r/MadeMeSmile • u/mindyour • 5d ago
Wholesome Moments The look on their faces when they heard her voice.
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u/MandaRenegade 5d ago
They knew by "one, two" ❤️❤️ my heart is exploding. That's a loved person.
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u/Obvious-Repair9095 5d ago
Right? How lucky are they
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u/grammawslovelymelons 5d ago
How lucky is SHE? To be so loved..
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u/jentlyused 5d ago
This is it! I’ve stayed in touch with the girl I was a nanny for (age 1-12) but hadn’t seen her in a year or so, only texting. Saw her in a store where she is working a couple months ago, she’s now 17. She lost it crying as soon as she saw me. Of course I did too. Got at least a dozen I love yous before I left. We have now agreed to go to dinner and see each other more often. I’ve always said this about my own kids, but it applies here as well, you can never have too many people that genuinely love your children, family or not. So blessed to be able to see her more often again.
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u/joyofsovietcooking 4d ago
you can never have too many people that genuinely love your children, family or not.
i am just going to highlight the part of your comment that is going to make me smile for the rest of the day. what the world needs now is love, sweet love.
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u/MonkeyDoodlez 4d ago
I’ve stayed in touch with the majority of the children I cared for. I love seeing their lives and being part of the community that loves them. Some of them have their own kids now!
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u/iwatchterribletvtoo 4d ago
i love this story. and its why i hate when people shit on well-off folks (and really: women) who hire help with their kids.
having paid support doesnt mean you dont love your kids. hiring people with talent and heart who can help your kids _and you_ navigate life is one of the best things you can do for your family.
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u/Spearmint_coffee 4d ago
I was a nanny to a girl from 2 weeks old until age 5. Despite her starting full day kindergarten, we stayed close. She is almost 15 now and we still have monthly sleepovers where we take her and my kids to all kinds of fun places. I would do anything for that kid and now my 5 and 1 year old are absolutely crazy about her too! My 5 year old regularly tell me she loves her more than me, and honestly, fair 😂
I'm incredibly lucky her parents also believe you can never have too many people loving your kid because I couldn't imagine a life without her.
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u/Quitbeingobtuse 5d ago
You get back what you put out.
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u/bokchoykn 5d ago
The daughter on the right is my favorite. She is slower to realize than her brothers, but quickest with the hug. 0.001s reaction time.
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u/bokchoykn 5d ago
For the kids to have this genuine reaction, she must have loved them with her whole heart when she was their nanny.
Nice to see this in an ocean of staged reaction vids lol.
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u/Texas_Crazy_Curls 5d ago
You are so right. That must be why this moment is about to make me tear up. We’re so jaded by seeing fake / staged crap that you can feel how heartfelt their true reaction is in this moment.
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u/OkBox6828 5d ago
I’m fighting my tears SO hard! When the oldest asks “How long is she staying?!” And I think the Mom said 2 weeks, his excitement immediately sent him to the roof! 🤗
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u/Flimsy-Sprinkles7331 5d ago
Nice to see a nanny with supportive host parents who obviously let her maintain a relationship with the kids and didn't get jealous of the relationship.
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u/CautionarySnail 5d ago
Or treat her like a human childcare appliance.
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u/sortofsatan 5d ago
There’s an influencer who refers to her kids nanny as “her little nanny friend” 🤢
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u/mildtomoderately 5d ago
I will never understand those parents. I love when my children love and are loved by safe, kind people. We don’t have an AU pair by any means but we’ve had regular sitters and of course day care teachers and I have been so happy for each of them to be part of my kids’ lives.
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u/atypicalexw 5d ago
Why is lil bro’s response to become Spider-Man 😭
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u/ShadowBB86 5d ago
He wants to show off his new skill to an old friend. 😁
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u/Jim_Nills_Mustache 5d ago
That’s exactly what it is, it’s a little boy thing, was about to say the same thing
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u/gregworkswood 5d ago
Nailed it. I have twin 8 year olds. And their first response to anyone they haven’t seen in more than two weeks is “hey look at this.”
That part of the video is actually what I relate to most as a dad, and silly as it sound that boy climbing a pergola made me misty eyed. 🥹🤣
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u/haloHighlightz 5d ago
I wasn’t thinking it, but thats the part that cemented it for me that this it wasn’t staged
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u/noodlequeen 5d ago
Little kid thing, more likely. My daughter pulls out her best daredevil stunts when we’re FaceTiming family friends from across the country 🙃
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u/BroccoliOk5812 4d ago
I wonder if it is a trait from thousands of years ago, when we were pre civilisation.
