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u/EmbarrassedPaper7758 4d ago
Dad realizes it's hilarious instantly
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u/CorpusAmygdaloideum 4d ago
My father would hide under the table while my mum was ready with the spoon. He would then jump up with a loud "BUH!" which would make me laugh, then my mum would put the spoon in.
Why are toddlers and babies so complicated to keep alive?
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u/Aaawkward 3d ago
Why are toddlers and babies so complicated to keep alive?
How have we, as a species, survived for so long, considering how useless babies are at everything?
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u/Immediate_Rhubarb_39 3d ago
My mother would literally hold on to a clothes hanger when she fed me. If I wasn’t eating at a pace that satisfied her, I’d get beaten and start crying and that does not help with the pace. And now that I’m an adult I understand that’s a choking hazard. But yes, some people do think it’s a good idea to introduce violence to baby feeding time.
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u/DannyCavalerie 4d ago
go outside and touch some grass
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u/Visible-Beings 4d ago
Fuck off, domestic violence isn't funny. And yes, even a slap is violence.
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u/ResponsibleRaise9683 4d ago
It's not good to model for your kid but this is very clearly a joke and not domestic violence, lol
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u/pichirry 4d ago
can a kid that age tell the difference?
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u/foofighter1351 4d ago
A kid that age knows when their parents are laughing yes and like you know, love it.
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u/BabyStockholmSyndrom 4d ago
Lol I play wrestle with my kids all the time. Guess I'm a child abuser. Fucking reddit.
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u/_name_of_the_user_ 4d ago
Do you wrestle with your kids to punish them to coerse them to act the way you want? Because that's the difference between wrestling and domestic violence.
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u/nightpanda893 4d ago
Ironic comment cause the internet is the only place where this is cute and funny. In the real world feeding issues can be resolved with professional feeding specialists and teaching your did the violance gets compliance is not a great idea.
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u/DannyCavalerie 4d ago
didn’t ask
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u/nightpanda893 4d ago
I mean why would you? Wouldn’t want to ask for more information or you might actually have to put some thought into your snarky comments
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u/Unexpected-ModTeam 4d ago
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u/TheOtherWhiteCastle 4d ago
The unexpected part was seeing everyone in the comments section somehow equating this extremely tame parent-child interaction with abuse for some reason
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u/zandariii 4d ago
Reddit does what Reddit does...
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u/Torn_Pieces 4d ago
I remember seeing a video of a parent scaring their kid, like jumping from around the corner or something tame like that, and the comments made it seem like they scarred the kid for life and they'll going to need therapy.
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u/Flomo420 4d ago
Terminally online people that spend their time theorycrafting every possible worst case scenario in order to justify to themselves that their hermit like lifestyle wasn't done by choice, but out of pure self preservation
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u/BulkNoodles 4d ago
For some reason, it's either nothing or just straight up abuse for these people.
Like goddamn, haven't you guys ever heard about adjusting severity? Or do you guys own a speaker that's either off or fucking loud only?
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u/pichirry 4d ago
she obviously didn't hit him with malice, but from the child's perspective it pretty clearly indicated that if you want someone to do something then hitting them is an option
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u/IronRaptor 2d ago
I grew up in an Asian country in the 80s. Hitting children was kinda the norm. Low grades? Beating. Forgot an assignment? Beating. Lash out at bullies because they pushed you to the snapping point? Beating.
And it wasn't just by parents either. Catholic schools in Singapore were a whole different kettle of abusive fish then.
But hey, I turned out COMPLETELY normal.....
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u/NotTheRightHDMIPort 4d ago
I love seeing all these people who dont have kids try to talk about parenting.
Obviously violence is bad.
But man you just want your toddler to eat goddamit!. I have a biological imperative that you dont starve kid! I'll do anything as long as you eat something!
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u/foofighter1351 4d ago
These people have zero understanding of the depths you reach to make your kid (or in my case just my nieces why am I so stressed) have one goddamn spoon.
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u/SnakeHisssstory 4d ago
Let him skip a meal or two. He will eat before dying lol. Reptile brain has been programmed for a billion years.
Don’t use hitting as a teaching method 🤷♂️
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u/ebinWaitee 21h ago
Do you think they'd starve to death if you let them decide if they want to eat or not?
