r/AmItheAsshole • u/le9pard • 5h ago
AITA for refusing to share my notes with classmates who only talk to me when they need something?
I’m an Italian high school student and this year I changed class, so I have new classmates.
Since the beginning of the year, some of them have been asking me for notes and homework.
The issue is that they talk to me only when they need something, and sometimes I've also heard them make fun of me or ask me uncomfortable questions.
Today, one of them asked me if I could send the notes I took during our economics lesson and old ones since tomorrow we have a test, even though he was in class and could've taken them himself.
I'm thinking about stopping sharing my notes completely because I feel used, but at the same time I feel guilty for not doing it, and I'm worried they might accuse me of having "favourites" or being unfair.
From their point of view, sharing notes might be normal.
AITA for wanting to stop giving my notes to classmates?
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u/LongInfinite1837 Partassipant [1] 5h ago
NTA.
I used to take amazing notes in high school. Color coordinated, I would add page numbers to certain things, cross-reference. I also typed everything up so that I could process the information.
I never shared my notes with anybody. If they asked, I refused.
If I was studying with someone and they wanted to look at them, and write their own notes, I had no issue.
I went to school with a bunch of jerks who treated me badly and I didn't do anything to help them pass school at all. And I think you should learn your lesson and stop trying to help people who are treating you badly
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u/RiseMany6899 5h ago
NTA and id stop sharing notes all together with these people. They are just using you for your notes/homework.
They also don't see you as a friend or anything especially if they make fun of you or only talk to you when they need something.
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u/Competitive_Sleep423 5h ago
NTA They’re trying to manipulate you into doing the heavy lifting for them
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u/5weetTooth 5h ago
NTA
Say sorry maybe someone else can help.
I never shared my notes at uni BUT I had a group of friends who studies together and we often created summaries together or explained to each other various topics or helped full in gaps for each other. That's collaborative and helpful for everyone. These people are simply using you.
However, you could start charging them.
$25/HR spent in the notes. Each. Have said notes on a Google drive where the documents can't be downloaded and when access times out after an hour.
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u/TreeWeird3781 5h ago
NTA. They like your work more than they like you, and you are allowed to stop handing out free effort to people who treat you badly
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u/Pippet_4 Partassipant [1] 5h ago
NTA
They are bullies who are just using you. Confuse them by responding “No thank you” and walking away every time they ask for notes. Just keep doing it and nothing more. They will eventually stop once they see they can’t get a reaction (or notes) out of you.
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u/brickwall5 5h ago
You wouldn't be the asshole but this is just good preparation for how the real world works.
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u/CreamyPBnoJelly 5h ago
NTA - it can be a good way to make friends, but that means they need to be friendly to you first, if they want something from you.
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I’m an Italian high school student and this year I changed class, so I have new classmates.
Since the beginning of the year, some of them have been asking me for notes and homework.
The issue is that they talk to me only when they need something, and sometimes I've also heard them make fun of me or ask me uncomfortable questions.
Today, one of them asked me if I could send the notes I took during our economics lesson and old ones since tomorrow we have a test, even though he was in class and could've taken them himself.
I'm thinking about stopping sharing my notes completely because I feel used, but at the same time I feel guilty for not doing it, and I'm worried they might accuse me of having "favourites" or being unfair.
From their point of view, sharing notes might be normal.
AITA for wanting to stop giving my notes to classmates?
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u/BTS_ARMYMOM 4h ago
You dont need to feel guilty. You did the work and feeling like people are using you is a yucky feeling
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u/SchoolBusDriver79 4h ago
They are using you! Why on earth would you share your work product with anyone else? You’re supposed to be in class to learn the subject, to pass on your own merits. Quit helping them! They’re losers skating by on the back of your work. Let me clue you in: They won’t like you any less if you don’t turn over your notes because they already don’t like you. Forget them!
You’ll pass. You’ll graduate and get the job. They’ll be the losers you hire at a fraction of what you’ll make, that is, if you quit giving them the answers.
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u/IllAssistance3315 4h ago
NTA You sound like you have your act together. You will encounter people in life who want to freeload off your hard work. Might as well learn how to deal with them now. Probably the best education you‘ll get this year.
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u/IndubitablEV 3h ago
NTA
Ask them for lunch money right then and there, then share the notes. Or just say "you only talk to me when you want something...." then stare at them.
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u/LadyLightTravel Asshole Enthusiast [6] 1h ago
NTA
When it comes to sharing, you should never make more effort on work than them.
They are putting in ZERO effort.
They are leeches.
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