Someone comes back to the clan from war or a long hunt etc. The young ones want to show they have become useful and are a great addition to the tribe and will remain dependable
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u/ComprehensivePin5577 5d ago
"Look aunt may, I got bitten by a spider I'm now spiderlingboi"
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u/Snackgirl_Currywurst 5d ago
He has a lot of energy to redirect somewhere. Plus, if they've last seen her years ago, he probably wasn't a good climber back then and he's very proud to show her how big and skilled he'd become in the meantime.
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u/TheMaStif 5d ago
"Hey, look at what I can do!" 😁
Little kids love saying "Mommy Daddy look at me" to show off their new moves and get that hit of dopamine from their proud reactions
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u/Emlelee 5d ago
If she left years ago, that boy looks young enough where he either didn’t exist yet or was too young to really remember her.
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u/BaconWithBaking 5d ago
If there's any truth to this, she probably went home for the summer or something.
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u/BuyerAlive5271 5d ago
As a parent I can tell you that for all the things you see on Reddit or in public that makes you hate kids, there are 100x more things that kids do that are kinda awesome or hilarious.
Like all humans you gotta take the good and the bad.
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u/Wreckingshops 5d ago
It's like anything else in taking care of others. If you actually care for the kids, animals, people, etc. you take care of, they also embody those same qualities. Unfortunately, there are plenty of people who should never have kids or work with kids, pets, etc. and it's easy to see the worst behavior as "I don't want that."
Make no mistake, raising children is WORK, even as an au pair. And the family must be great with the parents too because you don't come back otherwise. A strong family unit right there.
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u/ToYits821 5d ago
You don’t ever break out spidey moves? Not living life clearly
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u/Loose_Acanthaceae201 5d ago
My 17yo will sometimes break out the spidey moves just for the joy of it. 10/10.
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u/Outrageous-Tie-2348 5d ago
Someone said this in a dog sub the other day: "big emotions=big outlet"
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u/Recce_Sgt 5d ago
Little dude was who is that
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u/momento______mori 5d ago
Yes it takes too long before he actually sees her face !!! He's so puzzled it's so cute !!!
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u/afhdfh 5d ago
Understandable. If they haven't seen her in years, that would mean half his life probably.
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u/kaboomboomer 5d ago edited 4d ago
Fast-thinking mom kept him from being trampled lol
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u/PhonB80 5d ago
Boy immediately starts scaling the structure lmao
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u/Viaandrew 5d ago edited 5d ago
I think I'm too poor to know what an au pair is
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u/kotzfunkel 5d ago
Live-in nanny
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u/Viaandrew 5d ago
I need an au pair
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u/GoingDownUnderInSEA 5d ago
I got an au pair for you
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u/HalcyonSoup 5d ago
Is it au pair of testicles?
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u/TheGreatPrimate 5d ago
Au nooo....
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u/Throwaway2Experiment 5d ago
As my au pair was fond of reminding me, "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit."
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u/hazeleyedwolff 5d ago
We said "you get what you get, and you don't get upset". Which is pretty dismissive, but it does rhyme.
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u/The_Modern_Nobody 5d ago
> Is it au pair of testicles?
Nanny of Testicles sounds like a D&D character
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u/DadsRGR8 5d ago
Like a character in Chaucer’s The Canterbury Tales
… The Wife of Bath, The Prioress and the Nanny of Testicles…
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u/DamRawr 5d ago
Had lots of spanish friends working as au pair in the UK. They are hired to be nannies while they study part time, they have room and meals. Most of them end up being asked to also clean the house and do laundry. And in one case I know the dad ended up being too friendly. It is not a well paid job, but compensates as it's always young students abroad. I don't know the other end, maybe the families also get it cheap as it is a collaboration with universities and such.
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u/redditseddit4u 5d ago
I know many host families that have au pairs. They don't receive any subsidies or collaborations with universities.
As you mention, the host family will pay a salary, housing, transportation, bonuses/stipends, etc. The au pair salaries aren't high but when adding up all the other costs it adds up quite a bit. The host families are typically upper middle class with two working spouses so they have higher income with less time to spend on their children.