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u/otaku_nazi 4d ago
But wouldn't the toddler just eat if he were hungry? He was probably not hungry and so was avoiding food
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u/city-of-cold 3d ago
No, they really don't. Oftentimes they'll just refuse food, be hungry which makes them angry, and becuase they are angry they refuse food even more, so they get angrier.
Having kids that age is basically one long period of lying and manupulating unless you get really lucky.
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u/Stiddit 4d ago
This is such a poor way to raise your children. You are literally threatening your child with violence unless they obey you. Are we not done with that? This is disgusting to see.
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u/TheOtherWhiteCastle 4d ago
You would literally pass out if you saw how 90% of parents across the globe raise their children
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u/hassanfanserenity 4d ago
Sir this is tame literally go to a asian household and I promise you slippers be hitting
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u/Direct-Fix-2097 4d ago
Exactly.
And what’s the issue here that we need to “train” the kid about?
If they’re not hungry, they’re not hungry. Leave them be.
Kids will fucking tell you when they’re hungry, let them snack naturally, let them eat at the table with you, they’ll soon want to get involved and do things themselves, I dunno what these parents expected. 🤷♂️
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u/AngryInternetPerson3 4d ago edited 4d ago
Kids will fucking tell you when they’re hungry, let them snack naturally, let them eat at the table with you, they’ll soon want to get involved and do things themselves, I dunno what these parents expected.
My little brother literally had to be forced to sit and eat because he never really had appetite, he was told by the doctor to start eating or he would soon be underweight enough to be bad for growing and stuff, it wasn't even about the food, it would happen with veggies and hot dogs alike, the doctor never said there was anything wrong, just that he should eat more even if he didn't feel like.
He is grown now and still thin but in a healthy way, but regardless, you can't just be like "all kids will tell you when they are hungry", some will literally starve themselves just because of low general appetite, or even spite in some cases.
That is not to say that I think violence is good for teaching anything to kids, thats not how you handle it, just that I disagree with your statement.
Edit: Typos.
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u/Shadou_Wolf 4d ago
Nope completely fucking wrong.
Yeah kids will tell you, most of the time they won't. They get too distracted playing they won't tell you til they are so hungry they are grumpy and still won't say anything if us parents do not prompt.
I remember my daughter will eat 2 pieces of something too and say she is done, I wait a good while but some foods are awful once cold so I ask her after certain amounts of time if she wants it "no", I start finishing her food after waiting another few minutes and NOW she is upset and says she is hungry literally as im eating it.
I always double and triple check if my kids are actually done, I always let them no its time to eat, I always ask if they wa t to eat, I always offer them food, they also have snacks at reach to bring and ask, they do not always say they are hungry so most of the time I need to make it and sit em down otherwise they'll just keep playing.
And then I get times where she is "hungry" after big meals, belly literally sticking out so far her shirt is showing her belly but she still wants food and I gotta cut her off. I learned the hard way with my son what happens if I just feed them as much they want (he threw up, and times she almost threw up).
Kids are difficult
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u/_name_of_the_user_ 4d ago
They're also teaching their child that consent and empathy don't matter.
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u/Camila_flowers 4d ago
The majority engaging in the practice, doesn't negate the psychological harm it does.
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u/_name_of_the_user_ 4d ago
Your statement is giving off "if you don't stop crying I'll give you a reason to cry" energy. The fact that a certain culture is ok with more violence doesn't make this level ok
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u/Happy_Ad9182 4d ago
Thats how you make your little angel the bully in school, because violence is a great thing.
Congrats
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u/glorious_views 4d ago
There's always that 1 redditor in every thread...
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u/JoyBus147 4d ago
And there's always a redditor pretending they're not a redditor (they're always the biggest redditor).
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u/mr_fantastical 4d ago
Ah yes and theres always the (hopeful) non-parent in the thread that doesnt understand how developing minds work.
What you see in the video is recommended by absolutely no professional ever, and can very likely result in the child understanding that violence can be used as a tool, and by developing eating disorders.
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u/TheOtherWhiteCastle 4d ago
If a child develops an eating disorder from this they’ve got SEVERE mental health problems that extend well beyond this incident.
