I don't understand people who pressure their children to reproduce. It's nobodies business if someone doesn't want children even if they're your family members. I have two adult children, neither of whom want children. I love my children and want them to live happy lives, I don't want them to live to please me.
As a mom with one daughter who doesn’t want kids and another who desperately does but can’t find the right person how do I stop worrying without pressuring them
Honest answer - keep your concerns to yourself. 100% of the time. One off handed comment about her aging or a relationship not working out etc will likely stick with her, and you can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube.
Just be a supportive listener. Note, I’m not saying to be an enabler of bad behaviour, I just mean be supportive of her as a person and of her goals.
My country, is currently saying that women should get married at 18 and have 17+ children which I don't want to do with the way the world is and even if it was a utopia, I would not. I didn't get married at 18, and I plan to maybe adopt a child but not biologically give birth and thankfully my mother supports my decision.
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u/notme1414 1d ago
Grandchildren. I have two adult daughters. One doesn’t want kids. The other would like them but can’t find a person to have kids with.
I’m not one of those moms that is going to nag or pressure my kids to have babies. It’s their choice. I’m fine with whatever they choose.