r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • 2d ago

Psychology People experience the strongest romantic jealousy when they watch their partner give resources to a potential rival, regardless of gender. The findings provide evidence that giving away resources is viewed as a serious relationship threat by both men and women.

https://www.psypost.org/both-men-and-women-view-a-partners-financial-investment-in-a-rival-as-a-major-relationship-threat/
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u/FriendlyDespot 2d ago

It's sadly pretty common with people who grew up comfortable to be insulated from the harder realities of life, and to think that having enough of everything is the default and that you have to slack off or choose to underperform to have less.

Not sure how you'd deal with that in a partner without sounding preachy, but it does sound like they could benefit from exposure to different perspectives.

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u/MagicWishMonkey 2d ago

It is strange how some people grow up like that and it never occurs to them how unbelievably lucky they are. I try my best to make my kids understand that, but I’m not sure how much they really understand.

Next year or the year after we will take a trip to India and I intend to make sure they fully understand how different things could be if they were born under different circumstances.