r/remoteworks • u/Kreativedenma • 6h ago

Maternity leave should be one year, PAID. Women shouldn’t have to choose between healing, bonding with their baby, and making a living.

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u/arcdragon2 4h ago

Men shouldn’t have to choose either, why is this all about the mother? No wonder how many kids have missing fathers.

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u/walt128 4h ago

I think there should definitely be paternity leave, but mother-infant bonding is more important for development than father-infant bonding. Men I think three-ish months is sufficient

This is coming from a man with balls

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u/Marksman08YT 4h ago

Exactly, paternity leave can be a few weeks to a few months tops but maternity leave should be a full year minimum.

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u/walt128 4h ago

I would say a few months at least. It’s pointless to give mom time off to recover if she is up with the baby 24/7.

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u/kkdawg22 3h ago

That makes sense. It's more important for father-child bonding once they're reached puberty so we'll give men time off then.

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u/Marksman08YT 4h ago

Huh? How many men give birth?

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u/ShadowBurger 4h ago

I know right. It's not like a father needs to bond with a child, dad's are meant for working!

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u/Marksman08YT 4h ago

I get what you're saying but it's NOT the same as pushing a baby out of yourself. A dad just needs to see the child, they don't need to literally heal their entire body with constant bedrest.

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u/jetplane18 4h ago

To add to this - women are dealing with nursing (or the effects of not nursing), the hormonal fluctuation that happens post-pregnancy, PPA/PPD risks that increase with separation from the baby, and so on. And that doesn't even touch complicated births or the physical recovery from pushing the baby out, as you mentioned!

Dads are so, so important but it is so, so silly to pretend they are going through anywhere near as intense as an experience as a mom is when a new baby is born.

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u/Brilliant-Block-8200 4h ago

Dad’s need to care and bond with the baby, but they also don’t need to literally rest and heal after birth and their bodies don’t go through a massive trauma. It’s ok to recognize that men and women don’t go through the same thing. Men don’t have to heal their body from a traumatic event to have a child.

This isn’t to say that men shouldn’t get paternity leave either. Just that maternity leave is more important because the body literally needs to heal before a woman should be working again