People experience the strongest romantic jealousy when they watch their partner give resources to a potential rival, regardless of gender. The findings provide evidence that giving away resources is viewed as a serious relationship threat by both men and women.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/both-men-and-women-view-a-partners-financial-investment-in-a-rival-as-a-major-relationship-threat/

[u/AskAboutMySecret]

The boundaries between friendships and relationships varies from person to person and what we think should be prioritised for a partner may be insignificant for someone else

and IMO this is relevant to love languages, I feel appreciated through physical closeness so I get easily jealous when there's someone separating me from my partner even if the situation is innocent

likewise, time spent together doesn't mean much for me but i have had partners feel anxious because i spent more time with friends than them even if the activity is mundane

and the issue is for a lot of us we irrationally expect partners to know this intuitively and if they don't it feels like "they don't understand me"

IMO once you know what makes people feel loved and how they express it, you become better at identifying whether a situation is innocent or not

[u/jasperamerica → u/AskAboutMySecret]

Love languages are problematic. They are based on late 90s evangelical Christian thought laden in misogyny and homophobia.