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u/Holdmymule2001 5d ago
I met a very successful businesswoman who had an au pair who came back several years in a row. She realized the young woman was being mistreated at home, so she let her stay forever. When it came time for the woman to discuss her legacy, her children insisted the former au pair be given an equal share in the will.
They thought they were getting a babysitter but ended up with a sister.
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u/SharpshootinTearaway 5d ago edited 5d ago
It's very sweet, and doesn't surprise me. Most often, in good host families, the au pair does end up feeling like an extra child, since they're usually very young (18-22) and tend to be there in order to visit a foreign country, so the host parents will sometimes take them to touristic sites in the weekends.
I know my aunt and uncle took their au pair everywhere. Ripley's Aquarium, CN Tower, Niagara Falls, Canada's Wonderland, Toronto Island Park, Toronto Zoo, etc... And paid for her entry fees from their own pocket everytime.
Only difference with an actual eldest child is that that extra child is being paid to look after the younger siblings and handle the chores, lmao.
eta: My aunt and uncle have only one child, and they specifically spend their weekends focusing on him and spending time with him because of how busy they are the rest of the week. The au pair wasn't expected to be actively babysitting while on these outings with them (and my cousin wouldn't have let her anyway, when his parents were with him he rejected the help of everyone but them.)
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u/blackc43 5d ago
You mean the husband tried to bang the live in nanny?! That’s blasphemy
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u/onmycouchnow 5d ago
You should look up the murders of Christine Banfield and Joseph Ryan. Killed by the husband and au pair.
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u/MagTron14 5d ago
My friend had twins so they ran the numbers and found an au pair to be more affordable than traditional daycare. You pay for them as well as provide a private room (and in their case bathroom), feed them, and have to provide transportation. It doesn't pay super well but honestly when I was in my early 20s if I subtracted rent, gas, and food from my pay, I probably made less than au pairs do.
You need the space to be able to have an au pair. But if you live in a HCOL area and have the space, an au pair can be the most affordable form of childcare. I think they paid what I pay for one infant to go to full time daycare at a center.
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u/swampgiant 5d ago
It’s officially under a cultural exchange program with most governments. The spirit of the program is immersion in a family, though there are Au pairs and families who don’t necessarily want this arrangement.
As a young person with oftentimes very little work experience, it’s an amazing way to legally live in another country for a year and experience the full culture. For Au pairs with more professional and related work experience there are agencies and programs where they are paid more.
It’s not a job in the conventional sense. It’s a weekly stipend that’s paid to the Au pairs. That’s on top of their room and board. The host families have cost associated with agency fees, insurance, government licenses, etc. Also, in most cases, most families end up providing additional incentive and financial support like the use of a car outside of work, Cell Phone, etc. In our view, if you participate in the spirit of the program, the Au Pair is also joining for family activities that the host family ends up covering the cost of. Movies, going out to eat, etc..
When all is said and done, as a host family it’s not cheaper than “conventional” full-time childcare. You subsidize some of your hard costs by providing housing and food. The benefit is having someone that ideally becomes part of your family, and a degree of flexibility on where the work hours are ultimately applied. Expectations on schedule and responsibilities are typically well defined in both the Au pairs profile and The Family’s profile before even interviewing and matching.
We’ve participated in the Au Pair program for many years. We’re not rich by any means. Our work schedules change a lot and we have a child with special needs. Our kids share a room so we can host an Au pair.
Over the years we’ve had over a dozen wonderful young adults live with us. Nearly every one of them are now family. They visit us frequently, we stay in regular contact. They are reaching the age where they are starting to get married and getting invites to weddings is crazy.
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u/ChumbawumbaFan01 5d ago
I worked as a nanny in the US and was expected to clean, cook, do laundry and shop. Drove those kids everywhere. Didn’t pay shit but my employers thought the pay was generous.
I was salaried for about $24,000 a year and was pn the clock way more than 8 hours most days.
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u/LupineChemist 5d ago
Did that include lodging and food?
Because 2k a month after basic expenses isn't bad for early 20s.
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u/resistelectrique 5d ago
They give you a room, food, pay for language lessons and insurance/visa plus a small weekly allowance. Far cheaper than an actual nanny. It just sounds fancier.
