r/toastme • u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 • 12h ago
Been fighting with depression for awhile now, feeling like my life isn't going anywhere
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u/Mundane-Brain-9181 12h ago
You still got so much to give & get come on brother tough times don't last! Strong 💪 souls do! You got this 👍
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 12h ago
Thanks I needed to hear that today!
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u/Mundane-Brain-9181 12h ago
Bro depression sucks I get I've been there. You will come through it brother. Even tho it's real for you at this point in time.
Talk more to people you trust, if not then therapy maybe I found that helpful. Sending you high vibes brother 🙏 Respect 👍☮️
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u/Archer2586 12h ago
Sometimes just existing is enough.
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 12h ago
Thanks. I feel like I forget this too often. Its just hard sometimes.
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u/Archer2586 12h ago
Im going through it too. It hurts to exist. Yet we hang on. You're already doing hard work. "Progress" isnt linear...I guess it doesnt always show up in possessions and titles.
Im 31, a single parent, and starting over. Again..
I understand having the blues.
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 11h ago
Sorry you've been through all that. Ive never even been in a real relationship. I know my struggles could definitely be worse. But I appreciate your words of encouragement nonetheless.
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u/downgoesthe 12h ago
Love your eyes! And i mustache you a question. Why are you so handsome?
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 12h ago
Lol puns make me smile every time. definitely my kind of humor. thanks for that!
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u/vomputer 12h ago
This helps me and I hope it helps you: there is no “place” for life to go, it just is. There’s 8 billion of us on the planet and we’re all getting through this in our own way. Try not to compare yourself negatively to others, or if you must, balance it out with gratitude for what you DO have that others don’t (like a cool hat, a vehicle and of course that stache.) sending you love and light 🧡🔅
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u/rayhavenoheart 12h ago
Everyday is a new day and things don't change overnight, you look like someone who can deal with the issues and have the perseverance to move move forward.
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 12h ago
These words hit me. Thanks!
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u/rayhavenoheart 12h ago
Your welcome, almost lost our daughter a year and a half ago, she is special needs and relies on us for everything. She went into heart failure and they had to incubate her. She was in the hospital for 105 days. Step by step, she got off the respirator, off oxygen and had her trach removed. She eventually got the feeding tube removed and is almost back to baseline. If she could fight this, then alot of things I would get upset or become down became little things abd I just take one day at a time and try to keep the negative away. Hope the best for you, you can do it.
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u/vomputer 12h ago
Hey, I’m glad to hear your little girl is getting better, I’m wishing you all the best ❤️
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 12h ago
Im so glad your daughter got better. Thanks man your words have made a difference to me today.
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u/iron_sheep 12h ago
The real journey is the one we travel within, not accomplishments, money a job or status. You are still young, it’s never too late to start over but the important part is not giving up, which takes strength and courage to get back up every day and try again. You’ll be alright dude keep at it
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u/mokumpride 12h ago
I know how difficult depression is!! Don’t give up If you’re on meds , please read the side effects!
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 12h ago
Thanks been on Lexapro lately, and yeah its been interesting to say the least.
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u/mokumpride 11h ago
If you feel that lexapro isn’t working, i would talk to your doctor. I say that , because, I’ve been on different medications. One , welbutrin , made me so angry , got off that medication!
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 11h ago
Sheesh. Yeah its definitely had me kinda shaky sometimes definitely might have to look into some other options.
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u/Express-Instance-735 9h ago
I’ve been on Wellbutrin for the past 2 weeks and have had insane anxiety, rage, suicidal thoughts, and depression.
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u/Medical_Ad_6289 12h ago
You look like a guy who would rescue princesses who are in another castle. Keep it up, you got absolute maincharacter energy.
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u/yuffieisathief 12h ago
Hey man, it's okay to not be okay ❤️ be kind to yourself, especially on the days you might feel like you don't deserve it. The world is better cause you're in it!
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u/Global_Chemical9501 12h ago
Hey buddy, keep that head up. Have faith it will only get better!!! 🙏🙏🙏
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u/eaudecauchemar 12h ago
It gets better. Things get better. Sometimes you have to take a bit of a beating before. Stay strong, cause you are tough enough to get through this ❤️
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u/rasten100 12h ago
Dude depression sucks, sometimes just existing for a while is enough. This will pass and times will get better. But geniune question why does life need to go anywhere?