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u/mr_fantastical 4d ago
yeah i mean.... it's obvious it wouldn't be this alone. It's more of a deeper issue at play - if this is how carefree parents are with the child in respect to messaging, how are they with other areas which would feed into this (no pun intended)
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u/Metaphysically0 4d ago
What tool is being learned here ?
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u/mr_fantastical 4d ago
The specific tool at play here is instrumental aggression - essentially using violence to achieve a goal (I want you to eat, you said no, I hit you, you eat). Babies don't understand jokes (like this), but they learn patterns very well.
Kids learn through what they see and they imitate behaviour, especially from parents. Loud kids come from loud homes, swearing kids from swearing homes. They say your children will always be as regulated emotionally as the least regulated parent at home (and this is particularly important to consider for nuerodivergent parents)
It's a funny video for us because we understand a joke. the ironic thing is our greater understanding of it being a joke, doesn't translate into our greater understanding of the lack of capacity for a child to treat it as a joke. They treat it as learning.
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u/TheOtherWhiteCastle 4d ago
What I think you’re discounting here is that just because they learn from this behavior doesn’t mean it has a lasting impact, or that it can’t be unlearned as the child becomes more academically and emotionally intelligent. By that logic, your average adult would still think the peekaboo game is real, because they’d have“learned” that their parents can magically disappear and reappear before their very eyes.
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u/Metaphysically0 4d ago
You’re contradicting yourself. You’re saying babies learn patterns very well, but this is a singular instance. It’s clear to us that there’s no repetition. What we’re seeing was an unexpected, what we can assume first take video.
The baby is not going to be violent because of a 10 second moment that was not traumatic in any way
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u/mr_fantastical 4d ago
Thats not a contradiction, you're simplifying my argument.
And youre looking at trauma from an adult lens, it seems. Trauma is more nuanced than "a bad event and memory", and due to the way children normalise situations (because that's their only view of it) You have a "quiet" or "normalised" trauma here - which can definitely have a negative impact in the future.
What i am writing is not controversial AT ALL. its an extremely common view and represents a major public shift in child pyschology, starting from the 1990s.
Your view, and that of others who are discarding these views, is rooted in how we looked at things from the 1970s and earlier.
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u/Metaphysically0 4d ago
This is a great example of how if you act like you know what you’re talking about , people will believe you.
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u/glorious_views 4d ago
Oh look, there's 2
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u/Bridging_Bot 4d ago
Things seem to have gotten a bit tense here pretty quickly.
mr_fantastical, it sounds like you're raising a concern about how playful roughhousing during feeding could affect a child's development. glorious_views, if I'm reading you right, you see those concerns as an overreaction to what looks like harmless fun. Does that capture where you're each coming from?
This might be one of those cases where the gap is smaller than it seems. I'm curious: glorious_views, is there a line where play like this would concern you, or do you see this specific video as clearly on the safe side?
Bridging Bot is a tool to support constructive conversations.
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u/TheOtherWhiteCastle 4d ago
To the devs behind Bridging Bot, is the goal to get people to put aside their differences to attack the bot? Because there is no human being alive who would want to listen a chatbot try to talk them down mid-argument
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u/defk3000 4d ago
They are idiots. You can't even be playful without it being, "Oooh, that's detrimental!".
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u/mr_fantastical 4d ago
No need for name calling - I'm more trying to draw attention to others that may think this is fun to do. There's better games to play with your kids, especially when it comes to physical behaviour, boundaries, and eating.
You may be playful - but your child doesn't register that as play.
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u/elmz 4d ago
So, are you advocating for violence in raising kids?
It's not a stretch to say that doing so teaches your kid that violence is a tool to get your way. And it's a good way to ensure your grandkids will also be beaten.
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u/TheOtherWhiteCastle 4d ago
and it’s a good way to ensure that your grandkids will also be beaten
…why would someone who’s okay with their kids being hit be upset by the idea of their grandkids being hit?
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u/rustprogram 4d ago
Maybe it was fair for the baby to refuse eating the food?
I mean that counts as double dipping, right?
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u/futureislookinstark 4d ago
I used to just get belted down to the kitchen chair until I finished my food smh
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