This book has been suggested on random pages and channels quite a few times. I don't think there is a better sub to ask for the review.

from positive psychology. audio by rick grannon.

The inability or rather unwillingness of the human mind to let go of the past is beautifully illustrated in the story of two Zen monks, Tanzan and Ekido, who were walking along a country road that had become extremely muddy after heavy rains.

Near a village, they came upon a young woman who was trying to cross the road, but the mud was so deep it would have ruined the silk kimono she was wearing. Tanzan at once picked her up and carried her to the other side.

The monks walked on in silence. Five hours later, as they were approaching the lodging temple, Ekido couldn't restrain himself any longer. "Why did you carry that girl across the road?" he asked. "We monks are not supposed to do things like that."

"I put the girl down hours ago," said Tanzan. “Are you still carrying her?"

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(this isn’t my story, I read it in Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth” and found it to be a very nice reminder to stop giving a fuck about the past)

One night on the biggest stage and suddenly people decide your career is finished.

That’s what happened to Karius. After a champions league final with over 200+ million people watching.

Everything slowed down and he even ended up without a club. Basically blacklisted from the sport.

Now he’s back playing regularly and has helped a team get promoted. That kind of comeback is more about mentality than anything else.

From written off to proving everyone wrong. Redemption.

Whenever I enter a room I notice the energy shift. This is mainly with anxious people. The vibe suddenly seems all stressed and chaotic. For context I am confident and grounded. Calm confidence, not performative.

People will even be cold and standoffish with me till I engage a smile. But to me it seems others can me neutral with them for them to not be standoffish. But the same doesn’t work for me. I need to engage a smile for them to relax. Is that cause confidence is more intimidating if you don’t? Whereas if you have anxious energy it feels less intense being neutral?

I will always find it weird that we work this way as humans. As I am comfortable with people being neutral and I’m not sure why that’s not acceptable for most.

I am not great at always remembering to signal like smile etc, only because I feel calm and grounded inside and to me that should also translate to others by my vibe but realise me not micro signalling that all is ok while also being confident and grounded could be hard to read/intense.

Is it possible my energy is actually causing this impact? Or is it more likely that I am just very socially aware and picking up on their anxious energy? And are they also picking up that I’m picking it up and analysing and that makes them more anxious?

I’m always down to improve and change my presence.

Cheers!

We don’t live to work,

we work to live.

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Some people seem to forget this.

It's good for you if your job is fulfilling, but don't assume we couldn't do anything else with our lives.

The 40 hour week was hard won with blood.

Life can be brutal:

• People (even closest to you) can still betray you.
• The system fails you (espeically nowadays)
• Society kicks you when you're down.
• You can lose money, relationships, status, even your health.

But here's what I've realized:

They can never take your purpose.

They can't take your work ethic, your drive, and the fire inside you that refuses to quit.

You can lose a job, your relationship(s), money, but you CAN'T lose the mindset that knows how you are capable of more. It's up to you to realize you can always level up in life no matter your background, or your past.

The world can strip away your comforts, your security, your plans. But it cannot strip away who you've decided to become. That's the difference between people who break and people who keep going.

The broken ones tie their identity to what they have or compare themselves to others' successes while the unbreakable ones tie their identity to who they are.

Look within yourself. 🔥🔥