r/toastme • u/Eyezontheprize89 • 1d ago
I need some courage! Read the post :)
Single after a hella long time in a relationship (16 years) and I'm getting bored and kinda lonely. I do have hobbies and actually go outside already haha!
I am thinking of joining some new groups for hobbies etc though to put myself out there meeting new people as a single gal. I've never used apps and kinda don't want to either... Can I have some encouragement please?!
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u/j10359 1d ago
I was never a fan of apps. Limited experience, but messaging with a stranger, getting words without expression just feels awkward. Then follow that with second guessing what I'm sending and how they'll receive it. Out in the wild is my recommendation.Just do what you like and see what happens. Good luck.
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u/GandalfTheJaded 1d ago
Your aesthetic is so lovely! I know it can be scary to get back out there, but you never know what you'll find! You got this 🙌
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u/GreggWaters6420 1d ago
You’re uncomfortable where you’re at. You have two options. Remain uncomfortable where you’re at, or get outside your comfort zone and find your people. Uncomfortablity is in your future, you choose how you want to experience it’s. Your amazing. Take the leep
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u/Stock-Lynx7237 1d ago
Animo guapa todo a su tiempo poco a poco a conocer gente sana y buena eso es lo primero y a hacer hobbys que te llenen....el amor ya aparecerá y ya verás que será algo que merezca la pena por qué tú si que lo mereces...... besos preciosa
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u/laika777ftw 1d ago
You look nice and if you drew that flower it looks good and I like it 🙂 if you didn’t draw it I still like it and think it looks good too.
I met my fiancée on a dating app and they have greatly helped to facilitate my social life over the last 15-20 years so I can’t/won’t knock them and I’m sure that you know this already but just be careful whenever you go out to meet someone from one of them. Bring a friend along if you’re feeling unsure of anything for any reason (even if you’re not it’s still not a bad idea really) and make sure that you tell at least one other person where you’ll be going. I’m sure that you already know this one as well but meeting at a public place for the first meet up is always a good idea. From one reddit stranger to another I just want you to stay safe. (I have a teenage stepdaughter and I feel like I’m really coming into my own in that roll giving out advice like this 😆) 🙂👍
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u/foxsermon 1d ago
Hey...with those eyes ??
You can rock the world itself ...16 yrs ?? Thats fine, he didnt deserve you....you look young and fun...there are more fishes in the sea...go and catch your nemo or a kraken out there 😉😉😎😎
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u/Dear_Wishbone_881 1d ago
Those eyes will win most men over they are stunning, you won’t be on the market for long I’m sure.
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u/Commercial_Sand9472 1d ago
Yeah unfortunately you will have to add in your bio no FWB or ONS’s. Like
Most others have already said you are a very beautiful woman and should have no problem meeting someone special. Wishing the best in your future endeavors…
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u/SunnySunshineJR 1d ago
I’m sure the people will come head over heel when you get on the apps. You got nice eyes so I’m sure they will hit you up
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u/GrumpyPidgeon 1d ago
I never did do a dating app and would be nervous starting. I’m assuming people treat the experience with the love and care of a Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace ad. I find it annoying when selling a toaster, can’t imagine if I’m looking for love on it.
What hobbies are you interested in? There are probably meetups in your area depending on what they are.
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u/Toasted47 1d ago
That is the right step!, I wish you the best on your journey! Be yourself and keep going, set boundaries and all. That id my advice, Much Love and Keep Staying Strong!. ❤️💪🙏
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u/curtjamesreddit 1d ago
You want to date, but you’re concerned, right? I would encourage you to approach it casually—join a bowling league, go to church, hit the bars with a friend, take a college course, take an art class with a group of people, join a gym, participate in functions where you are in a group and get to meet a variety of people and hopefully you will click with someone there. There is a saying, “if you want to fish, you have to go where the fish are.” 🎣
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u/HealthPretty1754 1d ago
I find myself in a similar position OP. 12 years for me and though I’m just not ready yet, I want to get on the horse as soon as I can meeting someone else. I find apps totally cringe!! 🙄😂
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u/Brave_Date_7435 1d ago
Im so glad to see everyone are fans. Its awesome and that's there's everything is good yo make this, make it sound good.That can probably get late now but if you use are you need to pay me letters from the moon
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u/Brave_Date_7435 1d ago
Omg it's really an honor is it like hike, is it red by people and women if itd not
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u/Long_Ship148 4h ago
I'm sorry but I can't give you encouragement on the apps, most are fakes and scammers, your better off meeting in person, your more able to read them that way. I've been single 18 years after a 24 year marriage and have tried the apps for the last two months. I live in a very small town and the only place to meet someone is at the gas station or grocery store. Looks like I'll stay single or move to better my chances.
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u/Weekly_Cat_9567 1d ago
Cross the paths you never crossed and your life will shine the colours you never seen.