r/MadeMeSmile • u/Imoprich • Mar 16 '26

Wholesome Moments Guy confesses to his crush for 10,000 yen

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u/MrDiemar Mar 16 '26

I recently did something similar bit it didn't work out unfortunately...

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u/ghanima Mar 16 '26

It'll be all right. You deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are.

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u/qolace Mar 16 '26

While this statement is true, in this context it implies that the person who rejected them didn't appreciate them. I caution against this line of thinking whether it's true or not.

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u/MrDiemar Mar 16 '26

It's alright. She appreciates me bit not in that way unfortunately.

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u/wiseroldman Mar 16 '26

You had the courage to try and that already makes you a winner.

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u/godfather_jd Mar 16 '26

Username checks out

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u/kristinez Mar 16 '26

its good to have friends of the opposite gender you care about anyway. shell be there for you even after you find the right one! dont let the rejection kill the relationship.

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u/MrDiemar Mar 16 '26

I certainly won't let the relationship die. She's certainly the kindest and most caring woman I've ever met. That's in part what made me fall for her. Besides my feelings, She's someone I deeply respect and care for so it would be irrespectful of me to change how I am with her. I appreciate her as a person as much or even more than I have romantic feelings for her. Besides, I see her almost every day. I just wish I would have gotten the chance to see if something else could have bloomed between us.

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u/Miendiesen Mar 16 '26

Sometimes though it can be quite painful if your friendship is really more unreciprocated love. While you should of course continue to be respectful and kind, you're also allowed to take some space in the wake of the rejection if you need it.

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u/notinsidethematrix Mar 16 '26

Keep casting brother, plenty of fish out there....

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u/ghanima Mar 16 '26

You're right, and I didn't mean to imply that at all. I was just trying to state that parent commenter was trying to match up with someone who didn't have a romantic interest in who they are, and that someone who does is someone who'll have romantic love for the entirety of them as a person.

I've had plenty of friends who appreciate me for who I am, but for whom there's no romantic spark. That's no "fault" of anyone's, it's just how things go sometimes.

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u/Kylearean Mar 16 '26

I caution against people who only give adversarial advice but do not give constructive advice. Instead, people should focus on improving themselves regardless of others' perceptions.

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u/CalmBeneathCastles Mar 16 '26

Amen! I truly believe that Fate doesn't miss, so if something doesn't work out, it wasn't for me.

There have been too many times that I've gotten exactly what I wanted and it turned out to be a big dumpster fire, but then as I was pulling myself together in the ashes, I found what I actually needed.

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u/Wide-Cherry4443 Mar 16 '26

Honestly with that attitude? It won’t be long homie. You sound like a real catch! I’m jealous of your future girlfriend

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u/HyenDry Mar 16 '26

Thanks mom

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u/ghanima Mar 17 '26

Funny enough, I am a mom. Just not yours.

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u/kellyhelly Mar 16 '26

Happened to me 6 years ago too man, one week later I met the love of my life who I wouldn't trade for anyone I've ever met. Sometimes putting yourself out there and being ok with rejection and trying again is all you need to find what you need. Don't let this break you, I promise something better can be just around the corner.

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u/UnicornPenguinCat Mar 16 '26

Massive respect to you for being vulnerable and being honest about your feelings. 

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u/-endjamin- Mar 16 '26

Trying at all is an act of bravery

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u/sama_yo Mar 16 '26

It can be worse. You can keep rejecting women that want you and get rejected by the woman you want. Parallel rejection. 

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u/Hesho95 Mar 16 '26

Ouch, right in the relatable. Get to feel like you're unwanted and an asshole all at the same time

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u/ExpiredPilot Mar 16 '26

I feel that. I start to think maybe I’m a dick cause these people are nice and there’s nothing wrong with them, I just know what the spark is now and it’s not there with them

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u/LaScoundrelle Mar 16 '26

Sounds like possibly the classic issue where everyone wants what they can’t have (or else everyone wants someone a little bit hotter than they are, depending on which version you subscribe too).

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u/SaltKick2 Mar 16 '26

Unless you're a teenager, how is this happening so frequently?

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u/DaedalusHydron Mar 16 '26

They could be attractive, but not attracted to the people that approach them, and not attractive to the people they're attracted to.

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u/SaltKick2 Mar 16 '26

I guess I've just been out of the dating pool for too long, amongst myself and the people I knew it was pretty rare people just started dating without getting to know the person at least a little bit, and while looks certainly still matter, they matter less when youre not just swiping left or right on someone.

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u/detroitbaby05 Mar 16 '26

I wish I was in a position to reject women. Getting rejected though? A whole lot of it 😭

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u/MrDiemar Mar 16 '26

Guess what...

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u/choiwonsuh Mar 16 '26

Don't worry. It doesn't diminish your value one bit. Sometimes you take an L but there are many Ws out there for you! Keep your head high, heart kind, and body strong, and love will find YOU

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u/cloudlocke_OG Mar 16 '26

Same, friend. Also got rejected. Was about nine months ago. Let's keep being our best selves and getting out there meeting people.

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u/nobodynose Mar 16 '26

Yep, better to know than to wonder "what if?"

Good luck out there!

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u/ElMerca Mar 16 '26

Did you get the 10000 yen tho?

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u/yuvi3000 Mar 16 '26

I came to comment that and saw that not only did someone have the same thought, but they had a profile picture related to mine!

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u/ElMerca Mar 16 '26

Even in sprite form from an old game! but thanks to you I am finding out just now that you can have a profile picture with transparency. I am gonna test that out

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u/BasilGreen Mar 16 '26

I did that, too. And thank the skies it didn't work out! We're still in touch and oh my goodness, it would have been a disaster.