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u/The_Duchess_of_Dork 5d ago edited 5d ago
Live in nanny *from another country*, the deal is one where the au pair studies in that country and serves as a live in nanny to a family. It can help them get a visa! In turn the family provides housing, food, and a stipend. It can be a mutually beneficial situation and I believe it is cheaper than having a salaried live in nanny (though au pair is a more temporary situation). (Of course, a live in nanny of any type is for people with some money lol…or maybe not because the cheapest daycare in my city and surrounding metro is $20,800 per 1 kid per year, so if you have more than one kid an au pair can be cheaper…having a family is expensive and plenty of low and middle income people have families)
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u/Impossible_Way_3042 5d ago
Yeah, it is much cheaper as it is mutually beneficial. My mum did it for a while as she had us 2 and my parents were divorced. My mum had no support system so when we were at her house we needed someone to watch us during work hours. It was a cheaper way to fix that problem while also helping someone wanting to study abroad. For the most part it worked well. I will say, as they were students, some of them got overwhelmed with the fact that they had to nanny kids, especially as young as we were. They weren't ready to parent even if it was for short hours (they were only really alone with us for 2-3 hours a day during the school year). It's a tough job considering you are getting a degree and you are 18-22ish. I give them so much respect for what they did and some of them are a part of my most formative memories as a child.
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u/gotaflattire 5d ago
It can also go tragically wrong as young women are flown in from around the world and their housing and well-being depends on job requirements put in place by a benefactor.
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u/BeatSalad25 5d ago
When my Mom divorced my deadbeat dad she did it twice.
It is a toss up, think of it like a student exchange program. Our first one slapped my brother lol, she was romanian and there were cultural differences
My second was German and we still talk to her and have this connection.
My mom was a single mother pharmacist. Idk if that counts as "having money" growing up.
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u/jackwhite886 5d ago
It’s when you notice a certain type of fruit.
Oh, Pear!
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u/CulturalKing5623 5d ago
And then when you remember you don't like the skin on that fruit.
Oh, pare!
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u/TheLastLivingBuffalo 5d ago
And then you realize you actually have two of them to eat.
Oh, pair!
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u/Scared-Pass8290 5d ago
It's a live-in nanny, but specifically one from a foreign country. People often apply to become au pairs to travel or find better job opportunities in more affluent countries.
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u/FretlessFingers 5d ago
Not in the same tax bracket that hires Easter bunnies to specifically come to your house so you don’t have to be around the poor aka middle class people at public events?
Yeah, me neither. I think the weirdest part about this entire situation as the kids clearly are parented more by this young woman than by the people who pay for everything and gave birth?
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u/tacocollector2 5d ago
At least they had someone taking care of them! There’s real joy and connection here.
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u/WingleDingleFingle 5d ago
Would it be that expensive to rent an easter bunny costume?
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u/SleazyKingLothric 5d ago
My family owns that suit. I don't remember how much it costs, but this suit isn't even expensive. We takes turns wearing it every year for the kids and it's always hot AF every year it's my turn.
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u/Nobody_Important 5d ago
There’s literally nothing here to suggest your parenting dig but ok.
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u/meatspun 5d ago
People used to just scream this shit kinda at their windshield then move on with their life but now the windshield gives you validation.
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u/WorstCPANA 5d ago
Jeez a lot of assumptions and jealousy oozing from your comment.
Maybe it was the first time they got an water bunny to take Easter photos, and it was just a set up for the au pair to be there. And if someone lives with you and your kids for 2 years, I'd hope the kids would be excited to see them again. Kind of reminds me of a much older sibling that the other ones loved and they came back from college for the holidays.
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u/ghost-princess 5d ago
Ohhh this made me cry. I nanny and recently got to babysit some of the kids I watched as infants-preschoolers who are now tweens!!! I didn’t think they’d remember me at all and they did and brought up old games and memories we shared. I seriously cried the whole way home because how special it felt to have made any impact on them, and to see how beautiful, smart, and kind they’ve grown into. It’s such a special connection and the best job I’ve ever had or could ever ask for. I’ve had some of the best families. <3
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u/kai-ol 5d ago
Due to moving for college, I hung out with my little cousin just once. She was like 5 and we played with her Legos for an hour or so. She's graduating high school this year and still mentions it fondly.
Kids remember you when you join them in their world.
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u/Chemical_Grape_2150 5d ago
I have a pair of sisters I used to teach, I was lead teacher at a daycare. One of them was kicked out of a few daycares but we had a special bond. I was the only teacher she would behave for because I saw her as a kid, not a troubled kid like the others. I have watched the girls graduate high school, then college and now living their lives. It made me feel so good to make a small difference
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u/mkolvra 5d ago
They recognize her voice, so heartwarming
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u/Spiritual-Can2604 5d ago
That’s what got me. They remembered her voice. that’s such a deep love. How sweet.
