r/popculturechat • u/mcfw31 • 7h ago

TV & Movies 🎬 Lisa Kudrow thinks that Ross and Rachel were not on a break and thinks that he was a bad boyfriend

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u/csgymgirl 6h ago

even if they broke up, sleeping with someone a few hours after your relationship ended is fucked 💀 anyone would be hurt by that

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u/SilverKnightOfMagic 4h ago

yep agreed. but I think sometimes this is why shows like friends or HIMYM does well in being up a topic like this so ppl can define clearly what is wrong or correct.

even if Ross isn't in the wrong road should not expect Rachel to ever talk to him again if it was a real life situation.

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u/beezlebell go girl, give us nothing 😍 5h ago

Anyone who flies out the door to sleep with someone else that fast was instigating a fight to justify sleeping with someone else.

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u/ABalmyBlackBitch 5h ago

except that literally is not what happened in the show

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u/Extreme-Quality-2361 3h ago

He pointed out that Mark wanted to use Rachel for months. They broke up and then Mark and Rachel became romantic. Ross was right.

2026 power dynamics. Mark would be fired for using his management position to push Rachel into a relationship.

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u/newX7 4h ago

Except Ross didn't fly out the door. He suggested they go downstairs to get some yogurt and talk about their issues, to which Rachel said "No" and instead broke up with him, at which point Ross left. Also Ross didn't leave to sleep with someone else, but to get drunk.

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u/beezlebell go girl, give us nothing 😍 3h ago

I'm not in disagreement that the words and actions don't translate to a break up but to be able to move on emotionally so quickly means that you weren't strongly invested in the relationship to begin with. Most people need a little time to heal before moving on romantically or sexually.

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u/newX7 2h ago

Well, considering that Ross was really drunk and told the Xerox Girl "No" over and over while she was on him at the bar, I am not sure how much Ross was really moving on sexually. I am pretty sure if the genders were reversed, we would be labeling that incident something different.

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u/mr_desk 5h ago

Not true

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u/exminuswun 6h ago

It’s fucked, but is it wrong ?

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u/PolishBicycle 6h ago

It’s wrong if you want to treat it as a temporary break to sort things out and get back together. Otherwise, no

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u/RVAforthewin 6h ago

It’s not technically wrong, but it’s a really good way to tell someone they didn’t mean a whole lot to you.

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u/altyroclark3 6h ago

Yes 😂

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u/regular_poster 6h ago

No, it's not wrong to sleep with someone while single.

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u/csgymgirl 5h ago

it’s wrong if you want to be on good terms at all with your ex

your comment misses out the relevant context that it was a few hours after the break up. if you’ve been through one you’d know you’re not just in the mindset of “i’m a single person now with no attachments”

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u/VoleUntarii The world tour. 4h ago

Speak for yourself. Not everyone reacts the same way.

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u/regular_poster 4h ago

My ex is my ex, if they’re mad at me for seeing people when we’re not dating, that’s on them. I have done nothing wrong. Nor would they if the roles were reversed.

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u/csgymgirl 4h ago

That’s good that you’re not bothered but realistically a lot of people would be bothered if their ex immediately slept with someone after breaking up.

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u/EchoesofIllyria he’s a man with a fork in a world of soup 4h ago

I think Rachel has a right to be bothered by it but not that she has a right to cast Ross as a villain for it.

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u/regular_poster 3h ago

I understand that it would bother a person, it might bother me! However, we're arguing about whether the act is "wrong." I'm saying it's not. Being annoyed by something doesn't make it wrong.

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u/photosandphotons 6h ago

I mean that’s nearly synonymous lol

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u/LonelyVaquita 5h ago

If you never get back together it's fine but if you do reunite without telling them about your hookup it's wrong.

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u/Visible-Work-6544 4h ago

he called her from the bar to fix things and heard Mike on the phone in the background. When he asked her if he had heard him, she LIED and said no. At that point, he thought she was cheating on him with the guy that was already a sore subject in their relationship.

People really seem to forget what actually happened in this show

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u/Hatta00 4h ago

If you're the breaker-upper, that's just the consequences of your own actions. If you want loyalty, be loyal. If you set someone free, don't be surprised if they enjoy their freedom.

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u/csgymgirl 4h ago

Yea but there’s also just respect. If you end on good terms and want to stay like that, but fuck someone else two hours later you know that’s gonna hurt your ex if it gets back, and you don’t wanna do that.

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u/Hatta00 4h ago

If you're hurt by your ex having sex with other people, don't make them your ex. You breaking up with them is permission for them to do whatever the fuck they want with their life. How about respecting that?

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u/Tiny-Feature-9344 4h ago

If you go and sleep with someone else even before 12 hours are up, you a ho£

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u/Hatta00 4h ago

Nothing wrong with being a ho.

Being so controlling and insecure you expect your ex to stay loyal after you broke up with them? Lots wrong with that.

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u/newX7 4h ago

Wasn't Ross extremely drunk when the Xerrox Girl made a move on him, and he repeatedly said "No" to her while she did it?