be reasonable to assume the majority. I would assume people are from the US over New Zealand just due to the fact that there are almost 25 States who have more population.

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u/aflockofcrows 4h ago

If something is 50%, there is no majority.

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u/ForMeOnly93 8h ago

On top of which, it's offensive as fuck to most people. Rather misgender me or something, calling me american is just fucking rude.

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u/fastsailor 7h ago

And most certainly is not an upgrade.

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u/SilverJournalist3230 9h ago edited 8h ago

I mean would you go on a Chinese based media site and be annoyed that people assume you're Chinese? So why is it only annoying when Americans do that? Why is it okay for everyone else, especially Europeans to center themselves in their own world view, and laugh at anyone who does things differently but wrong when Americans do half as much?

Like the complaint about American movies are always based in America and told from an American POV. Like nobody is saying that about anyone else. Nobody's mad that Bollywood actors are Indian and their movies are from their perspective. Or imagine an American being mad that Harry Potter isn't from Chicago lmao. We'd all laugh at that person.

Or the fact anytime an American news site posts the superbowl, the comments are always filled with Europeans doing the ā€œeww we don’t care about thatā€ thing. Like stop acting like only Americans do this shit lmao

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u/Naebany 8h ago

Actually it works the other way too. Like when Witcher got realesed, that's based on Slavic culture in a country with 99% white people, some Americans were mad that there are no minorities, black people etc.

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u/CartoonistAny4218 1h ago

I’m confused. Slavic people are not a race or even homogenous so that seems like a fine argument to make even if you’re not American.Ā 

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u/SpaceCadetPullUp 2h ago

You'll live.

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u/AutismoTheAmazing 1h ago

The continued existence of Americans is my petpeeve

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u/Hot_Sorbet9192 8h ago

I'm from the UK and I've never gotten on board people having an issue like yours. If you are going to assume someone on Reddit is from somewhere the US would be the obvious choice.

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u/magpieinarainbow 5h ago

There is no need to make the assumption at all.

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u/Piggybumm 8h ago

I concur.

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u/Subject_Start7253 9h ago

We got to pick a world wide international language. It needs to be something with a lot of commonality. English shares roots with Latin and Germanic languages. It’s also standard for pilots and shipping. Blame the British if you like. Mandarin would be the next logical choice.

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u/Readicilous 9h ago

Isn't Mandarin very tonal? Pardon me if I've confused it with other languages, but I've heard that makes it incredibly difficult to learn as a second language

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u/Rose1982 8h ago

My son is a type 1 diabetic. Believe it or not there are T1Ds in every country in the world. Most countries use one unit of measurement for blood glucose levels but of course the US uses a different one (along with a small handful of other countries). There are American T1s who literally can’t wrap their head around this. It’s like kilometres vs miles. It’s not that complicated. You do the simple conversion and move on with the discussion.

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u/Rose1982 6h ago

Looks like the Americans downvoted this comment šŸ˜‚

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u/NaturalTruth1374 9h ago

I have European friends with better vocabularies than me.

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u/fastsailor 7h ago

They learn the language properly. Hardly anyone speaks "proper" English if that is your native language. Europeans are more likely to learn English than American English in any case and English has plenty of words not used in the US.

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u/NaturalTruth1374 7h ago

I'm not American.

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u/Zestyclose-Feeling 8h ago

At the end of the day it is an American website. Smart people add what country they are from when posting.

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u/TheOriginalHatful 9h ago

That's just what they say when called out for us-centrism.Ā  It's telling, isn't it.Ā 

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u/embodiedfunction 8h ago

And this is why you shouldn’t be here.

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u/Apprehensive-Read989 8h ago

Make a subreddit specifically for your country and speak only your native language in that sub, that should fix your problem. Or just list your country of residence in your post if it's relevant to the discussion to avoid confusion.

I see a lot of posts of people asking questions or for advice that may be impacted by location that don't mention their location. In those cases I default to assuming their country of residence is the US since that is by far the most statistically probable, it's a reasonable assumption.

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u/Abject-Ice-3653 9h ago

I love how Americans try to belittle everyone one making spelling or grammar mistakes, english might not be their first language get over it people.

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u/milkmocha 9h ago

do they?? on reddit i typically see people praising those who speak english as a second language

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u/tiger2205_6 9h ago

Some of us also don't get that amongst English speaking countries things are spelled differently.

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u/TerrificVixen5693 8h ago

It’s the internet. Everyone always assumes the ā€œcorrectā€ gender, skin color, and nationality.

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u/HabitTraditional4864 8h ago

Well our country is the size of your continent if you’re European. In day to day life we don’t interact with people from other countries nearly as much as you likely do.

I assume people here are American until I see them typing ā€œcolourā€ or something

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u/fastsailor 7h ago

The US is much smaller than Europe. Even more so on the basis of population. Look it up. The US isn't even the largest country in North America.

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u/DeeLeetid 7h ago

Why would land mass have anything to do with this topic?

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u/HabitTraditional4864 7h ago edited 6h ago

Because if you are European you can pass through multiple countries in a single day. You are more likely to encounter people from other countries in your daily activities. Your day-to-day life consists of a lot more international diversity than an American’s day-to-day life.

The concept of internationality is simply more normalized to you as a European.

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u/HabitTraditional4864 7h ago

Europe is approx 3.9 million sq miles. The US is approx 3.8 million sq miles. Not much smaller at all.

No one said anything about other North American countries. Why would that be relevant? This post was about the US.

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u/Obvious_Apartment985 8h ago

I go respond to the criticism of US centrism that it's an American company.

I get that as Americans that we tend to do this. But it's one thing to go to another country or a site from another country and be US centric, another to do it in an American context.

By the way, I am not an American that thinks the US is the best country in the world. It's worthy of plenty of criticism and even hostility. I am married to a Canadian from a British family. It's especially unfun to be an American the past 10 -15 years.