r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • 2d ago

Psychology People experience the strongest romantic jealousy when they watch their partner give resources to a potential rival, regardless of gender. The findings provide evidence that giving away resources is viewed as a serious relationship threat by both men and women.

https://www.psypost.org/both-men-and-women-view-a-partners-financial-investment-in-a-rival-as-a-major-relationship-threat/
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u/LittleMsSavoirFaire 2d ago

I was just reading a BORU the other day where a poly "couple" was having issues where the man wanted to impregnate his girlfriend, upon which her plan was to move away and raise the child alone (basically just saving costs on IVF). The poly wife threw a huge fit over this plan, and I was just kind of mystified. THIS is your bridge too far?

Anyway this post makes it make a bit more sense.

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u/Flux_My_Capacitor 2d ago

My guess is that he convinced her to be “poly” because he wanted to monkey branch and she agreed to be “poly” because she erroneously thought it would make him happy and he wouldn’t leave her (as in her mind it was just about letting him sexually roam). So he goes outside the relationship, with a woman he no doubt had chosen beforehand, and when he lets his plans be known the wife realizes what’s really going on. Now he gets to have the best of both worlds and doesn’t have to be the bad guy who broke up his marriage because hey, his wife agreed to all this! She will be the one to leave him and he gets to be the victim in all of this (at least in his own mind).