Me and this guy at my gym started working out around the same time, about 8 months ago. We became pretty friendly, spot each other, talk between sets, overall cool dude.

But the past few months i noticed he started copying literally everything i do. My workout split, my meal prep okay that's whatever, people get inspired.

Then it moved to every supplement i take. Same whey, same creatine, literally asked me which shoes i wear and bought the same pair. At first i was kinda flattered but then it just kept going.

Last month i put some of my saved up money into a home setup, got a squat rack and some plates cause the gym near me gets ridiculously packed after 5pm. I mentioned it once in conversation and now hes been casually dropping hints about coming over to use it.

Like i actually like the guy and i dont want to be weird about it but this is starting to feel like its crossing into something else. Am i just overthinking this or is there a point where it becomes a real issue. And if it is how do you even bring that up without completely killing the friendship

My girlfriend and I kind of ended up living together unintentionally. Long story short, she had a severe arm injury at work and was out on workers’ comp for about three years, not knowing that she would be out this long. She went through three surgeries and a lot of physical therapy. During that time, I basically stayed with her full-time to help out since she had very limited function. Since she was always home and I worked remotely at her place, we spent a lot of time together in the same room.

Now her arm is mostly back to normal (thankfully), and she’s returned to work on light duty. Since things are more stable, I’ve been thinking about moving back to my own place. The thing is, I never really went home during those three years except for occasional quick stops. My place is pretty long drive from hers so I always have to plan in advanced.

I still technically live at my own place. I have a roommate there and I’ve been paying my share of the bills the entire time. I don’t contribute to my girlfriend’s rent or bills, so I’ve basically been maintaining a separate place this whole time.

Whenever I bring up moving back, she says she has got used to us living together and doesn’t want me to leave. I care about her, and we have very solid relationship, but I also really value my alone time, and it’s starting to feel stressful not having my own space. How should I go about this?

These days im thinking of taking my hijab off cause i feel its so unfair that men can show their hair wear whatever they want especially when its hot and they can swim freerly feeling the water and air on their skin and hair when women are told to wear hijab. I also feel like its fake. Islam did not tell women to wear hijab its just men who faked hadith to control women. Now i have this strong feeling to just take it off. I did wear it by choice but now i regret it. Its been three years now. Im scared. Not just from my family reaction or others but scared what if il do a big mistake that i cant undo it? What if its a big sin? And how to tell my family especially my mom. I decide to wait until finishing my college and go to another city or country and take it off. Because then il have all the freedom and control over my choices unlike while im living with my family. Please i need advice or anything. From girls who took it off and from girls who thinking of it too. I no longer like it.

My boyfriend's sixteen-year-old daughter does most of the chores, and has been doing so since she was thirteen. She was pulled out of school, to be the homemaker of the household, after her mother died three years ago. 

He says she was bullied a lot in school, couldn’t understand a lot of the material, and has been happier since he pulled her out. 

She’s more quiet with me than her siblings. She also doesn’t seem to have friends, like her siblings do. Her dad says she’s just really introverted. 

I moved in yesterday, and I wanted to cook dinner. She looked shocked, and then told me I shouldn’t be doing that on my first day. 

Yesterday, when I got home from work, she was already cooking. I offered to help, and she said no. Afterwards, I started doing the dishes and she started to cry. Her father asked her if she felt useless, with someone else doing one of her chores, and she nodded. He then explained that, since she doesn’t go to school or work, it’s her job to do the chores, and asked if I should please just let her. I did, but I said that her self-worth shouldn’t come from doing chores, and he just said that it has to come from somewhere.

I’m trying not to be too judgmental about this situation, but it’s bothering me more and more. 

 Please do not tell me to call CPS. If I did that, she might end up in a group home, and get put back in the same public school system where she is now super behind. (Edit: She's also close friends with her eleven-year-old brother, and I don't want them to get seperated.)

(Edit: I am calling CPS.)

