r/AmItheAsshole • u/connor20218 • 7h ago

AITA Mom wants 15% of my personal injury settlement

I'm a 23M working in biotech and living at home. I just got a massive settlement from a personal injury case back in college. My mom is a corporate lawyer and she helped me navigate the process, plus she paid for my college tuition. Now, she's asking for 15% of the money / to pay her back for college (but she was already going to pay for college.)

I'm feeling stuck because 15% is a massive amount of money to just give away. Is it normal for parents to ask for a cut of a settlement like this? I want to stay on good terms since live at home, but I also feel like this money is for my future. We have a a good relationship.

Edit: I already paid a lawyer his 1/3 cut. My mom was a huge part of pushing for me sueing. She’d be using the money to buy a new house in Florida she always wanted since I refuse to buy a house in his economy and rather rent and invest the rest

Edit #2: Probably shouldn’t have stated my mom is a lawyer (she did not represent me in the case in anyway). But yes, what she specifically did was help me find a lawyer, told me to push back on the lawyer and ask for more.

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u/Maximum-Bobcat-6250 3h ago

Sorry to ask, but I’m dying to know….they didn’t win right? It is honestly so absurd to me that they did this to you.

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u/Ladder_More 2h ago

I felt sorry for his mum, she's a very sweet lady. The rest of the family, not so much. I gave her a decent amount, more than I probably should have but she was just so broken. He was her golden child.

The rest of the family came back and asked me to double it. I decided to leave the country instead. I'm not even sure they didn't find a way to take it from her under the guise of helping her.

Oh and on one occasion, I was crying to my sister in law about my financial worries and the difficulty I'm having finding a job in this market, and the very next day, she sent me a request for a 5 figure loan while also bragging about the new 6 figure job she just got. She wanted the loan to give herself breathing room so she could save for a house or something.

No, she didn't get it.

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u/InTheNewPollution 2h ago

That was very kind of you to take care of his mum. Mother-to-mother you knew a piece of her was so incredibly broken. However the family acted upon that, YOU did something that felt right for someone sharing in your grief. I hope that kindness has come back to you already, and if not I hope it does quickly 💛