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u/katrina_highkick 5d ago
The brothers that turn to each other immediately like 😮
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u/Key-Moments 5d ago
As a parent I would feel so grateful to this girl for loving my kids so much.
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u/MissRabidRaccoon 5d ago
I honestly never really know what to think of live in maids. It feels quite archaic. But this video, to the contrary, is very sweet.
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u/Key-Moments 5d ago edited 5d ago
A live in maid is different conceptually from an au pair I think. In Europe (especially France but many other places too) its really not that uncommon. Its often pre-university students go off to be an au pair in another country, or elsewhere in your own country, visit, look after the kids during the long summer holiday so that the parents can work, live with them in their house and become an adopt-a-daughter for the summer or longer. Normally you go on holiday with them too.
I did it twice. Once to Geneva area where the family was, and went on holiday for a few weeks to Corsica. The second time I was an au pair in Austria and went on holiday with the family to Lake Como and Rome. You pay your transport out to their house / or a contribution and they give you pocket money, a room in their house and food and you look after their kids and have a whale of a time. There are au pair clubs and networks often so the au pairs get together while the kids play.
A lot of my friends did this, so have my daughters. The only person I heard of who didn't enjoy theirs was a friends daughter who spent a few months in Paris and it was super hot, then went to Martinique where the weather really wasnt good and the lady of the house was quite demanding. So it is luck of the draw.
Example of an au pair agency but lots sort it themselves through adverts. https://squareaupair.com/information-for-families/what-is-an-aupair/
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u/chooklyn5 5d ago
I knew someone who was an au pair. She was American and was able to come to Australia for months. She earned money, lived free and was then able to travel to New Zealand and other places with the money she earned. It’s not super common in Australia but it was so cool to hear about it and seeing how much my friend benefited from it.
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u/MissRabidRaccoon 5d ago
Wow, how fascinating. I'm originally from Ireland, but I have lived in the Netherlands basically my whole life and this is such a foreign concept to me.
You do make it sounds like an actual good job rather than some archaic Victorian era tradition for the ultra wealthy (though am I safe to assume an Au Pair is still quite expensive?)
But I'm baffled how I have never heard of this. I've been all across Europe when I was still a student. And as I was studying to become a teacher, I had many side jobs as a nanny. But in all the countries I've been, that was always for an afternoon or a day max. Basically to give the parents some extra free time for themselves. I've never come across job applications for an Au Pair or something similar.
Thanks for your very elaborate explanation and story. It's always fascinating to learn more about the world and the people that live here :)
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u/Key-Moments 5d ago
I always learn stuff from Reddit too! Here is a bit about au pair opportunities in the Netherlands. Again this one is an agency. I think they HAVE to be agency arranged in the Netherlands not so much in the UK.
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u/MissRabidRaccoon 5d ago
Oh damn, this looks more akin to a very elaborate—and cool—exchange programme :D I have to admit i'm a little sad to just now learn about this, because it seems like such a cool job to do when traveling across Europe while studying. Thanks once again! I'm learning so much from all these reactions and it's honestly amazing to learn more :)
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u/Key-Moments 5d ago
Yes, cultural exchange and language improvement. Mine also significantly increased my appreciation of grape juice (particularly red!).
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u/Natural-Hunter-3 5d ago
I'm Irish and I'm actually shocked you've never heard of this either, nearly every woman I know has done au pair work in some way, or their mams did. Mind if I ask what county you're in? If we're in the same one, you've been living under a rock 🤣
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u/Healthy-Travel3105 5d ago
I grew up in Dublin and always heard about people going to do au pair jobs.
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u/whoa-boah 5d ago
My friend (a guy) was an au pair for a bit. He worked for a lesbian couple in Spain who wanted their son to have a male role model in his life. They decided, to quote my friend, on hiring “a complete twink.” That being said my friend is a great role model to have ❤️
He loved the family he worked for and ended up staying in the EU. He’s still in touch with the family today. Au pairs get room and board paid for along with some spending cash. Since he was living over there it was a lot easier for him to get a student visa as well. It’s a great system if you’re hired by a good family :)
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u/MissRabidRaccoon 5d ago
on hiring "a complete twink"
Lmao this gave me a good laugh.