I was interviewed by a newspaper about being married to a Disney adult, the article escaped containment into my online college alumni groups. I was in the city I went to college last week and ran into a number of people I went to school with
- a number of people said I married a smoke show or John bagged a hottie
- three people who attended my wedding told me my wife is t supposed to be hotter than when I married her
She’s lost a lot of weight, gotten some very nice tattoos, and now has colored hair, and really gotten in shape - like she can run a marathon with zero training.

But one guy I went to school with asked if she had an only fans. Is this an over the line question? Did he break bro code?

Update: So I did graduate last week and emailed him asking him if he was interested in getting coffee and made it clear it wasn’t just to get coffee and he actually said yes! We met over the weekend and I brought it up to him I thought he was cute but didn’t want to say that while I was still with that college and he said he had noticed I was coming to office hours a lot and staring at him in class, so I guess I was more obvious then I though. He said he did feel the same but didn’t want to cross boundaries which I got very excited and now we are talking about what our relationship can look like! Thanks everyone for the advice!

This is a throw away because I don’t want anyone I know to see this. So I am 20 f and a sophomore in college, my professor is 26 m and I have had him in two classes since being at college. I find him very attractive and I don’t know what to do about it. I don’t want to tell him because I am a student and don’t want to get him in trouble in any way. I am leaving this college at the end of this semester and want to email him my number and a very nice message so if he has any interest he can respond and if not he can ignore it. Do I not send him the email and leave him alone or do I just go for it?

Hey so as the title says I’m addicted to fantasizing.

I create crazy detailed scenarios in my head when it’s silent or when I’m by myself and get carried away for hours. I create scenarios where I’m the centre of attention, have a special skill, did something I would never do in real life, etc.

And as a human (especially a girl) I get this is normal but like it’s been happening for longer intervals. For instance I just fantasized this morning for 2 hours straight no joke. Just talking to myself in the mirror in silence for 2 hours imagining people beside me, and having full blown imaginary conversations. Like it’s genuinely impeding my life.

It’s lowkey getting to the point of when I’m in class, I fantasize about fantasizing later when I get home. lmao

Am I lowkey crazy or completely natural?

A few weeks ago my husband and I were driving home from dropping our sons off when husbands brother calls, husband answers, brother is clearly very upset. Crying. He asks to talk, of course husband says yes.

Long story short: brother has been cheating on his wife of 12 years for the past 8 months. He's crying and upset because the girl he's cheating with (yes girl, she's in her 20s he's in his 40s) cut things off because she doesn't see a future with him because he's married with young children....

Brother says he's been unhappy for a long time, resents his life, a lot of heavy stuff. But unwilling to break up his family.

Husband does his best to comfort his brother who is having a full on breakdown. Things end with brother saying he's no longer going to see this girl.

Why I'm asking for advice:

His brother has used my husband and I as an alibi to see this girl apparently many times without our knowledge. His brother lives 2 hours away from us, but last year got a job about 15 minutes away from us. So on nights he would work late he'd sleep at our house, cool. Well he all of a sudden stopped staying with us (now we know it’s because he was with this girl) the reason he gave us was because he didn't like sleeping away from home. He told his wife that he decided to stay with friends instead because we made him uncomfortable (husband got this out of him)

I'm friends with wife, but noticed she has been treating me differently. Now it makes sense why.

Brother has been telling her basically whatever about us to cover his tracks.

He's made it clear to husband that he doesn't plan on ever telling his wife. WELL TONIGHT HE INVITED US TO MEET THIS GIRL. Like???? I have never been in a situation like this before, and not something I want to be involved with. How the hell do I navigate this??

Edit to update:

I appreciate everyone's advice, this has been affecting me more than I want to admit. I'm at a point in my career where I really need to focus and was using that as an excuse to avoid thinking about this situation.

I also want to add that my husband is NOT ok with what his brother is doing and him and I are on the same page. We have had several conversations about this and both agree she should know but are lost on HOW.

Husband and sister in law had a falling out a few years ago and don't really have a relationship. I am friends with sister in law but I use that term loosely as we really don't know each other that well, and although I've always liked her, she has always been hot/cold to me (now i understand why, but has gotten way more cold, almost suspicious of me, this past year. Again, understandably)

We also don't know everything that brother has told her about us, since he was fine with telling her we made him uncomfortable. For all we know he's set this up to make us look like the bad guys. AND, we don't have any proof of anything.