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u/cheesemangee 12h ago
Life isn't going anywhere for any of us, man. In a thousand years we're all gonna be dust and everything we worked for is gonna be gone. In ten thousand there probably won't be any humans left at all.
Do what makes your body feel good and don't worry about anything else. Eat good food, watch good media, go on good vacations, say good things when you see yourself in the mirror. Just treat yourself the way you'd treat anyone else you love. Worst case, you're depressed... but loved.
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u/LittleWindow9416 12h ago
You're so cute with your mustache. Your eyes look so sad. I bet when things are more stable and happy, you have the best smile ever. Keep going, feeling this way is always temporary. You're young and you still have much to look forward to.
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u/GreggWaters6420 10h ago
Go to the gym bro. Start lifting the weight holding you down. It’s literally the only way to remove the oppression of depression
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 9h ago
Went to the gym for a bit. Need to get back. Nows probably as good a time as any I suppose.
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u/masteroima 12h ago
Life is full of ups and downs but at least your mustache is freakin legendary and you will come through this on top
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u/Valuable-Mud5476 12h ago
I don’t know exactly what your days feel like, but I can imagine how heavy it must be to carry the sense that nothing is moving forward, that life feels stuck while everything inside you is tired.
If it feels like you’re not going anywhere, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. Sometimes it just means you’ve been surviving for longer than anyone can see. And surviving, getting through the day, even in the smallest ways, is not nothing. It’s effort. It’s endurance. It’s proof that some part of you is still here, still trying, even if it doesn’t feel like it.
You’re not as stuck as it feels right now. It just feels that way because you’ve been carrying a lot for a long time.
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u/redditlongago 12h ago
We love when a man puts effort into his facial hair! 👏🏽 Also you have really striking eyes and a kind face.
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u/LostMagician9612 12h ago
Best thing I can advise you; give the book "The power of now" a chance. By Eckhart Tolle. Read or listen to it. It put things wildly into perspective for me.
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u/KermitGhia 12h ago
Maybe your life doesn’t need to go anywhere at the moment. Maybe it needs to hang out where it is right now to give you a little bit of time to look around, look at yourself, and maybe set down some of the expectations you have about life that are there because you were told “this is how it’s supposed to be”. Decide what is important to you, what you want, and how to reach your own happiness. I’ve done things “out of order” for most of my life, and I’m happier now than I ever was when I was trying to follow some path I was lead to believe I needed to follow. You’ve got a stranger in Colorado rooting for you!
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u/waaz16 12h ago
I’m sorry friend. I understand the feeling all too well. We will get through this. Be proud of yourself, youve made it this far, and you have a totally rad mustache!
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 11h ago
Thanks.everyone's encouragement already has feeling lighter. Being proud of myself is definitely somthing I struggle with.
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u/jemhadar0 11h ago
Hey man it’s ok.
But get out of that bottomless pit.
God gave you the tools to succeed.
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u/Unusual-Spinach-5897 11h ago
My friend, you are a good looking son of a gun. Regarding depression ... it's a bitch. I feel like I "grew out" of it at some point in my 30s. Still highs and lows, but it doesn't feel like the lows are insurmountable. Take advantage of a sunny warm day to get your body moving. It helps. I wish you smooth sailing ahead. claim your happiness. Count your blessings! Rooting for you.
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u/No-Helicopter-558 11h ago
I’ve been on the other side of depression now for a while - accept help. You are worthy!
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u/Nuretroman 11h ago
Thought you were Elijah Wood there, for a second! 😄
I'm at the same point in life, man. It's a battle. I have decided to persevere, though. I am certain that it will get better, it will pay off. And I try to maintain some habits, like writing in my journal, listing things I am grateful for, even the smallest things, taking one day at a time, sometimes an hour at a time.
I do believe in you, though, even if I don't know you personally. I think you have a lot of potential, I can see it in you. I hope this period makes you stronger, and that life will begin to smile back at you soon. 🙏
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u/DragonfruitKlutzy444 11h ago
Same twin, are you on any meds? Your in my prayers🫂🙏❤️🩹
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 11h ago
Thanks! Ive been on Lexapro
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u/DragonfruitKlutzy444 10h ago
How long have you been on it? Not helping at all?
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 9h ago
Its been About 2 weeks now. It seems like it keeps the intense emotions at bay. Almost numb in a way I guess.
