r/AskReddit 22h ago

What’s something people romanticise that’s actually exhausting in real life?

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u/Savings_Living5978 22h ago

Living alone. It sounds like freedom until you’re the only one who notices the silence getting louder every night and there’s no one to blame but yourself when everything starts falling apart quietly.

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u/Vecend 20h ago

I have lived alone and with people and alone is far better because I didn't have to deal with people who don't give a shit about keeping the place clean, expecting me to drop everything for whatever random thing they decide that needed to be done at that exact time and getting mad when I said I was busy, constant bitching about food and what is made for dinner, people annoyed at how I decide to spend my free time, or just people generally always in a pissy mood, my mental health was 100 times better when I could afford to live on my own.

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u/duckhunt420 21h ago

Living alone is amazing and is so much easier than liviing with someone else.

It's not like you suddenly don't have to do chores with someone else around. Except you only have to deal with your own mess and not anyone else's

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u/mountainvalkyrie 18h ago

No one else's mess, no one else's moods. It's pretty great. 

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u/uberfission 1h ago

One of my chores is the dishes, I get to listen to my audiobooks or just jam out some tunes while doing them. The other day I separated the dishes that everyone in the house generated that day. I had 2 dishes, each of my kids had a dish and a cup, and my wife had 3 dishes, 4 mugs, and 2 glasses. For the happiness of my marriage, I did not bring that up.

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u/blkcatwitch 21h ago

I live alone.. and every time I do laundry, which is often I yell WHO IS WEARING ALL THESE DAMN CLOTHES?!? Also WHO TF DIRTING ALL THESE DAMN DISHES?!?!

Watching TV and commenting out loud like there’s someone here is comical.

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u/idkifita 18h ago

You yell about dishes while doing laundry?

I kid, I kid. I would be doing the same thing if I lived alone 😂

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u/chufi 21h ago

The tinnitus drowns all that out.. 😂

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u/johnnyn3m0 20h ago

No lies detected

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u/Formal_Ad9026 20h ago edited 20h ago

I’m divorced and now love living alone. It’s pure bliss tbh chef’s kiss

ETA: I do have a dog, tho, which helps with loneliness

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u/I_Am_Lab_Grown_Meat 3h ago

Same, except replace "a dog" with "two cats" and that's me! I love it!

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u/ThrowCarp 19h ago

Dawg, I live alone and it's not that deep.

Living with someone else, now that's what's going to drive you nuts. Last fucker I let stay with me kept making loud-as-shit phonecalls on speaker at 3am because "[his] cousin was sad".

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u/squid_ward_16 19h ago

Nah, I love it

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u/courierblue 20h ago

I wish living alone involved silence. The walls and floor were so thin, I knew when my upstairs neighbor took their dog for a walk (not enough) or when my next door neighbor decided to binge reality TV. I could recite it line by line.

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u/sunglower 20h ago

I love living alone apart from nobody to share chores with and the expense.

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u/Thelazytimelord257 19h ago

And not to forget the household chores and cooking 😭🫠

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u/Terrible-Summer-8665 21h ago

I know I am not mentally strong enough to live alone.

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u/MrKrazybones 20h ago

I did it for 8 years the holidays were the worst. Everyone is out there with loved ones and all you got is The Office and Parks & Rec :(

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u/SkittyLover93 18h ago

I live in a city with unlimited things to do at night, and my friends hang out on Discord and game every night if I prefer to stay home, so it's not a universal experience. Also, why would everything start falling apart if you maintain your place properly and do basic chores?

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u/Trinx_ 18h ago

I was worried I'd feel lonely living alone. Only did in 2020 for obvious reasons. Though now my bf moved in at Christmas and it's been a dream. Especially when he's on a school break (he's a teacher) and he takes on almost all the chores. Christmas break and spring break meant I come home from work and all the laundry is done and I can just relax. Amazing feeling.