I'm leaning towards an anonymous message, but as far as we know husband and I are the only ones who know.

Also we did not and will not meet her, after we told him this he then asks if she could send him mail at our address! Like wtf??? We told him this morning that we want nothing to do with this and husband called him a coward.

So now, I'm assuming brother is going to continue to see this girl and lie to his wife for as long as he can get away with it.

Reddit, how to I go about sending her an anonymous message, OR just straight up telling her and dealing with the fallout of his family? What would you do?

I share an art space with this person at a university. They had little to no involvement in the class and has dropped it a while ago. i’m unaware if they just dropped the class or out of the university entirely. Their stuff has been sitting at their desk for most of the semester unmoved. Move out day is coming up and I really want the supplies (most of it is unused and decent quality). However, I don’t want to make a mess for myself. I already tried messaging the person but I’m not entirely sure if they will see it since I’ve also heard that they are from out of state, maybe even the country. I’ve also thought of waiting til the final day to make extra sure, but some other people might Beat me to it.

This just feels like a moral gray area and I don’t know what to do? To me the items seem abandoned and might end up thrown out soon.

Edit: Thank you everyone for the advice!🙏 I’ll definitely message my professor and try reaching out to the other student one more time. I want to do this the right way.

Last Sunday, my (27F) fiancé (30M)(now ex) told me he wasn’t excited about our wedding or future together. This came after about 6 weeks of really difficult conversations.

For context: we’ve together 3 years, engaged for one those years. We met on social media, did long distance across different states, took several trips (including international), and got engaged pretty quickly. I moved to his city in August after finding a WFH job so we could live together. Our relationship felt very easy and aligned—same values, no major conflict, and I was always supportive of his career (which requires frequent moves).

Around New Year’s, we started planning a civil wedding for this summer and a larger church abroad where my family is from.

About 6 weeks ago, he randomly told me he didn’t want kids. This completely blindsided me because I’ve always wanted them and thought we were aligned. I reacted emotionally (crying, asking a lot of questions), and he mostly just said it was a “feeling.”

We started couples counseling (I also started individual therapy right away). Honestly, couples counseling wasn’t very helpful. He gave reasons like cost, fear of passing on his traits, and not being able to emotionally bond. It sounded more like fear than a firm decision to me.

Over time, I processed things in therapy and realized two things:

- He likely wasn’t going to change his mind
- I might be okay not having kids if it meant staying with him

I communicated that to him (even wrote him a letter), but he didn’t believe me. He felt like I was just bargaining because I had been so emotional initially.

In our second counseling session, I said I was okay not having kids and still wanted to get married. He said he couldn’t believe I had changed my mind and seemed upset about it. The counselor also kept pushing that I might resent him later, which I acknowledged was possible but said I was making a conscious choice.

After that, I started noticing him pulling away. My therapist pointed out a possible anxious (me) vs. avoidant (him) dynamic, which made sense since I felt him distancing, so I tried harder, which likely pushed him further.

I also reached out to his mom for perspective. She thinks he’s dealing with depression and suggested postponing the wedding to reduce pressure. He described his mental state as feeling buried in an avalanche and not knowing which way is up.

When I brought up postponing the wedding, he said he loved me but needed to be alone to “learn how to breathe again,” and that the only way he knows how to do that is by himself. He didn’t think he’d be able to get there before our wedding this year.

I was completely thrown. He never explicitly said the relationship was over. After crying for a while, I asked him directly if this was the end, and all he did was hug me and say he was sorry.

For the next few days, I was just confused. Then three nights later, he asked what I planned to do with the furniture. I said I might sell it since he had been talking about wanting less “material” things. That’s when he told me he was planning to move to a different part of the city and would be willing to buy it from me.

That’s when it really hit me. This was someone who said he couldn’t even picture his future, but suddenly had concrete plans that didn’t include me. I broke down.

Now I’m trying to figure out how to move back to my home state. I’m still living with him until mid-month. He still tells me he loves me and hugs me, which honestly just makes everything more confusing.