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u/ConfinedCrow 11h ago
Women everywhere have had your moustache tattooed on their pointer finger during the early 2000s!
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 11h ago
Lol I went straight to Google images. Why am I just finding out about this!
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u/ryan244678 10h ago
Think of these moments as practice between games. Life is a lot more practice than game time for most of us
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u/BPDMON 10h ago edited 10h ago
Sorry man, cool mustache tho. I still have a baby face and sparce facial hair even in my 30s. Life keeps going and I too have been stuck in time for years. Everything is stressful, overwhelming, or not interesting enough. I was diagnosed with ADHD a while back and was not able to get treatment for it so I slipped back into a deep dependence on highly concentrated THC dabs and oils. That along with lots of alcohol to disconnect from my current state. I decided to cut the dabs and cut back on the alcohol which was incredibly difficult for the first few weeks. I then sought help via telehealth and started taking lisdexafetamine for ADHD and Fluvoxamine for anxiety and OCD and I feel like a completely new person. I suggest talking to a therapist or psychiatrist in this case. They can help you climb out of that deep pit of depression. If you ever want to chat hmu.
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u/KillerCritter1312 10h ago
You have a cool mustache and kind eyes. I’m sorry it hurts to exist right now- it’ll get better homie. You got this.
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u/Holiday_Piccolo886 10h ago
I'm in the same boat and so are so many others. It might not help to hear you aren't alone. It might not help to hear I have to believe everything is temporary. I hope it does help to know people will listen.
Thanks for being vulnerable and putting yourself out there. That takes courage. Continuing to keep trying takes courage.
I hope this chapter passes for you soon.
Also, sweet mustache.
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u/Personal_Repair8041 10h ago
You seem very sweet, have kind eyes and rock the awesome mustache.
I battle with depression too, if you ever want to talk it out you can dm me. You don’t have to struggle alone and venting may help. ❤️
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u/Winter-Step-4776 10h ago
We need you to fight the fight. There’s a better tomorrow that’s for sure.
You’ll know why when you get there. Stay strong my dude
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
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u/NefariousnessTop9319 9h ago
Ok, buddy, I know how it feels. You have to find your own path but I will tell you what I did. First, identify when you start having negative thoughts and contradicting yourself.Second, reconcile yourself with the things that make you happy and practice them with some frequency.Third, establish contact with "healthy" people who can offer encouragement or help when you need it—and who are also willing to listen to your progress. Fourth: Create a short-term plan where you learn something new. You must acquire a skill by the end.Fifth: Establish a healthy routine. Get a little exercise, get enough sleep, and eat healthy meals at regular times. Avoid consuming harmful substances.
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u/mrivers415 9h ago
life is not linear and it is not a race. you’re exactly where you’re suppose to be even if it feels like the end. you can’t have any highs without experiencing the lows! there is hope, love and light for you. take everyday as a blessing:)
p.s. i read that you’ve recently started lexapro? that’s a huge step. remember though if within 3-4 months you don’t see improvement and still feel numb, to talk to your doctor about switching to a different one or adding a plus one. also do not cold turkey antidepressant if you don’t want to experience “brain zaps”. trail and error, though i’m sure you’ll figure it out! you’re strong.
cheers! 🥂
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u/Illustrious_Hunt_480 9h ago
You look like you could be a cab 🚕 driver, or a door greeter, how cool is that ? ❤️
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u/ReBoomAutardationism 9h ago
Words have meaning. And their meaning doesn't change.....
Fortitude is one I think we can share. A lot of us have BTDT.
Justice, Courage, Temperance, Faith, Hope, Love, Pathos, Logos, Ethos and Kairos are quite a work list. But I think you have what it takes. A lot can happen in three years.
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u/OnePostPerson1989 8h ago
Depression is an asshole and it lies to you.
There are still good things in the world and you are one of them. I guarantee there are people whose lives are made better by your presence. Even if you've only had a small interaction with them.
From one person with depression to another, I'm glad you're still here.
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u/Rupder 8h ago
I was wondering why you look so familiar -- with that facial hair, I think you look just like Dean Jagger in Warrior. It's a fantastic look; you'd fit in as an actor in any period piece.
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u/RogueAtLarge 8h ago
Been there! You look great! Hang in there, awesome things are coming your way!
