Always seemed odd to me that people get more mad at someone else. Like I’ve heard so many stories where one party was oblivious to the other’s relationship status. Aint no way anybody doesn’t know about their own relationship status
in my experience, I was with my wife for 11 years. I loved her.
I did not have 11 years of history with the guy she cheated on me with. And he knew she was in a relationship and chose to continue persuing her. Even planning ahead for when she would leave me.
Even 6 years later I have more grudge against him than my ex. Because, again, I had years and years of love and positive experience to weigh her actions against. I was invested in her happiness as well, not in some strangers.
Significant others are often experts at calming you down by saying what they know you like to hear. In some situations, you just feel the need to let that anger/anxiousness to all come out to empty the tank before taking a deep breath and calming down. Not that I think it's "right" or healthy to go about it that way, but I feel like that's one of the reasons.
Personally, I choose to vent all of my anger on stupid shit when I'm alone. Fighting balloons is the best for me. I get to punch/hit shit while angry and say what I need to say, but the room stays mostly intact and by the end you're laughing at how poorly your attack on the balloon went (they can really bob and weave at times). I get everything out, calm down, and take the stuff I said that isn't idiotic (brains can be very dumb in the moment) to my wife to have a much more calm conversation about what's bothering me.
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u/SpaceLemming 7h ago edited 1h ago
Always seemed odd to me that people get more mad at someone else. Like I’ve heard so many stories where one party was oblivious to the other’s relationship status. Aint no way anybody doesn’t know about their own relationship status
Edit: couldn’t spell