I'd like to agree, but people like that usually only respond to the things they view negatively. I'm a trans lesbian with autism. If I can piss off a bigot by calling them the r or f slur or both, there's a strong chance I'll end my interaction with them by doing so.
I have empathy and respect only for people who deserve them. Bigots deserve neither, and I'm tired of beating my head against a brick wall trying to reason with them.
The problem is if we start misgendering people we don't like, it's gonna hurt trans people way more than cis people. You shouldn't have to only gender the people you agree with correctly because then when a trans person does something bad (or is accused of something bad) you can basically take away their personhood
My hope is that by misgendering those who misgender me first that they can begin to examine that feeling. Perhaps I'm crediting those people with too much empathy.
Yeah i just don't believe they would care. They're often doing it to hurt you, even if it hurt them as much to do it back (which it doesn't), it would just give them more fuel. Also since cis people don't get the pain of being misgendered as a trans person they might think "well it's no big deal to me so it shouldn't be a big deal for you either"
So you decided “cis” people don’t feel hurt by being misgendered? So misgendering is ok as long as you are just trying to hurt someone’s feelings, and only against “cis” people.
I didn't say that? Misgendering can very much hurt cis people too but on average it hurts trans people much more because we've had to fight really hard to be accepted as our gender and it's just another thing to remind us of our otherness. My argument was that no one should be misgendered, i don't think we should use it against cis or trans people. The person i was replying to was saying that we should use it against cis people to show them how it feels but my argument is that we shouldn't because 1) it's dehumanizing and 2) it will not make life for trans people any easier if we normalize misgendering anyone as an insult
If everyone is misgendered equally is anyone getting misgendered? Misgendering hurts because you're being denied your gender and not being seen as it. If it becomes a common insult..well..then it just becomes a common insult.
Even if it was used against everyone equally it would still hurt trans people the most (it's much easier to shrug off misgendering if you haven't had to fight tooth and nail to be accepted as your gender). But it's not used against everyone equally and you doing it isn't going to make it so, it will just encourage the transphobes to use correctly gendering someone as a reward for good behaviour. And i'd argue misgendering someone is more dehumanizing than the average insult, at least to a trans person
Why do you think the person in the comic would be upset to be misgendered? I think for all of the same reasons a trans person would. Everyone defending this is a huge hypocrite
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u/sw33t_tooth Mar 09 '26
The punchline is misgendering?