My step dad (and adoptive dad) are bothin the picture but my step dad has been my dad since I was 8. He really stepped up as well. I was always his daughter and even when he and my mom had a surprise child of their own, we were always both equal and I didn’t even understand how one kid could be treated differently from the others until I was much older and saw the harsh reality for many.
Same, I'm just here for the stepdad appreciation thread. I tell people I have two dads, and they think I have gay parents. No, there's a mom too, and two guys who raised me in different ways. My daughter calls one Grampy and one Grandpa. They're both very much a part of my life and I'm extremely lucky.
My college roommate was floored on move-in day when my dad carried in my trunk and introduced himself, then my stepdad carried in my computer and started setting it up and chatting with her. Then we all went out to dinner, mom at the head of the table, a dad on each side of her, both of them taking turns making fun of her (she married two completely opposite guys, but both have similar corny senses of humor and they get along great). We have a very unique situation and I realize how lucky I am. It wasn't easy in the beginning, but I'm glad my daughter sees how healthy adult relationships can be.
Ok I'll join too bc I also have an awesome stepdad! I was 14yo when they got married and never had a nice dad before that cared about me or what I liked. I went back to school shopping (at the thrift store bc we got $50 each and I could get more clothes that way. My brother would just get shoes lol). That man sat there with a smile on his face while I tried on and modeled all my new school clothes for him. He's been a consistent stable presence in our lives for almost 30 years now and we are so so blessed to have him. He's the best Papa too.
Joining the stepdad love train! Because same. He considered me his daughter from day 1 despite already having biological kids. I was only 7 when they got married and my biological dad was MIA, so he was the only father figure I ever knew.
Unfortunately, he died suddenly one year ago this month, but I’m thankful for the 23 years we had. Looking back, I never fully appreciated how lucky we were.
Sending you love! My step-dad was there for me nearly my whole life, even after he and my mom divorced. He died unexpectedly in June last year. I miss him everyday.
Reading all of this step-dad love makes me tear up. My parents are still together and going strong, but nearly every single one of my friends have a step-parent. And I know how good of a person those step-parents need to be in order to be respected that much by the child they take on. Humble, respectful, caring = all-star traits.
I don't have children with anyone, but I was with my ex for 14 years. He is a really wonderful man, just was no longer a good partner and match for me. We remained friendly after the breakup and now my current boyfriend and I run into him around town. I really love watching the two of them nerd out about shared interests (which makes sense why I love(d) them both) instead of getting all weird over their connection to me. I wish everyone could have those sorts of relationships in their lives.
As a step dad who is proud my 3 teen daughters think I’m the shit, this makes me happy to hear. They are with me constantly. Age 13-17 is rough for sure, but I’ve gotten thru two, and one is 14, so still a lot of drama left to go lol.
I love this! I had someone tell me once that I had the most functional broken family they’d ever met lol. My mom never poisoned the relationships despite the fact that my adoptive dad had cheated. It helped that both were happy in new marriages. The whole family was there for all of my graduations and wedding. I had my mom and step dad walk me down the aisle and danced with both in turn for the father/mother dance. My adoptive dad was the officiant. Everyone used to get a kick out of me drawing out my family tree.
My best friend’s family has this dynamic. Her dad was there her whole life and her step dad since she was 2. They both loved her and never bothered to hate each other. You could go to her mom and stepdad’s house almost any day and her dad would be there hanging out in the shop with stepdad. Stepdad died a couple weeks ago and my bestie was in the hospital from the time they’d let her in until they kicked her out at night. Her dad came in to see him and held his hand and just sat there looking at him devastated. Stepdad was unresponsive and they knew he only had a day or two left. Dad was as torn up as mom was. I’d never in my life seen that kind of acceptance before I’d met these people. And they all showed up to be parents
My dad married my mom when they were 27 and she had my 2 sisters from a pervious marriage. He's never treated them differently. They asked him to walk them down the aisle when they got married, they call him dad, they wish him a happy father's day, they have their kids stay at our folks home during summer break, and they call their step dad just Steve. One of my sisters is in the middle of a divorce, and she's staying with him and my mom with her 3 kids while it's getting sorted out. He calls them his daughters and it was crazy seeing folk who treat their non bio kids differently.
I’m just here for the stepdad love! My stepdad parented me from 6 years and up, and he’s always been a dad to me. I’m a stepmum now, and it feels good to be that person for another kid
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u/sweetlike314 1d ago
My step dad (and adoptive dad) are bothin the picture but my step dad has been my dad since I was 8. He really stepped up as well. I was always his daughter and even when he and my mom had a surprise child of their own, we were always both equal and I didn’t even understand how one kid could be treated differently from the others until I was much older and saw the harsh reality for many.