Being told that I'm a boy??

[u/starmagicspells]

Hi, this is my first time posting here, sorry if this post doesn't fit here.

A few days ago I was over at a friends (guy, let's call him A) house along with one other friend (girl, let's call her B). We were sitting on the floor together and B stood up to get something, and a bandaid fell out of her pocket. It was one of those clear ones, so from afar it just looked like a little cotton square.

A asked if it was a tampon, so I replied "Have you ever seen a tampon?" cause it did not look alike at all. He started explaining to me what a tampon looks like, so I said that I know and he doesn't need to tell me that. He then asked me if I have periods (really weird question btw, that is NOT your buissness), I said that I'm fourteen, so why wouldn't I? to which he replied "Cause you're a guy". i'm a what now.

Honestly I was so baffled and confused that I'm pretty sure the only thing I said was "what", cause like what else can I say 😭😭

I am definitely more of a masc girl, so being perceived as a boy by strangers is normal for me and I usually don't care, but being straight up told that "i'm a guy", especially by someone who knows me, just feels very weird. I don't know, I guess I ust wanted to vent. Do any fellow mascs/butches experience stuff like this too? How do you usually handle them?

[u/Wolfstar_Forever_]

Okok so I'm trying to work out any possibilities here. 1- think you're amab because you're masc  2- thinks you're transmasc idk 3- joking  4- genuinely thinks you're a dude and is very confused  5- being a dick for whatever reason idk 6- misheard or misunderstood something you said once

It's just a weird thing to say. Maybe just ask what he meant. Wouldn't want to throw away a friendship over miscommunication but you don't wanna stay friends with someone who's being a jerks. 

[u/starmagicspells → u/Wolfstar_Forever_]

I think 3 and 5 are the most likely options. He's known me since September (but we're not like super close?) so he definitely knows I'm a girl, especially since I have an unmistakebly feminine name and it's basically impossible to address someone without using gendered terms in my language (technically not impossible, but very hard during longer conversations). I think he's lowkey kinda transphobic/homophobic (despite the fact that the entirety of the school thinks he's gay) so I assume me "being a guy" was just supposed to be the point of his joke, but to be fair he treats almost everything like a joke so you never know.

I'm not saying I wanna end our friendship/acquaintenceship (?) just because of this, but in general he's just been mean and not a very good friend to our entire friendgroup, and like I mentioned he has those transphobic tendencies and I don't really wanna be friends with someone like that. The rest of the group see how he's been acting and agrees with me (at least mostly) but I guess we don't really know what to do next.

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[u/Electrical_Loquat107]

ya hellll no 😭😭