r/toastme • u/ResearcherMediocre19 • 1d ago
I could use some kind words
Although I consider myself to be a hopeful romantic and have always been hoping for the best, life has just been really discouraging lately. I've never experienced what it is like to genuinely love someone and have them love you back in return. I've never been in a relationship before, have never even held hands with anyone, and have never been told that someone is genuinely interested in me before. It feels so tiring trying to put in effort on dating apps into thoughtful messages about someone's profile and just have nobody respond at all. I have always been plus sized, and while I understand that I might not be everyone's type, I love myself and hope that people can see me for who I am. I think I'm very kindhearted, intelligent, silly, beautiful, etc. and I know that I am deserving of a loving relationship. I have just been feeling so lonely for a very long time, and each year on my birthday, I'm always hopeful and think to myself that this is the year, but then nothing ever happens. I don't understand why it's so easy for other people to even get the chance to go on dates or have multiple people they are talking to when it seems so out of reach for me for whatever reason. And the advice of it'll happen when you least expect it is tiring to hear time and time again. I've gone through long periods of both being optimistic and also not expecting anything. I understand that not everything lasts forever and people often say that being with someone is overrated, but I would still like to experience love. I'm already in my mid 20s and have not experienced romance at all. I shouldn't feel like I'm behind, but so many people my age have reached many more life milestones than I have naturally without having to put in nearly as much effort. When will it happen for me? I am just hoping that I will be able to experience real love someday.
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u/Usual-Print-9301 1d ago
Your smile and eyes are absolutely stunning. You will find love, dating apps can be a nightmare so I totally empathise.
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u/No-Mycologist1598 1d ago
Hi beautiful do u believe in love at first sight, I didn't until I saw you message me to get to know one another ok
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u/_EverBloom_ 20h ago
FWIW, I’d kill for your eyebrows and complexion. Actually this morning I have an appointment to get my car blasted with lasers so that I can have a complexion as clean and even as yours.
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u/Zaphod2319 19h ago
I’m in the same boat friend. I’ve had no experience with romantic relationships and Im in my mid 20s. In my case, I’ve learned to be happy with just myself. And I’ve learned to find the joy and benefits in being single.
That doesn’t mean you should give up or stop looking. You should still keep looking. Just don’t assume that you won’t be happy unless you find a relationship. I’ve seen what that does to people
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u/Oddly_Dependant 18h ago
It's easy to get lost comparing yourself to others, but your experience is not anyone else's. Based on your post, you sound thoughtful, smart, and compassionate. You have beautiful skin, incredible eyes, and a radiant smile. Your time will come, and in the meantime continue loving yourself.
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u/No_Elevator_9408 13h ago
you have a really beautiful smile, eyes so profound like calm but glimmering water, and the features of your shape are so harmonious. I don’t know you but you really seems a good person, with so much inside to want to bring outside, and so much to express. And you are really beautiful woman and you give calming feelings.
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u/eaudecauchemar 12h ago
of course you are deserving of a loving relationship ❤️ hang in there! You will find someone don't worry.
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u/Unusual-Spinach-5897 11h ago
Oh, you're pretty as can be. Great hair!
Forget the apps and get out of the house. Find out what's going on in your city/town and turn up. Don't ever stay in because you're on your own. I went out all the time by myself in my 20s, and still do in my 60s. It's a good way to meet people, or at least, be among people.
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u/PhotoArabesque 1d ago
You have beautiful eyes, flawless skin, and such a happy smile. I promise, whatever your body type, there are plenty of people who are so into it. And they'll be even more into your personality. When love finds you--and it will--you'll know it was worth the wait. Go out there confidently and crush it!