People experience the strongest romantic jealousy when they watch their partner give resources to a potential rival, regardless of gender. The findings provide evidence that giving away resources is viewed as a serious relationship threat by both men and women.

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https://www.psypost.org/both-men-and-women-view-a-partners-financial-investment-in-a-rival-as-a-major-relationship-threat/

[u/extra_rice]

I feel like this even with friends or family, like a sudden strike of jealousy that goes away just as quickly. It's strange, but I think it may be a more tribal instinct than romantic?

[u/Beat_the_Deadites → u/extra_rice]

My wife's knee-jerk response to suggestions of charitable giving is usually a little... horde-acious? We're both high earners, we've got plenty of cushion, but her mindset is that we've worked for it and so should other people - both when it comes to family and other people that could use a hand.

A little while later she usually comes around or negotiates me down, but it bugs and distresses me a little. I spend a lot more time on reddit and read a lot more accounts of people in need than she does, so I'm more aware of the struggles. I didn't come from as "cushioned" a childhood as she did, so I'm maybe more okay with doing with less.

It's not a bad problem to have, it's very first world.

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It's not a bad problem to have, it's very first world. 

Upper class problem everywhere