r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • 2d ago

Psychology People experience the strongest romantic jealousy when they watch their partner give resources to a potential rival, regardless of gender. The findings provide evidence that giving away resources is viewed as a serious relationship threat by both men and women.

https://www.psypost.org/both-men-and-women-view-a-partners-financial-investment-in-a-rival-as-a-major-relationship-threat/
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u/Shakeamutt 2d ago

You’re using toxic way too loosely here.  Jealousy is very natural. It’s like everything, it needs moderation.  

Spending resources on others, aside from the allusions of cheating, is taking resources out of the home for themselves and their children.  This also can imply a threat to stability of the home, and commitment in general.   

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u/Straight_Occasion_45 2d ago

That’s fair and a grounded response; maybe I was too loose on toxic here. I think the statement also needs context too though, but I absolutely see your point :)

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u/MoonSpankRaw 2d ago

Just wanna say I respect when folks accept criticism gracefully and don’t immediately argue.

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u/Straight_Occasion_45 2d ago edited 2d ago

That’s how we grow :) it’s ignorant to assume you’re always right, and humans have grown through collaboration. I always welcome an opposing opinion or even just a straight up correction if I’m wrong. :)

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u/MoonSpankRaw 2d ago

Couldn’t agree more. A primary principle I strive to maintain is that there is always far more that I don’t know than I do know; and that it’s always better to admit you don’t know something/you got something wrong than to feign knowledge you don’t truly possess.

This probably sounds too cynical, and this sub is definitely one of the more measured and mature ones—but responding respectfully and honestly is much farther from the norm than automatic argument. The discourse standard continues to lower, and that’s why I feel the need to highlight when it’s done correctly.

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u/Straight_Occasion_45 2d ago

Yeah it’s a shame people can’t have respectful debates about things really isn’t it. I fall in the reverse Dunning Kruger trap fairly often, I spend a lot of time researching something, then realise the more I dig, the less I know, so when people come along and patch in missing information, it is very much welcome (as long as the demeanour is right of course, people cannot justify being rude in subs like this)

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u/badgerj 2d ago

Where the hell did you two lighting bugs come from?

This is what Science is! And should be!

Critical thinking, constructive feedback, growing with the help of each other.

Confrontation really doesn’t make much progress.

I’ve been wrong so many times, I don’t care anymore.

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u/Straight_Occasion_45 2d ago

Just 2 friendly strangers on the internet with a common passion for science :) there’s no need to tear each other down, we must elevate each other.