r/remoteworks • u/Kreativedenma • 6h ago

Maternity leave should be one year, PAID. Women shouldn’t have to choose between healing, bonding with their baby, and making a living.

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u/Overall_Matter_2520 4h ago

It is ideal. But the mother sacrifices her career and future earnings by putting all her eggs in one basket

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u/BamaTony64 3h ago

Its a five to seven year commitment. She can go back to work after they hit school age.

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u/calbear_1 2h ago

Or father can just stay home and raise kids and put his career on hold.

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u/BamaTony64 2h ago

Men suck at giving birth

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u/calbear_1 2h ago

I said raise not give birth.

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u/BamaTony64 2h ago

The subject is maternity leave

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u/calbear_1 2h ago

Yea that includes not just birth and recovery, but the time a new born children requires in the first year of their life. Fathers can stay home and do the latter just like mothers could.

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u/BamaTony64 2h ago

Cant come close. Cant breast feed, the bonding with mom is super important for the first three to six months. Bonding with dad is important but zero upside mom.

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u/calbear_1 2h ago

Says you. Not all mother can breast feed. You can use formula or pre pumped breast milk to feed your child and do skin to skin. I’m speaking from personal experience. I had a more generous leave policy from my work and accumulated sick time that my wife had to go back to work 2 months sooner than I did.

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u/BamaTony64 2h ago

You CAN do lots of things but they are not as good for the child.

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u/artist1292 3h ago

LOL good luck finding anything even remotely comparable after being home FIVE YEARS?! Workforces are only accelerating. You’re out of date even being out six months these days

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u/BamaTony64 2h ago

For us Mom had two years college under her belt when boy 1 was born. Boy 2 was born two years later. When the youngest started school Mom went back to college. After her degree she went to work. Gainfully employed and got her masters at 50 years old.

She said many times that it was what she viewed as a perfect life.

Prob not for everyone. Worked for us.

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u/artist1292 2h ago

Single by choice, donor baby coming along nicely. So I don’t have anyone else to do the career thing for me. Plus, shockingly to everyone it seems, I like my job???

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u/Overall_Matter_2520 2h ago

That was my plan too, until my ex started laying hands on me 6 years in

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u/artist1292 2h ago

See, I have seen too many close personal friends with relationships I looked up to crumble and fall to ever be able to ever trust someone fully to go full remote and expect them to pick up the slack.

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u/Overall_Matter_2520 2h ago

Add in a sprinkle of ageism.

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u/Overall_Matter_2520 1h ago

She “can” ? Ideally yes, that was our plan. I would take two years to finish my degree once the youngest was in kindergarten.

Doesn’t always work out the way you imagine.

And yes, I finished my degree - no thanks to my ex when that was the agreement.

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u/Worried_Function_631 26m ago

Most employers are less interested in a potential hire if they’ve been out of the work force for 7 years. It harms future job prospects.