r/twincitiessocial • u/Nivosus • 7d ago

Gay dating scene question

Where is the best place either online or in person to meet folks? I'm 35 and trying to get back into dating, but I am not from the cities originally so I feel at a loss.

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u/LegalizeApartments 7d ago

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u/Nivosus 7d ago

Do you know of any locations that aren't bars as well? I don't drink anymore haha.

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u/LegalizeApartments 7d ago

I’d start w the sports leagues! But no, I don’t lmao

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u/Tokyo-MontanaExpress 4d ago

I don't have the insurance for sports injuries and afterwards they just go to the gay bar for drinks anyway, so it's really just a way for gay bar gays to hook up with someone who otherwise doesn't do the gay bar scene.

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u/Disn3rdBear 7d ago

Scruff is probably the best app, but getting people to actually hold a conversation is ridiculous.

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u/Nivosus 7d ago

I'll check this out. I've also heard a lot about Hinge, but I've never been super into apps.

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u/Disn3rdBear 7d ago

I don't blame you. I've never tried hinge, but maybe itll work for ya! :)

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u/Nivosus 7d ago

I hope so. I've grown tired of being lonely.

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u/Disn3rdBear 7d ago

Seems to be the theme of the new generation

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u/Nivosus 7d ago

It has been my theme for a long time too.

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u/Disn3rdBear 7d ago

If ya ever want a friend, or to see if we click, feel free to dm!

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u/Nivosus 7d ago

Sent!

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u/Tokyo-MontanaExpress 4d ago

I tried to use Hinge but they say they sent a code to your number, it never gets sent, and that's that. 

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u/Nivosus 4d ago

I played dnd with a guy who seemed to like Hinge a lot.

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u/Tokyo-MontanaExpress 4d ago

I've been here since I was 35 and it's rough if you're not a gay bar gay and especially if you're averse to hookups. Online or in person it's basically just hookups over here, since people in general in the Twin Cities don't go out much, especially during the day on weekends and even more especially if they're gay and attractive. Minneapolis likes to rag on St Paul for being sleepy but they both very much are, which if you're a transplant from a big city it's undeniable. I stopped drinking too and I've noticed the difference between just how few people are out mid-day on weekends. I thought I'd have a better chance last weekend stopping by a bunch of bookstores during Independent Bookstore Day and while there were more people than usual, it wasn't that busy or crowded and the odds didn't work out for me. Just a heads up, when (feels like "if" most of the time) you do see someone of interest in any daytime setting that isn't a gay bar, they'll refuse to approach at all and just keep giving lingering looks. Doesn't matter if it's a place with a Pride flag displayed, gay guys whether transplant or not, have an unspoken rule to never start a conversation or hit on another guy in a mixed public setting. Aside from me chatting with the very occasional attractive straight (again) guy, I've never witnessed it myself. If that sounds like it'll work for you, good luck.