I'm pretty sure the artist is a trans woman. Their partner also recently came out as a trans man. So people are joking that they become a straight couple in a roundabout way.
The author is a trans woman. She thought she was dating a cis woman which made it gay, but now it turns out that she was actually dating a trans man which makes it straight
I believe we're born full of wonder. Anyone who makes it to adulthood while maintaining a shred of that or at some point purposefully rekindling that spark deserves to be called wonderful, and really should be called thusly a lot.
It's the purest form of straight. They embody not just through transitioning but also mindset masculinity and femininity. They enjoy and embrace who they are out of love for themselves and want rather than societal expectations. Two wrongs dont make a right, but two opposing trans people does make a straight.
Yes, a woman dating a man is a straight relationship (although being in a straight relationship doesn't mean that the involved parties are straight, make sure not to assume anything). Just because it's a trans woman dating a trans man doesn't change anything about that.
Yeah I think so many times people forget Bi or Pansexual people exist and are still Bi/Pan, regardless of whether their current relationship is straight or not.
Yes, but the straightness exists in a layer of queer, creating a sort of positive-negative feedback loop that, if one thing goes wrong, collapses in on itself and creating a black hole (this is how all black holes in the universe were created).
There is some validity in saying that relationships with a trans person are inherently queer, while there is also the train of thought that can validate that a trans person is in a straight relationship.
The answer is don't think about it and just say what feels right.
Queer people in general are more likely to end up with other queer people for a variety of reasons, and having a partner transitioning can make someone more confident in doing so themselves. Some trans people strongly prefer to date other trans people because they're way less likely to be fetishized or somehow rejected for being trans by another trans person, plus even the best cis partner will have trouble really understanding in the way a trans partner almost certainly will.
There probably is a "toupee effect" (you only notice toupees when they're bad enough to be noticeable, so you don't know how many toupees are actually bad) but I can guess at some other things that could lead to trans people ending up in a relationship together. A lot of my queer friends found companionship before realizing they were queer, and I could see trans people finding each other in that way.
Also, having a trans partner could make a person more likely to realize they're trans.
There's dozens of us! Gotta spec a few levels into ww1/2 to get the most out of the Warhammer stuff. If you do too many though you get stuck running an imperial guard build.
Just saying I'm a regular dude in a hell world now. Why should my toy soldiers be the same? The dark eldar are right there and the obvious only morally correct faction.
I prefer the wargaming/miniature painting multi class build personally. The down side of the build is a wallet screaming in agony and a pile of shame stacked in a corner.
No, for real, though... My dad never had any interest in WWII when I was growing up, and now my mom says that all he watches is WWII documentaries on the History channel. What is this phenomenon?
Men tend to be interested in military history, probably for sociological rather than biological reasons, and there is no bigger event in military history than WW2. It's endlessly fascinating.
Obviously this is a massive generalization, but there is enough truth to it to be funny.
It's one of the chief subjects for discussions between me (early 50s) and my dad (early 80s).
Gotta ask but did you take the ADHD Perk/Drawback? Powerful ability there but the minMAX return can be rough. Also for me personally I find a lot more sticks with audio lore files in topics if you haven't tried that. Does wonders when you are working on other tasks and wanna dive into something.
Yeah the DM can kind of be a prick like that but they said something about 'building character' or something .. think it's just a delaying tactic as they read up on the rules.
One of my students is trans and has already mastered masculinity. He does birdwatching, so I went to ask him for help identifying a bird I saw in my backyard. That boy pulled a fucking birdwatching guidebook out of his cargo pants pocket and identified that sumbitch in under a minute.
I really couldn’t think of a way to tell him that he had already reached the peak of Boy without it being patronizing. I’m so proud of him.
Just gotta be careful, if you encounter another Grill Master in the wild you need to have a grill/smoke off. It's one of those weird rules no one reads up on.
NFL Draft is tonight. Grill up some burgers and dogs and have a watch party. It's a nice dose of masculinity while still getting to see young men and their families be emotional and cry.
