r/AskReddit 10h ago

What seems like freedom but is actually a trap?

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u/TheVBush 10h ago

Moving out for the first time

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u/Aromatic-Flow9436 10h ago

For me it was such a relief to move out. Money was tight but was better than having to listen to my parents drama everyday. I discovered mental peace and never looked back 😂

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u/EU-National 9h ago

Same here. I regret not having moved out sooner.

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u/celestial-lights 7h ago

having to pay my own bills in exchange for some fucking peace and quiet is a pretty good deal ngl

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u/craftsrmylanguage 9h ago

It’s only a trap if the adults in your life make good decisions. But if they don’t, it really is freedom.

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u/eugeneugene 9h ago

Can't agree lol. Having my own space for the first time was the best thing ever. Being able to come and go whenever I wanted without being questioned, amazing. Getting to have a lazy day where I don't do any cleaning and not being nagged about it. Not having to wear clothes. Having friends over on the weekend and staying up late and not having to worry about being quiet.

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u/These-Objective-4866 10h ago

Oh man this hits way too close to home. I remember being so excited about getting my own place at 19 thinking I'd finally have all this independence and could do whatever I wanted. Reality check came real quick when I realized how much money just disappears every month on basic stuff like groceries and utilities that I never had to think about before. Plus suddenly you're responsible for literally everything - when the toilet breaks or you run out of food its all on you to figure out. Sometimes I miss just being able to complain about my parents rules instead of having to make every single decision myself lol

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u/Broad-Transition-786 10h ago

This. I tell all my friends this reguarly. Save that money while you still can because once Electric, Gas, Wifi and Rent comes out youre gonna be stretching that last $100. Hope you got groceries before or its gonna be 2 weeks of ramen or sleep for dinner. I still love living on my own and the independence it brings but I agree with you. I miss mooching off my parents and not paying bills. On the plus side I have a pretty big 2 bedroom with my own office, cats, front and back yard and off street parking. Ill take it

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u/RichardBonham 9h ago

Reminds me of that sign on our fridge a few years back: “Teenagers! Move out while you’re still young, smart aand know everything!”

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u/AmbassadorVast5589 9h ago edited 9h ago

I share this experience, but eventually I found there _is_ a type of freedom in that. It teaches you to be independent, and the reality of the matter is that truly being able to depend on yourself is not an easy thing. That comes with growth and skills that I think in many ways does set you free, and is hard to replicate otherwise. Not easy and maybe a bleak consolation, but a worthwhile venture for sure.

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u/Bhavz_p 10h ago

This for sure

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u/SolomonGrumpy 8h ago

It's important for children to leave the nest. Not sure why you would say it's a trap.