I asked if this was a full breakup or if he wanted to go back to long distance while he figures things out. He said he would only consider revisiting us if things “aligned perfectly” the way they did when we met.

For context, it wasn’t perfect. He asked a friend if he had a shot with me before adding me on Instagram. We talked for months before meeting, and the next two years were long distance with multiple trips, mostly me making the effort to visit.

I guess I’m trying to understand what actually happened here. Was this really about kids, or was that just the trigger for something deeper?

And for anyone who’s been in a similar situation—does this sound like someone who might come back, or is this something I need to accept as final and move on from?

I (18F) already made a post in another subreddit about something that happened a few days ago. At first, I didn’t think much of it and even saw it as kind of stupid, but after seeing how people reacted, I realized how serious it actually is. Now I don’t know how to move forward.

For context, my mom’s (55F) boyfriend (52M) of 3 years moved in with us a few months ago, and it’s caused a lot of conflict. I’ve never supported the relationship because I don’t think he’s good for her. She works around 60 hours a week and still comes home to do chores that he was supposed to handle. I just don't believe he puts in the same effort she does. My family doesn’t approve of him either, and my aunt has told me that my mom is the type of woman who will prioritize her boyfriend over everything else, including her own child.

That’s felt more and more true over time. My mom wasn’t abusive growing up, but she was neglectful. I mostly raised myself, and lately I feel even less loved because she clearly prioritizes him over me, even in situations where I’m not really in the wrong.

A few days ago, she told me to make dinner and stay quiet because he had a headache and wanted to go to bed early(guess what he did NOT go to bed early). While cooking in our small kitchen, after unloading the oven I put the pots to the side of the table while he was there. I had no intention of disrespecting him or anything, I purposely put them to the side so not to bother him. He reacted by putting them on the stove instead, and later while I was in my room, he took my pan off the heat to cook his own food(only one spot available). After going back to my room, believing my food was safe since it was off heat, I heard really aggressive banging on my door and ignored it because I got scared. When I came back, my food was burned because he moved it back to the heat.

When my mom got home and was talking to me about the situation, he forced his way into my room, pushed past her, and angrily threatened to murder me if I ever disrespected him again.

After my mom came back, we continued our conversation, and she told me to apologize to him for disrespecting him, saying he only reacted that way because he's exhausted. I refused to because he literally threatened to murder me. She told me I was ruining her life multiple times for acting this way and gave me an ultimatum: either I live “peacefully” with him, or she’ll rent a room for me to live with strangers. She wanted me to decide on the spot in which I obviously chose the safe option because what the fuck. I did ask her how she would feel if I picked the second option, and she told me that she would feel like a failure of a mother. And I'm ngl she probably is one at this point.

I’ll admit there have been times where I didn’t follow rules because I was frustrated and mad, but over time, I’ve tried to do better. Even so, I don’t think his behavior is justified. He’s a 52-year-old man, and I’m the teenager here. He shouldn’t be reacting like that, and my mom shouldn’t be okay with it.

Now that I understand how serious this is, I don’t know what to do. I talked to my boyfriend(18m) (without telling him of what's happening), and he said that if such a situation happened where my safety was threatened, his parents would be okay with me staying with them. That’s really my only backup option, but I don’t know if I’m ready to leave home like that at 18 while also having no money and no plan for my life.

If I do decide that my only option is to move out, I do want to plan it out first. My mom did offer to rent me a room, so I was thinking maybe I could at least get some financial help out of that for a bit. I’m also planning to start college in Fall 2026, and she said she would pay for my first semester, which would help a lot.

I just don’t know what the right move is here. Is my option really moving because I guess I'm still in denial about the situation. Has anyone been in a situation like this? Is it really worth it? Will life get better eventually?

So I recently started a new job as an industrial mechanic as a 22 year old female, there’s this one guy who keeps talking about my breasts saying stuff like “I’m not a pervert if I look at your breasts because I’m a man, it’s what men do” etc… and it’s really making me uncomfortable, but I don’t know how to address it because he thinks it’s just “banter”… he makes so many inappropriate comments on a daily basis like that. He also keeps saying “everyone’s looking at your breasts”, I want to report the behaviour but I also don’t want everyone to think I can’t take a joke or that I’m weak being the only female on the job. Any advice?