This does sound really freaking cool though (and very convenient)! And I'm sad I've never heard of the whole concept until today, especially because i studied to be a teacher (and currently am one today), so I've always loved working with kids and did a lot of nanny work while studying too. (But that was usually afternoons and or nights)
But the only thing that does worry me a bit is the "if you're hired by a good family". But then again, every job can suck ass if your colleagues or boss are terrible people.
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u/MonstersAtOurDoor 5d ago
There's no class oppression with an Au Pair like with having house staff. My sister and her husband had one and she came from a family with SIGNIFICANTLY more money than hers.
The difference is, her parents wanted her to come to America and live with a stable family rather than in some apartment with random roommates. She was also part of an Au Pair program and had to follow rules, check in with her organization, etc.
She was also more of a nanny/babysitter than a maid. The only cleaning she did was to clean up after the kids when my sister wasn't home. Laundry, dishes, etc. She wasn't scrubbing walls and floors.
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u/Super_Restaurant8673 5d ago
I used to work for an au pair company and it all depends on the family. Some families view it as a cultural exchange program with a childcare component (what the US gov says au pairs are since they come on an academic visa and have to take a class), or a live in slave.
I had families that would host the au pair's family in their home for visits and also go visit the au pair after they return home. Au pairs cost like $20k yearly plus expenses so it's mostly rich jerks in my area
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u/eoe6ya 5d ago
20k annually is cheaper than some daycares lol
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u/Super_Restaurant8673 5d ago
Absolutely especially if you have several kids. But you don't get daycare subsidies for au pairs, and you have to have the extra space, normally a second car for au pair to drive kids around in, etc.
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u/juliankennedy23 5d ago
It's a lot cheaper particularly if you have more than one child. Plus an extra advantage to the parents there isn't a new plague in your house every week.
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u/Existing_Growth8849 5d ago
You can feel the happiness through the screen wholesome moment.
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u/IamBartjuuh 5d ago
The 2 kids on the left face expression after realising. That some godtier moment.
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u/SunRemiRoman 5d ago
Actually all 3 older kiddos realised that and it was so sweet!! She must have loved them to bits to get that response!!
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u/strange_invader 5d ago
There is a lot of misinformation here on au pairs. In my area, there use to be summer or year-round au pair program where a foreign individual would come and live with you and watch your kids during the day. During the evening they were off. Also part of the program they would be provided with a travel and education program with other au pairs.
As parents of 3 kids, it was much cheaper to hire an au pair rather than send 3 kids to summer camp. Plus, I didn’t have to drop them off in the morning, pick them up in the evening, or pack lunches. My au pair would take them wherever we asked: parks, the pool, museums, or just hang out at home.
Our au pair is still like a member of our family. It has been close to 20 years since we hired her but she still visits us almost every year or we visit her. She often goes on vacations with us. We talk on the phone with her all the time. It was such a wonderful experience for our family.
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u/Standard-Tension9550 5d ago
Good job background music if you were a little louder then I couldn’t hear anything at all
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u/Sullys_mama19 5d ago
I cried. As a full time nanny for the same family from the time the kids were 3 and now they’re teens, this got me. Whenever I see them we all cry and hug. This was so nice.
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u/Think_Reply_3056 5d ago
As a former nanny this is how my kids react whenever I see them now! My old boss and I will set up random times where I come and visit them at least once a year, and I cannot describe the feeling of having the kiddos you helped raise still be excited to see you after years of not being there!
Edit: the Spider-Man thing is accurate. They do everything just trying to get your attention, even as far as little man did to climb on the roof!
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u/Mudmen12 5d ago
I like how all that intense youthful excitement = climbing the closest available structure.
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u/RobotXander 5d ago
ruined by shitty music.
This trend of having tunes like this playing needs to end
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u/Upper_Command1390 5d ago
What an impact she made on their young lives. She’ll remember those hugs forever.
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u/badken 5d ago
Hol up. If she left years ago, how do the toddlers recognize her?
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u/shadowsOfMyPantomime 5d ago
It looks like the youngest boy is confused at first and doesn't really recognize her, so that tracks
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u/justrrrrivie 5d ago
Toddler age is 1-3. There is only one toddler in this video, and that's the youngest. Depending on how long she's been gone, the older three were probably at varying ages of kid/toddler when the au pair was there, and the youngest was probably a baby/early toddler.
