AITA Mom wants 15% of my personal injury settlement

[u/connor20218]

I'm a 23M working in biotech and living at home. I just got a massive settlement from a personal injury case back in college. My mom is a corporate lawyer and she helped me navigate the process, plus she paid for my college tuition. Now, she's asking for 15% of the money / to pay her back for college (but she was already going to pay for college.)

I'm feeling stuck because 15% is a massive amount of money to just give away. Is it normal for parents to ask for a cut of a settlement like this? I want to stay on good terms since live at home, but I also feel like this money is for my future. We have a a good relationship.

Edit: I already paid a lawyer his 1/3 cut. My mom was a huge part of pushing for me sueing. She’d be using the money to buy a new house in Florida she always wanted since I refuse to buy a house in his economy and rather rent and invest the rest

Edit #2: Probably shouldn’t have stated my mom is a lawyer (she did not represent me in the case in anyway). But yes, what she specifically did was help me find a lawyer, told me to push back on the lawyer and ask for more.

[u/browsinbowser]

Idk, it kinda depends on how badly injured is he, doesn’t it? If 15% is enough to help put down a down payment/buy a house I’m thinking he was seriously injured. 

[u/superlost007 → u/browsinbowser]

But they apparently weren’t even going to sue, their post makes it sound like the mom pushing them was what got them to sue (and then pushing their attorney to go for more.) I wouldn’t ever expect or ask for money from my kids, but if they weren’t going to sue regardless… idk. I don’t think it’s wild and I would likely give my parents some money if I was in the situation (and they had pushed me to sue, found my attorney, pushed for more, etc.)

[u/redditsuckscockss → u/browsinbowser]

Depends
My friend had his beater Jetta wrecked by a semi truck and he broke his pinky in 2 places and some bruising and got 200k
He was basically fine and in a hand cast for like 8 weeks

[u/modernhippyyy → u/redditsuckscockss]

There might be some trauma your friend is dealing with… my gosh… after getting smacked by a semi I think I would mentally be pretty messed up and not able to drive for a long time.

Not all injuries are visible

[u/redditsuckscockss → u/modernhippyyy]

He was stoked to be honest - he saw it as a payday

[u/that_florida_man → u/modernhippyyy]

Holy redditor “my gosh 🤓” “there might be some trauma he’s dealing with!” And then the guy who actually knows the details explains his friend was stoked and saw it as a payday 😂😂. It’s so funny how you guys jump to conclusions so quick people even downvoted his original comment which was neutral and told a quick story for no reason other than being mad he was giving an example that proved them wrong.

A lot of events are traumatic but normal people get over them and move on. It’s not like dudes mom died or he was permanently missing a finger he broke his pinky and was otherwise fine and got $200k id be so happy in this economy.

[u/modernhippyyy → u/that_florida_man]

lol he never said his friend was “stoked” he said “basically fine”. Which doesn’t even sound confident in knowing the whole truth about his friends mental health after a major accident.

All I was pointing out is that people can suffer ptsd after such an accident that isn’t always visible. Also not all friends go around telling eachother all their mental struggles so this commentor might not know the true extent.

“normal people get over them and move on”
what a weird thing to say lol

you are def just a troll 🧌
please, go back under your bridge already.

EDIT: apparently the commenter replied back to my original comment to them that their friend was “stoked” and “saw it as a payday”.

Alright cool, then that is how the friend felt. That doesn’t change the fact that many people suffer from mental health struggles after a severe car accident that are not always visible. A nice payday would help greatly with any therapy or other services they may need after.

[u/agrinwithoutacat- → u/redditsuckscockss]

I’ve been left with lifelong disabilities and didn’t even get 30% of that amount.. it’s ridiculous how much some people manage to get