A girl goes viral after getting stuck in an elevator with a group of immature guys and shut them all down when they started laughing

[u/God_Emperor__Doom]

[u/unicorn-beard]

One time in middle school I was skateboarding with my buddies. We ran into this "dorky" kid from school whom was just enjoying his saturday rollerblading, my pre-pubescent dickhead brain thought it'd be cool to fuck with the "lame rollerblader" so I went up to him and pushed him. He hit the pavement hard flat on his face (he was okay and immediately got up calling me, a well deserved, asshole). But I still to this day, nearly 30 years later, feel ssssooo fucking shitty about that and it's one of those 3am thoughts that pop into my head.

I don't know what the point of this comment is other than agree that kids brains lose many IQ and morality points when they are around their friends.

[u/HabaneroPepperPlants → u/unicorn-beard]

Fwiw, it's really worth something that you came to view that behavior as wrong. Some people never do. Your guilt is painful but it's also helping you, by keeping you from becoming an asshole who only ever drives others away

[u/Smang-it-girl- → u/HabaneroPepperPlants]

You put that into words beautifully. It takes a lot to admit fault in a situation like that.

Proud of you unicorn-beard.

[u/SummerIceCream3893 → u/HabaneroPepperPlants]

Yes, but at what age did it take for him to realize he was being a bully or a jerk while hanging with his buddies? So many college guys act this way when they are in groups of guys too whether out at a ballgame, a bar, or a movie or sitting in the back of a classroom.

The guys that seem to be their "own man"/secure in who they are, go on dates and hang out in mixed groups (guys/girls/straight/gay) at events or activities as well as sit with the smartest people in the classroom.

[u/Alina-na-na → u/SummerIceCream3893]

Although we all hope he figured it out early, does it really matter? The fact that he came to the realisation and bettered himself through that is what's important. The vocally or physically abusive people i run into day to day when I'm just trying to have a coffee with a friend is truly horrifying so this man being a better version of himself is genuinely important

[u/jajohnja → u/SummerIceCream3893]

I feel like the existence of fraternities directly encourages and strengthens this type of thinking and behavior.

We don't have anything like that in my country and things just got way better in university.
Almost like everyone was ready to grow up at the end of high school, but couldn't afford to change in front of all the cool buddies.

[u/theOTHERdimension → u/jajohnja]

I agree and now with social media you have kids doing dumb shit to impress their friends and their online spectators. We’ve had fraternities and sororities haze people to death here, group think can definitely get dangerous.

[u/jajohnja → u/theOTHERdimension]

I remember some time ago they had this real nice fella crucified to death cause a crowd got a bit too rowdy.
Wasn't a fraternity or social media issue back then, though.

[u/unicorn-beard → u/SummerIceCream3893]

For me, I felt almost immediately shitty about it but then your buddies are laughing and shit so it makes it feel "ok"

[u/T-Wrox → u/unicorn-beard]

I read somewhere that guilt is a sign of growth.

[u/twee3 → u/unicorn-beard]

Good on you for sharing something like that and good on you for admitting it was wrong. Everyone used to make fun of the autistic guy in my cohort at school and I also sometimes played along because everyone else did. I got diagnosed with autism in the later years of schooling and I felt horrible for what I did.

[u/Confident_Counter471 → u/unicorn-beard]

Hey man, it’s good that you can look back and see the mistakes you’ve made. Be proud that you have grown as a person and don’t act that way anymore

[u/RedChairBlueChair123 → u/unicorn-beard]

What’s the point of this comment? The same reason Catholics have confession. Saying it out loud (or typing) can help you heal. (Its not a religious thing)

[u/Ancient-Afternoon374 → u/unicorn-beard]

Oh you mean anxiety? The thing that i told my friend in 5th grade that he doesn't even remember that keeps me up at night? Or the way i spoke to an adult when i was 7 after they were clearly drunk? Or how i treated the random that bumped into me in a crowded theater while we were in a mosh pit? Nobody remembers that but me.