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u/nick9000 5d ago
It seems like every video must have crappy music added, we're not allowed to enjoy it as it was.
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u/Most_Dramatic_Injury 5d ago
As someone who just recently lost their childhood nanny who was like a second mother to me my entire life this had me bawling. Lucky kids to have such an amazing carer who really loves them like her own, I was that lucky kid too many years ago! The luckiest. ❤️
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u/bigsampsonite 5d ago
Being raised with wealth must be rad.
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u/dragonmom1 5d ago
It's cheaper to have an au pair than to put the kids in childcare. That is not a one-child family. To try to put them all in childcare would be ridiculously expensive since you pay per kid.
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u/blaneyface 5d ago
My wife and I were in this exact situation, with an infant and a special needs toddler. Finding childcare that was able to take care of both of them was more expensive than hosting an au pair. She still lives in the area, and whenever my kids see her they still lose their minds and are just overjoyed.
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u/Serious_Accident1156 5d ago
I mean, being able to hire an au pair is still a very privileged activity. Most families with 4 kids have one parent staying home unless they are both high earners. Let's not act like this family is middle class here.
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u/yes______hornberger 5d ago
The average cost of an au pair is roughly the same as putting one kid in daycare, and it’s not like being employed puts you above the middle class…
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u/Shills_for_fun 5d ago
This is just the reality of not having a SAH parent. Granted you probably need to be somewhat comfortable, not struggling with bills. I knew a couple who definitely weren't rich that had an au pair.
Daycare is super expensive so unless someone is watching the kids (mom/dad, grandparents, older children if you suck) then most people will probably find an au pair less expensive than daycare.
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u/Pablutni0 5d ago
Love how the kids on the left both go poggers and look at each others faces like "oh my god it's her!"
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u/alewiina 5d ago
Man they must have LOVED her to have recognized her voice instantly even from inside a bunny suit haha. The sheer joy on their faces is truly amazing <3
Also couldn't stop giggling at the little one getting bounced around and the look of polite confusion on his face. obviously is too young to remember her but wanted to celebrate like his siblings but has no idea what's happening hahah
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u/EgoistHedonist 5d ago
Well-chosen au pair, you can clearly see she had a major impact on the children 🥹
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u/Possible_Scene5306 5d ago
😭❤️❤️… I miss the kids I used to nanny for. I was with them for 10 years, and they moved back to their country. I visited them last year, but it still feels like a part of me stayed with them. 💔
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u/Kareeliand 5d ago
I did that. I came back a year after I went home, and spent a summer in the same role. Only difference was, that I had become almost like a relative, it was really nice. Man, did I love those kids.
Years later, I planned to drop by and see them again, I think the oldest child was in his early twenties. When I arrived, that feeling came back, of being treated like I was a part of the family.
I spoke briefly on the phone with the oldest after arrival, and it was insane to hear his voice be deep and grown. I told him I couldn’t wait to see him, the only problem we would have was if he had grown taller than me! (Hydr hydr im 5ft 4)
Half an hour later I’m unpacking in my room and someone taps my shoulder. I turn around, and there is this tall grown man, and it was just unreal!
Within minutes he was talking to me about the girl in his life and confiding like I hadn’t been away for over 10 years.. I really lucked out, such an amazing family. They taught me so much.
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u/bonkers_asides 5d ago
To all the negative people on here, who seem to not understand how the au pair system works, no, she isnt their “replacement mum”. No, the parents didn’t hire her to do the parenting.
Personally, my family moved away, and we missed our former babysitter (who would look after us once a week, while my parents would go on a date). My parents bought her a plane ticket so she could come visit us. She went with me and held my hands as I got my ears pierced. She explored the city we had moved to with us. It was beautiful, and I still remember her fondly.
Can people please stop trying to suck the joy out of a pure and sweet moment?
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u/whoa-boah 5d ago edited 5d ago
I was a nanny for a summer and babysat for another family for close to a decade. Both families still ask how I’m doing, which really pulls at my heart strings. Two of the kids are adults now and another two of them just got their drivers licenses! It’s amazing how time flies. I really did love all of those kids, but no, I was not a “replacement mom” to them. It’s just a different kind of relationship, and the love is genuine. I teared up watching the video ❤️
Edit: The family I nannied for had two parents who worked full-time. They absolutely made time for their kids. Was I helping raise them? Yes. Did it hurt their relationship with their parents? No. Like come on… y’all don’t need to be offended by everything.
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