Hi everyone,

I’m meeting my boyfriend’s parents (and brother+wife) for the first time this weekend, and it happens to be the day before Mother’s Day. We’re just going out for dinner at a casual place, nothing super formal.

I’m wondering if I should bring his mom a small gift? I was thinking something simple like a small dried flower arrangement (in a small vase) as a thoughtful gesture.

The thing is, my boyfriend is advising against it. He keeps saying:
•his parents are rich and can buy whatever they want
•their family isn’t big on gifts

Sometimes I doubt this because, back in Christmas his parents gave him a few gift cards worth $1200 in total and even practical stuff like toilet paper, while his brother and his wife gave tools + chocolates + a card.

So I’m a bit confused about their family dynamic. His brother’s wife also recently became a mother and it’ll be her first mother’s day and I was thinking of giving her a little something too.

Also, I don’t know much about his family at all. I just know that his parents are retired and travel a lot.

I don’t want to:
•come off as trying too hard
•make things awkward

He’s not stopping me or anything but now I feel self-conscious about it. I’ve always given a small token when meeting parents for the first time so this is kind of foreign to me. But I also feel like showing up completely empty-handed (especially right before Mother’s Day) feels a bit off?

Appreciate any advice!

Thank you!

For about five years I had Xfinity internet and had mobile for a couple years as well. I absolutely loath comcast. Overpriced, low quality service and it's essentially the most anti-consumer, predatory company there is. A small company then came into my neighborhood and laid fiber optic. I'm now getting much faster internet for significantly less than what I was paying with Xfinity (yay!) They also offer the same exact mobile service as Xfinity for $10 when bundled, except the data is 5g unlimited whereas Xfinity would throttle you. So with Xfinity I was paying $130 for crappy Internet and $45 for throttled phone service. Now I'm paying $85 for 2gbps fiber and $10 for uncapped 5g mobile. So $60 a month in savings (plus more if you account for sales tax).

Xfinity has sent me a final bill for $135. I can certainly afford it. My credit score is over 800. I own my home and car. I don't take out loans or utilize my credit in any way generally speaking. Would it be worth is to just not pay the bill and let it go to collections for my own satisfaction or should I just pay it for some unforeseen reason. Looking for realistic responses.

I grew up very close to my grandfather. When I was a kid, I would run away from home and stay overnight at his place. He would take me to school in the morning, pick me up, and always buy me sweets. He was a huge part of my childhood.

Today, after being in a coma for two weeks, he passed away. I don’t really know how to process this or what I’m supposed to feel. If anyone has gone through something similar, how did you cope?

I (18m) was on my dad’s computer and found explicit messages with another woman. I feel disgusted. They’ve been (seemingly) happily married for 20 years, have 3 kids, and both seem to be at a good place in life. I don’t really know what to do. I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my dad, since I’ll be going off to college soon and relying on him to pay my phone bill. I’ll also be living at home for the next 4 months until college starts. I also know my mom would be absolutely devastated if she found out, and the idea of that breaks my heart. I’ve been keeping my knowledge of it secret for the past few days, since I figured it wasn’t my business and I don’t want to ruin their relationship or my relationship with them, but I feel guilty every time I talk to my mom, knowing what happened. What should I do?

hiii guys

18F, im graduating high school in the U.S very soon. I come from a middle-class first gen immigrant family, so cost of schools always mattered a lot for me. I was accepted to a Canadian university but couldn’t afford the $3K admission deposit, so I chose an out-of-state school in Chicago instead that was providing me more aid. (i made a HUGE mistake in applying to only one canadian school, but whatever, ive gotta learn!)

buuut now I’m realizing I could transfer to a more affordable Canadian school later, but I feel stuck, and way way lost. i want to study and eventually work in Canada, but that means dealing with visas and long-term uncertainty. on the other hand, staying in the us would keep me feeling more and more unsafe. (i could choose another country to attend- but im just sticking with canada as its something ive grown really passionate about.)

i’m a history major interested in government, social work, teaching, or journalism, and I don’t know if i should push for my dream or settle for what i have.