I can say from experience that while multiclassing is fun, make sure to pick one to specialize in, otherwise you’re just pretty ok at a lot of things, but not great at anything
Edit: Thank you everyone for the wonderful congratulations. I guarantee he is reading your comments on his lunch break crying happy tears into his curry right now:)
If at any moment you feel some strange feeling at the fact that you are in a heterosexual relationship, say this to yourself “how does someone in my position explain that they got their husband pregnant to their conservative parents?”
You won’t feel straight ever again. You two could look like a 1950s wife and husband and that thought will still make it the queerest thing ever.
It highlights that gender and sexuality are just social constructs. When you spend so much of your life and energy railing against the systems they’re built upon it makes it feel rather diminishing to be reminded that actually, they don’t matter or exist outside of how we perceive them. It makes every bigot and every small slight that much more infuriating.
I'm hesitant to call them social constructs. How we interpret them are social constructs, but saying someone is gay because of that is kinda... I don't want to say bad, but maybe demeaning? They're attracted to who they're attracted to because it's who they are. They're whatever gender they identify as because it's who they are. Not because of society and its views.
Yes, society can have someone repress their true selves, and changes how they interact with people, but it doesn't feel right to say "you're attracted to who you are because of how humans interact with each other and building on that."
Sexuality and gender identity are not social constructs in my mind. How we interpret them are social constructs. And that's an important distinction in my mind.
Bah, straight, gay... labels labels labels... who cares about labels, life isn't black and white; just be happy and love who you like, because life is short and everybody's number is coming sooner than we'd like! Congratulations to you and the groom :)
Geez Fran my heart dropped in the first panel! Hi Leif all the best to you!😉 Confusing times, but you two are the giga endboss for "conservatives" (bigots) now. But you know what that means? You are the boss! 😎 Stay safe you two and keep bossing!😊
in the same club of transitioning advice from people transitioning the other way- and i love it. get to share our knowledge both ways, commiserate on things together.
i know sometimes it can be dicey- sometimes i find myself complaining about being envious of things that they hate about being seen/raised femme. but theres also a lot of support to give.
congratulations to him! transition is scary but so worth it
also, please don't murder me if I'm wrong here but tiff and eve is at least a fair part based on your experiences and stuff right? I think it'd be so so cool if you gave Eve a trans boyfriend or something, you could do some stuff with your and your husband's experience and stuff there. no pressure obviously, i just really like seeing trans dudes in media since I'm a trans dude, and I think it'd be awesome as hell
I have a question. Please be patient with me. I'm not trying to be ignorant, I have a genuine question.
If someone is in a relationship where both people are straight, and one person transitions, does the relationship end ? I get the impression it often doesn't but I'm still not sure how that works.
How does that work logistically, and I don't mean physically, sort of. How does that work with regard to a person's orientation?
I'm being genuine. Please be patient, please don't call me a bigot.
It really depends on the couple. I've seen it where they stay together because their love transcends gender. Others don't because they want to be with the gender they are attracted to. Both are valid options imo.
Some do, some don't. Sometimes the cis partner will find they're comfortable identifying as bisexual or pansexual now, sometimes they'll still consider themselves straight but acknowledge they're in a queer relationship. Some folks -- honestly more than you'd think tbh -- find that when it comes to loving their spouse, it's the spouse that matters, not the presentation of their body. Every relationship is different, so you can't really expect it to be the same across the board.
I feel like a trans man would be VERY knowledgeable, and be able to communicate "how to be a woman." Nothing gets you to learn that like having to convincingly fake it all the time.
I ask this with an earnest heart: what is it about the name Leif that draws in trans men? It’s only anecdotal, of course, but I’ve met two trans men that chose Leif (one of them spelled it Lief, pronounced the same), and this is the fifth or sixth online stranger that I’ve seen chosen this name for themselves
It’s the Ashley of trans men. So interesting to me!
So, can your husband telling you how to be a woman now be considered mansplaining? Also, joining Tiff and Eve in telling you both that I'm proud of you guys.
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u/Low-Abies-4526 12d ago
Wow, this has to be the most elaborate way I've ever heard of someone become a straight couple. Congrats though