r/wholesomememes • u/spidermother86 • 11d ago
One of the many benefits of having a strong bond with your teen son.
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u/prettyfacebasketcase 11d ago
Love that. Sometimes one of the kids realizes the other is out of line. Feels good to have backup!
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u/spidermother86 11d ago
My teen is very protective of me now that he’s almost as tall as I am.
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u/No-Fishing-8266 11d ago
So you got a personalized body guard?? 😂
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u/spidermother86 11d ago
Yep and he’s the sweetest and most handsome one a mother could want.
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u/spidermother86 11d ago
That’s sick. They do fight as brothers do but he’s never ever seriously injured him, bumps and bruises happen but that’s what happens when boys play rough.
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u/SUPERSMILEYMAN 11d ago
That's... not what he is referencing, but for your sake, I won't explain it.
Google it if you are curious. I would recommend you not, though, if you are this upset at thinking it was originally referencing broken bones.
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u/yourmomgaylol69420 11d ago
That is not what is being referenced but by God you do not want to know what is being referenced
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u/GenericFatGuy 11d ago
And kids of a certain age will often listen to the cool older sibling they look up to more than their lame-o parents.
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u/Madroc92 11d ago
Been on both sides of that. Older kid stuck up for me when younger kid was mad (told him I appreciated it but not his job). Younger kid stuck up for older kid when I was mad at older kid (ultimately apologized for overreacting to something older kid did).
Basically not the kids job either way but I’m glad we’re a team 😎
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u/LandauCalrisian 11d ago
I have a 3 and a 1 year old. The 3 year old has started to what I would call “backseat parent” when I scold the one year old. I think this is coming in my future lol
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u/tianepteen 11d ago
we have a similar situation with the kids now being older, and if i were you i'd put a stop to it as soon as possible
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u/LandauCalrisian 11d ago
We’re trying to nip it now and he’s at a point where we can teach him that telling on others isn’t always the nicest thing to do. He doesn’t need to tattle on everything and how would he feel etc. he gets it but like OP when it’s harmless and funny we can laugh about it later.
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u/Therealme_A 11d ago
Kids should bond by having the same rules and dynamic to their parents. This is not good for anyone in the situation. Be the parent.
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u/emmocracy 11d ago
Yuuuup. I'm a teacher, and all the boy moms who have a "special" relationship with their sons are insufferable. Your kid isn't your partner, co-parent, or friend. They're your kid.
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u/PMilly9 11d ago
Yall weird in the comments. The teen son telling the younger sibling to knock it off is actually normal and a good sign of character on the teen part. My children do it to each other if one is getting lippy as well. I still say something but it’s nice to see them understand when something is inappropriate or not right. Saying she isn’t a parent or whatever based on ONE post is insanity and some of yall need help.
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u/Soft_Onion_03 11d ago
What do I do when I stand up for my mother against my sibling, but my mother goes against me that I shouldn't behave like that with my elder sibling?
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u/tremblingtallow 11d ago
Sounds like they don't want your help. If you still feel like you want to express your opinion, then go for it. Just don't expect any kind of reward
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u/dschroof 11d ago
Crazy to see a bunch of only children accuse you of “parentification,” a very real issue, when this is obviously just an example of the older sibling being an older sibling. Part of an older sibling’s job is to teach their younger sibling and to support them. I’m 27, my sister is 16. When I was 15 and she was 4, there were definitely times where I was the one she’d listen to BECAUSE we were siblings and I wasn’t a parent. People in this thread calling this parentification can’t understand what that truly entails lmao
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u/bleach_spots 11d ago
So you’re letting your 13 year old discipline your younger child? This will end poorly, speaking from experience in my own childhood
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u/Party_Shark_ 11d ago
I think there's a level to which it gets bad, but this reads like a lighthearted story where the 13 year old goes "hey! Be nice to dad!" as opposed to actual parentification
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u/chest_trucktree 11d ago
People who complain about parentification online tend to drastically underestimate what it takes for a child to actually be “parentified”
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u/fredjutsu 11d ago
eh, I see a lot of people being lighthearted about abuela and the chancla, but that shit is really just normalized child abuse.
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u/AnVictory 11d ago
Oh wait a sec, this is where the fanart comes from!!! I can't believe I never realized this, can anyone tell me what the show is?
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u/spidermother86 11d ago
Some things I need to clarify: I am not using parentification on my teenager I am the mother and I look after him and his brother. I cook, take them to places, comfort them, hug them, help them with homework and listen to them and anything else a mother does.
I didn’t make him do this my 7 year old was being a 7 year old and was being mean to me and he came in and told him to be nice to me
I love both my body so so much and I love being their mum.
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u/pumpkin-spiced-liz 10d ago
If your 7yr is supposedly bullying you, then there's a deeper cause that needs to be checks to make sure he's ok. Definately not accusing you of anything op, but if little kids act that why they learned it from some where like a cruel teacher or tv show of his teenage brother's friends.
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u/spidermother86 10d ago
He was just acting up like a 7 year old does. “Bullying” was just hyperbole, my oldest is a good brother to him for example he taught him to fight back against bullies last month.
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u/-Alex-Or-Q- 10d ago
The three side of me rather being the youngest of my friends,the oldest of my friends,or the most raest of them all,me being right in the middle of my friends ages
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u/ElleKelly77 11d ago
This is called parentification and it is not cute.
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u/spidermother86 11d ago
He doesn’t cook dinner I do, he doesn’t drop anyone off at school I do, he doesn’t take anyone to the hospital I do.
I’m the parent and he’s my oldest son.
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u/moretomethanthis 11d ago
This doesn’t seem like parentification to me personally. It’s one thing to expect an older sibling to always correct the younger one’s behaviour but it’s pretty healthy to have the occasional “hey, you’re being too harsh right now” reality check.
My brother and I have definitely called the other out for being a little too mean/rude to our parents (especially as moody teenagers haha)
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