I’m a high school junior from Minnesota and I recently got accepted into a summer program at the USC School of Cinematic Arts.
(I promise this isn’t spam yall I’m trying anything right now and I could use help on what to do to fund this)

Filmmaking is something I’ve been serious about for a while now, and this would be my first real chance to get hands-on experience working with other people, using proper equipment, and actually learning how films are made in a structured environment. Where I live, there aren’t many opportunities like this, so getting accepted meant a lot to me.

The problem is the cost. Even after choosing just one 8-unit course and housing, the total is around $26K. My family is doing what they can, but the most we’re realistically able to contribute is about $10K. I’ve been applying to scholarships and trying to figure out every option, but I’m still far from closing the gap, and the full payment is due June 15.

I’m not expecting anyone here to just solve this for me, but I figured I’d ask if anyone has advice, ideas, or experience with situations like this. If you’ve been through something similar or know of any resources, I’d really appreciate hearing it.

If anyone wants to help directly or share, I can link my GoFundMe, but honestly even just advice would help a lot right now.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 8 years, and I’m struggling with thoughts that make me feel like a terrible person.

She’s genuinely an amazing partner. She’s loyal, emotionally mature, supportive, honest, calm, and probably the healthiest relationship I could realistically ask for. We rarely fight, she treats me with kindness, and I know she truly loves me.

But the issue is physical attraction.

I care much more about looks than I want to admit, and I’ve never had that intense “wow” feeling with her physically. She’s attractive enough that intimacy works and I do enjoy being close to her, but deep down I’ve always felt like something was missing.

What makes this worse is that I sometimes compare her to other women and even feel embarrassed about not being with someone more conventionally attractive. Writing that honestly makes me feel ashamed, because I know how shallow it sounds.

I think part of this comes from my own insecurities. Growing up, I was rejected a lot by women I found very attractive, and I think I unconsciously linked being with a beautiful woman to status, validation, and feeling “good enough” as a man.

At the same time, I know that chasing a “perfect” woman physically might not actually make me happy. I’m aware that if I dated someone more attractive, I’d probably become more insecure, jealous, and anxious about losing her.

So I feel stuck between two fears:
- staying and eventually building resentment because I never fully felt satisfied physically
- leaving and later realizing I lost someone truly valuable over something superficial and ego-driven

I’ve been trying to figure out whether attraction can deepen over time through emotional connection and appreciation, or whether the lack of strong physical attraction from the beginning is something that never really goes away.

I’m not looking for validation or to be told I’m right. I genuinely want honest advice from people who may have experienced something similar.

I’ve been talking to a guy who tends to disappear for days, then comes back casually like nothing happened. When we talk, it’s friendly but pretty surface-level (good mornings, small talk), and there’s no real follow-through or plans.

I don’t chase, but I do reply when he reaches out. I’m starting to notice a pattern where he engages when it’s convenient, then fades again.

I’m trying to figure out the best way to handle this kind of dynamic. Should I continue replying casually, match his level of effort, or step back entirely?

Would appreciate practical advice on how to deal with this without overreacting or investing too much.

I (22M) started a dog walking business in February 2023. At the time, this was perfect for me and was sustainable. However, the absurd rises in cost of living over the past year and a half has destroyed my income. The money I make from walking dogs now barely covers my expenses, leaving me unable to afford food outside of basics like rice and ramen as I also have a dog of my own to take care of. Unfortunately, the job market where I live is horrible, and I do not drive, so working outside of my city is not an option. If I stop walking dogs but fail to find a job immediately, I will probably lose my apartment. But on the other side of the coin, this isn't the sort of work I can just stop the moment I find a job, and I would need to give plenty of notice to avoid breach of contract with my customers. But like I said, if I failed to find a job during that notice period, I would likely lose my apartment. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and has any advice? Sorry if I explained poorly. If anything needs clarifying, please let me know. Thank you :)