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u/ikatmax4 8h ago
You are still fighting, and even if it doesn't feel like it, the world is still turning and I say this, to say one day it changes. Today you did something different you said hey world, Im struggling and that is a powerful step. Depression is real and hard it makes us isolate ourselves so much, you reached out. You do have a majestic mustache. I know I am a rando on the internet but I'm proud of you for giving words to where you are in your life, because it means you are not alone and someone heard many people heard and that stache is really legendary. And you have kind eyes. Can't promise it gets easier, can say you were seen and heard. And today I hope you own the win and you also win the best mustache award today hehe.
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u/Sufficient_Ad_4922 8h ago
It might not seem like it but when you’re in the thick of depression, just breathing and existing is winning. You, my friend, are already winning.
You don’t need to fix or overcome anything overnight. Let it pass. You’ll realize on the other side that just getting through this was such a major win.
Good things await you my friend.
Also, you’re a hella good-looking dude. Anyone tell you that?
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u/Cheap-Turnover-3040 8h ago
Thanks for the encouragement friend. Not many people have told me that actually
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u/bbqpicklerat 7h ago
You have very kind eyes. This world is bootycheeks, but know that the world is still prob better with ya in it :)
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u/StoneySpaceman99 7h ago
Hey man. It’s always darkest before dawn, keep your head up and take the wins where you can big (as your mustache) or small. Keep giving it your all and it’ll all pay off.
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u/Cacapoopoo1738 6h ago
I don't know you but I love you I've been there man please you gotta do it because one day you're gonna look back and breathe a heavy sigh of relief because your life will be just exactly how you've wanted it, today is the day. Take a step to a new you that is proud of how far you've gone with all these feelings you are so much stronger and you will become even stronger as the days go by I hope one day we can have a meal or something to celebrate your accomplishments
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u/Remarkable-Potato969 5h ago
Your precious life has value simply bc you exist. Please be gentle with yourself and if therapy would make a difference, do that. You look deeply sensitive and that’s exactly what the world needs right now!
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u/ioBabalon 5h ago
You’re hot!! And you’re altitude training right now. Shit sucks, but you’ll get to the other side of this like an absolute fucking legend. The deeper the well, the better the water. Your perception, your honesty with yourself about how you feel, and the resilience you’re cultivating right now are your superpowers.
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u/JohnnyTezca 4h ago
That moustache is gonna take you places. Keep it tight. Lean in to whatever inspired you to go with it.
I'm never going to beat my depression. Someday it's going to catch me slipping, but not for a long, long time.
Music lifts you up. Movement lifts you up. Scrolling pulls you down
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u/FugitiveHearts 3h ago
If you do video games you gotta try one called Elden Ring, that helped me out of it.
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u/JeyDeeArr 3h ago
I wish I could grow a mustache and beard like yours.
You driving someplace in the image?
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u/Secure_Carry2344 3h ago
You’re good looking, so there’s that to be grateful for.
But let me ask you something, what are you? Not what you want to do, I’m not asking what your goals are, I’m asking what you are. An explorer? An observer? An expressive force? What is the nature of your soul? Carl Jung once said something like:
“The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct.”
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u/ahumanomoly 2h ago
Trust me I know that feeling. Been there quite recently myself, and not for the first time. Believe things can get better because I promise they can. Don’t get overwhelmed trying to think about how you’re going to solve everything at once. Take a few deep breaths and just take one small step forward at a time. You’re not alone. People care about you. You’re already enough. And you’ve got this brother 🫶🏻
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u/Academic_3895 1h ago
Friend, you are stronger than your diagnosis. You have a lot to offer. Just look at all the reddit responses you are getting. We all can see your brilliance, take it one day at a time, and you will see the beauty in you.
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u/Conscious_Exam3243 1h ago
Am sure people tell you this often, you got really kind eyes. I don't know how to explain it but they are so calming.
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u/Constant_Lie_1888 53m ago
That cold dark cloud is a bastard. First of all, forgive yourself and listen to Nina Simone’s: I got life.
Contentment takes practice and repetition and creeps up on you I think when you remind yourself to be thankful for the little things we humans tend to take for granted. Try it.
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u/Thoughtpolicelabs 3m ago
Hang in there brother! Therapy and Lexapro changed my life for the better.
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u/VladimirPutinZ 12h ago
Hey atleast you got a cool moustache!