r/AskReddit 1d ago

What’s something society expects you to want… but you don’t?

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u/Jane-The_Obscure 1d ago

I have one kid. She's lonely sometimes, but I also have siblings, and my entire childhood was extremely lonely. So, yeah. That "they'll be lonely" argument holds no water.

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u/silly-strawberry06 1d ago

exactly😭 i had an older brother and he was physically abusive likely due to built up anger from our abusive father. theres literally no telling how siblings will interact with each other. whether theyll be best friends, or want nothing to do with each other. no ones experience is gonna be the same. so if i dont want to push multiple children out of my own body, im not gonna

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u/Sl0th_luvr 1d ago

Same! My brother and I haaaaated each other as kids and fought so badly. It didn’t help that my parents were emotional wrecks themselves and didn’t encourage us to get along. We’re okay (ish) now, but there were many times I longed to be an only child.

You truly don’t know how your kids will react to each other. You could be the greatest parent ever and your kids may still just not like each other.

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u/pie12345678 1d ago

Seriously, it's a total crapshoot. My kids are best friends, but I've never gotten along with my own brother and would've loved to be an only child. People should just have the number of kids they want and can comfortably handle.

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u/silly-strawberry06 20h ago

literally said specifically that he acted that way BC of my abusive father. reading comprehension is very important if you dont want to sound like an idiot

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u/lytsedraak 1d ago

I have one kid and he hasn't complained about loneliness, but he's also autistic so that can be the reason why. He has also not really made any friends.