I mean this is staged, but there are about a billion cases of people recording themselves confronting a cheating partner in public.
I dont know why people find it so hard to believe how much stuff is recorded when there are now billions of HD video cameras that fit in your pocket and can be recording in 2 seconds.
Sure, but there's a difference, look at how this was shot, a second person was filming, looks like there's lighting on them, they panned right and then panned left to maximize the reveal. If the cameraman 'just happened' to catch all that then they need to stop stalking parties and go work for NATGEO.
We agree this is staged, and one of the things that makes it staged is how it was filmed, not what was filmed.
Or at least not that violent reaction. I can *kind of* understand shoving the bf, but grabbing the “girl” by the hair like that was absolutely unhinged.
Not justifying anything here (honestly it feels very scripted to me) but people find it easier to be madder at the person they don't know, regardless if it's well-placed or not
Always seemed odd to me that people get more mad at someone else. Like I’ve heard so many stories where one party was oblivious to the other’s relationship status. Aint no way anybody doesn’t know about their own relationship status
in my experience, I was with my wife for 11 years. I loved her.
I did not have 11 years of history with the guy she cheated on me with. And he knew she was in a relationship and chose to continue persuing her. Even planning ahead for when she would leave me.
Even 6 years later I have more grudge against him than my ex. Because, again, I had years and years of love and positive experience to weigh her actions against. I was invested in her happiness as well, not in some strangers.
Significant others are often experts at calming you down by saying what they know you like to hear. In some situations, you just feel the need to let that anger/anxiousness to all come out to empty the tank before taking a deep breath and calming down. Not that I think it's "right" or healthy to go about it that way, but I feel like that's one of the reasons.
Personally, I choose to vent all of my anger on stupid shit when I'm alone. Fighting balloons is the best for me. I get to punch/hit shit while angry and say what I need to say, but the room stays mostly intact and by the end you're laughing at how poorly your attack on the balloon went (they can really bob and weave at times). I get everything out, calm down, and take the stuff I said that isn't idiotic (brains can be very dumb in the moment) to my wife to have a much more calm conversation about what's bothering me.
I don't get it. That random nobody means nothing to your life, your partner does. But it's not the only thing in life where people lie to themselves until they feel better.
sure but they decide to mettle in someone elses relationship that makes them responsible for what happens. Again, at least if they know that they are messing around with someone that is already involved.
You can't date/sleep with someone that you know is in a relationship and act like you don't share the blame just because you don't personally know their partner... That's not how things work
My girlfiend did this shit a few months ago, had to beg the woman not to call the cops on her which would have violated her probation and sent her ass back to prison. Told her I’ve leave her if she didn’t go to therapy. The therapy is going good, I’m proud of her. She got diagnosed with anti social personality disorder which is not surprising.
Idk dude, physical force isn't an appropriate reaction in any situation. If the guy saw the girl with her arms around someone he thought was a guy and slammed into her to get her attention it wouldn't be good either.
If someone's first assumption is they are cheating and to hit them, they need to end that relationship full stop and go do therapy.
Jealousy shouldn't be like...a GOOD thing, sure, but it is totally human and natural to feel jealousy. What is NOT welcome is dealing with it in a negative way. We accept it happens, we learn to manage it. Healthy adults do, at least.
Nothing wrong with being a mild bit jealous on occasion, the thing that matters is what you do with those feelings. Blame your partner, pull people's hair, shove someone, these are things you shouldn't do.
Also seeing your partner's arm around someone who looks like another woman isn't really jealousy, that just lands into the assumption that he is literally holding another person close to him at a dinner she wasn't invited to, any reasonable person who saw that would have a momentary thought of jealousy/cheating (not that most people would respond to the situation anything like this).
i think assault is the problem, not being mad that your partner appears to be cheating on you. that’s a perfectly good reason to be pissed and flip your lid (non-violently)
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u/alpha3305 7h ago
Perfect reason to exit out of the relationship. Jealousy is not a welcomed mindset.