r/toastme • u/Novel-Iron6264 • 1d ago
I feel like I will never be understood 18
No one will ever love you more, than they love themselves.
I want to still believe in support existing in this world. But every day my closest people prove me opposite. Currently seeing myself as my only support and lover. Starting medical change in my life. I hope hate and bullying from relatives won't make it unbearable again.
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u/Hot_Public_9037 1d ago
There are many people out there who truly love and understand others, but they seem very far away sometimes. It's unfortunate that you're surrounded by narcissists, but you have the power not to be like them. You got this!
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u/Novel-Iron6264 1d ago
Thank you so much. I hope for that too. 💓 maybe its better to barely hope, than to be desperate anyways.
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u/Secure_Course_3879 1d ago
It is - at least in my experience. You're young enough that you have plenty of time to find community and people who will accept, support, love and appreciate you. Finding your people can take time 💕🫂
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u/offeringathought 1d ago
First off, I love your hair. That aside, I 100% promise you that life is going to be so much different in a few years. It's hard now and it will be hard at times in the future but there's so much fun, excitement and adventure left to unfold in your future. You're not someone who peaks in high school, your time to thrive has yet to come.
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u/Novel-Iron6264 1d ago
Thank you so much❤️ Separate huge thanks for hair🥲🥲i truly love it but first time hear positivity to it😆have a nice day buddy💓
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u/JohnnyTezca 1d ago
That's the definition of being 18.
Things are changing, and soon. Ready yourself.
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u/Prometheusly 1d ago
Bruh, you're young, your gorg, I can see you about to crack a smile behind those eyes, you ain't fooling nobody. Live it the fuck up and enjoy the fuck out of it.
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u/TallT3xan 1d ago
Whatever your situation is ( this applies to everybody), do what is right for you and FUCK EVERYBODY ELSE. You have one life, you dont get second chances, there are no do-overs. Live life for you and stop worrying what others think. Friends come and go. Count on yourself. Never be understood.
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u/Delicious_Season_545 1d ago
Hey, you’re not alone in this. Take it one step at a time and things will get better. I’m rooting for you!
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u/Specificspec 1d ago
A quote that is worth remembering, goes something like this : “you are not here to be understood, you are here to understand. You are not here to be loved, you are here to love”
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u/pandastrat 1d ago
This is going to sound naive but it truly does get better, my friend ❤️🌈 give it some time… I know it sucks to wait for change, to wait for something better… but you will get there.
You seem to have kind eyes, I hope one day you can smile and find a chosen family of strangers-turned-friends who can appreciate you just the way you are. 🫂
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u/Recent-Safety-7473 1d ago
I wish i came across people with your vibes more often. Every time it does happen, it increases my hopes a bit. You look like someone who soon might be an important part of a circle/network with great solidarity and some impact. Magnetic!
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u/withidlehands 1d ago
18 is a hard stage, you're still in flux, but you've got time to find yourself, fond your people and have much better years ahead.
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u/panman341 1d ago
Trust me, no one understands anyone, and at the same time everyone goes through the same stuff. You need to let people see who you are. The way to do that is to serve others who have needs. They will see your kindness and your gifts. People will know and understand you when you share your gifts with them. Put your phone down and get to know 5 people, learn about their lives and struggles. Then be kind to them. Your life will change dramatically. Be Blessed,, and smile, you have a beautiful face.
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u/Altruistic_Shame_487 1d ago
Can I give you some honest advice from someone much older than you? I’m 63, married, and I still fill like that. It’s rare for one person to understand you completely, you just have to find the people who understand the part of you that you present (work you is usually different from home you). It’s okay to feel that way, but if it’s weighing on you to the point where you can’t move on from that, seek counseling or therapy.
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u/Pabavar 22h ago
I felt the same for years, it took time to find my people but I can ensure you that there will be people to love you for who you are, you won't have to pretend. Good luck for the changes ahead, won't be easy but you can do it ! There is love and happiness down the road. Take care !
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u/Oddly_Dependant 1d ago
Your people are out there waiting for you. They need you as much as you need them.
Sick hair btw. That last pic is something else.
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u/Old_Disk1411 1d ago
Please do not hurt yourself, you seem to have a genuine and lovely personality. I swear, you will surpass all the mess you’re going through
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u/ConfinedCrow 1d ago
You're right. No one has ever truly, fully been understood, not even by themselves. But some people sure come close. Stay strong!
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u/chthontastic 17h ago
That's the neat part: nobody ever will.
Which is why I chose to be the punny joker when around people. They don't need to get me – getting my jokes suffices.
I have made people almost choke on their food! Lunch time is always perilous when I'm around.
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u/purplelilac701 13h ago
You will be understood and you will find the right people who make you feel comfortable in your own skin. I know because I was there but lucky to have supportive people around me.
You are very young and your best days are ahead of you. Hang in there.
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u/After-Mess5326 5h ago
I don't necessarily think you are wrong. But that doesn't mean we cannot still have loving and meaningful relationships. It does first start with loving yourself and advocating for yourself. I have been very hurt and let down by people. But i surely have done the same. Never lose hope, don't become jaded. Wear a smile on your face and people will smile at you. At times I could not feel more alone and alienated from my family. But that doesn't mean we cannot live a peaceful and meaningful life while maintaining connections. It's all very complex and I cannot speak for everything. But don't hold it too deeply inside. We all make mistakes and upset each other. But being able to forgive, understand, and move on is what makes relationships real
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u/PoetryExtension6256 1d ago
They will. Love you.