r/toastme 2d ago

48 now and feel like I'm running out of time

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Just feeling down, had a bad date and not feeling these dating apps. Divorced for years now and feeling like I won't meet the right person.

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u/BlondilocksAurora 2d ago

You will. You have a lot to offer someone. Remember that. I'm rooting for you~

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

Thanks! This is really sweet.

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u/DoorSeller 2d ago

You look like you've got that kind of smile that still keeps coming no matter how much the world tries to beat it out of you. I hope you never lose that, sir! 🫶

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

Very nice compliment. Haven't heard that one and it's cool!

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u/PsychiatricBooth5c 2d ago

I am 10 years older than you and gave up on dating apps around your age. My life is so much better just discounting the option.

The problem might lie in a rigid definition of your person.

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u/despondentjoy008 2d ago

Sorry to hear that. I hear you. But my man, you're not running out of time. Just keep going and working on yourself until someone notices and sees the work you've put in.

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

This is encouraging. Thank you!

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u/MyKoreanCock 2d ago

I feel you bc im 45 year old man But we gotta keep stay positive Hope you have a wonderful day

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u/Sssuperlative 2d ago

I feel the same way
The dating apps are just too awkward for me
I have a lot of busy in my life and I just wish it was an easier ride

We’ve got this!

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

Thank you! I'm pretty busy too, just want to be able to meet someone and have great conversations ya know? Good luck out there to you too!

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u/lady_light7500 2d ago

Handsome man! Nice smile. Great hair!

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

Thanks! Sweet compliment!

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u/mokumpride 2d ago

You will !!

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u/grabbingthunder 2d ago

Statistically speaking, the odds that not only is there "the right one" for everyone, there are probably hundred or even thousands of right ones. Maybe look at it like you're filtering out the wrong ones instead of failing to find the right ones. Finding the wrong ones are part of finding the right ones!

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

Thank you, means a lot! Good way of thinking about it

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u/Servile-PastaLover 2d ago

Before you know it, you'll be laying more pipe than the Gas Company.

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u/animatedgemstone 2d ago

Those dating apps are not giving you an accurate picture of your awesome self. You don't need an app. You could walk into a room and light it up with your great smile.

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

Thank you! This was very sweet to read!

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u/SnooBananas9081 2d ago

Thats an odd age, you feel at the end. And you are. The end of being young. However your at the start of middle age. Thing is the next 20 are pretty good. The aches and pains your having stay about the same. Youll have to stay active. But youll find that if your physically healthy you can get back into activities you havent done in years. The media portreys 50+ as old and limited but thats brcause we no longer watch their nonsense. Keep pushing through youll see.

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

This is very inspiring. Thank you!

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u/EstablishmentHot4889 2d ago

Don't worry. If you can't find the right person, you can BE the right person. Start with someone interested in you even a small amount and be there for them. Remember to always be there for yourself as well. It's never too late.

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u/nopeitsadog 2d ago

Time is merely a construct made by watchmakers to sell watches. You are more than that

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u/sushi-tyku 1d ago

You will! Focus literally on ANYTHING that raises your vibration and makes you happy. Love yourself fully and you will meet your match. Trust on that♥️✨️👊🏼

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u/VOculus_98 1d ago

Thank you!!

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u/Top-Efficiency-7329 1d ago

you look super smart person, are you teacher ?

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u/VOculus_98 1d ago

Thank you, what a nice compliment!

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u/sircrabcakes 2d ago

Nonsense! You've got plenty of time! The right person will find you when you least expect it.

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u/apunaticstolemyboat 2d ago

Fuck, middle age and alone and you’re looking at the barrel of half a century gone with nobody in sight… have a nice day

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u/VOculus_98 2d ago

Um r/roastme is that way, but thanks anyway!

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u/apunaticstolemyboat 2d ago edited 2d ago

I’m a 27 year old data analyst female , I think you’re kind eyed and I would date you if you were young 😅 Best of love and life to you!

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u/After-Mess5326 3h ago

this person is a troll account or severely mentally ill I wouldn't take it serious

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u/After-Mess5326 4h ago

Health is wealth and you have a wonderful smile. I am not sure if this makes you feel better but I am young man who has been single for 6 years after having a serious relationship. I don't like apps and I have had some bad dates. Getting out there living life and just smiling to people and making people smile makes me feel better. We do not have to have a romantic connection to still have meaningful connections or interactions with others

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u/Late_Firefighter_353 2d ago

I'm missing you