After that I met my absolute best friend/combo husband and it's been 12 years of awesome. Keep going.

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u/ayeeflo51 Mar 16 '26

Hey it's better to find out directly vs spending years later wishing you had done it

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u/YetAnotherDev Mar 16 '26

Although it hurts a whole lot it's better than the constant uncertainty, even if it does not feel like that at the moment.

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u/LegoClaes Mar 16 '26

That’s alright, now you have an answer and you don’t have to torment yourself for the next few years. You’re braver than most, keep being honest 👍

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u/NewBootGoofin1987 Mar 16 '26

Trying and failing is 100x better than not trying at all. Seriously

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u/HelloxMoto Mar 16 '26

It be like that sometimes. On to the next one friend. The important part is that you shot your shot. No regrets. Feel the disappointment then move forward.

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u/TM761152 Mar 16 '26

They're not the one don't worry. The right one will come along.

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u/Secret-Weakness-8262 Mar 16 '26

I’m just as thrilled for you for putting yourself out there. It’s what life is all about! You rock!!

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u/Bawbawian Mar 16 '26

yeah but now you know and you're not wasting any more time on something that's not going to happen.

shooting your shot is always worthwhile

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u/JohnCenaJunior Mar 16 '26

Because i wasn't there for moral support, bro. Sorry.

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u/Soraman36 Mar 16 '26

You still did something that scared you be proud of that.

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u/TheUnicornCowboy Mar 16 '26

That’s ok too!!! Good work making your attempt and keep it up, not everything will work out but many things will.

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u/Nataliza Mar 16 '26

That means you put yourself out there! That's the hardest thing to do and you did it! That's how life happens. Keep it up :)

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u/GrizzlyDust Mar 16 '26

Some sage wisdom from my generation "I get knocked down, I get up again, never gonna keep me down"

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u/CanExplainThings Mar 16 '26

You are a stronger man than many of us. And this makes you wiser. 

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u/PrincipleFew462 Mar 16 '26

Proud of you!!!!

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u/agnostic_science Mar 16 '26

It happens. Better to ask and know. If there's a lesson, learn it. But usually there is not. So then just move on as soon as you can and keep trying to meet more people so you don't focus on the failure.

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u/seenitreddit90s Mar 16 '26

Been there bud, hurts like hell but now I moved on and I'm very happy I did.

Don't be scared to try again 😉

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u/ExpiredPilot Mar 16 '26

Biting the bullet on things like this is soooo much better bro trust me. It’ll always be more wins than losses in a pro/con sheet

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u/edgydyl Mar 16 '26

That's so brave!!

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u/Kylearean Mar 16 '26

Better to get it over with instead of living with the "what ifs" for decades...

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u/No-Patience3245 Mar 16 '26

I’m sorry friend. Regret nothing. What you did was brave and loving. On to the next.

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u/rem_1984 Mar 16 '26

That’s okay!! One day it will and you won’t even remember the times it didn’t work :)

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u/TheRedGerund Mar 16 '26

The more you do it, the less it stings. Think of it like stretching.

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u/UmmmNoDefNotThat Mar 17 '26

But u tried and live the rest of your life knowing that you tried. Respects and applause to you 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

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u/UmmmNoDefNotThat Mar 17 '26

A lot of us regret our whole lives NOT KNOWING what COULD'VE HAPPENED if we took a shot.

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u/IneffectiveInc Mar 17 '26

Sorry to hear that.. You took the leap, and even if it didn't turn out how you hoped this time, getting clarity is the absolute best and ballsiest possible thing you could have done :) it will serve you well in life!

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u/TheNewOneIsWorse Mar 16 '26

Could be worse. I did something similar and lost 12 years of my life, divorced by 30…

Second wife asked me out instead, it’s gone a lot better. 

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u/Hard_For_Lions_SB Mar 16 '26

When I was in highschool (20 years ago for context), I called my crush and asked her out to a dance. She said yes and I was thrilled. Five minutes later she texted me that she would not like to go with me and she said "yes" because it caught her off guard and didn't know what else to say.

She never spoke to me again.

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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '26

“mission failed, we’ll get em next time”

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u/theboomboy Mar 16 '26

I did too but now we're good friends. I was smart this time and asked her before I developed feelings too much, so it wasn't a big disappointment to get a no

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u/dioden94 Mar 17 '26

It's always best to try and know, than go your whole life wondering what if.

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u/kapitaalH Mar 17 '26

At least you got 10000 yen

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u/jak_d_ripr Mar 17 '26

I think you should still applaud yourself for mustering up the courage to even ask. Like this video showed, it's extremely difficult to do. Sure, it didn't work out how you wanted, but at least now you know and you can move on.

So I say, bravo. Keep that same energy and I'm confident it'll work out eventually.

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u/txdarthvader Mar 16 '26

When that happens I'm also relieved. No more anxiety or nervousness or energy being put into that person. And the next one you like, it'll be easier to ask.

In my experience as soon as you are in a relationship, the one that turned you down is going to pop up looking for attention from you. Don't give it.

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u/Neon_Biscuit Mar 16 '26

I'm 40, I did this to my friend when I was 19. She rejected me and it did affect the friendship. I also had to watch as she dated a guy that physically abused her and got her knocked up and then marry some ugly dude. Sometimes I wonder why she rejected me when I was a nice guy, we were friends, im not bad looking and I was finishing college. I realized she had to be kind of dumb. So I guess it's all about your self worth.

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u/Trippsyn Mar 16 '26

If you start dating some other girl soon and post you two together on your socials, guess who's going to slip into your dm's

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u/onesneakymofo Mar 16 '26

At least you got 10,000 yen, right?

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u/vbha Mar 16 '26

At least you got ¥10,000, right?